*Updated - My wife's sister just told me that I am less intelligent than her husband.

[dust]

Yeah, yeah yeah, but where's that sandwich

 

[alkemyst]

I'm not doing a Ph.D. in marketing.

But the average starting pay for a Ph.D. in marking who does math-modeling is 160k.

Has the syphilis you got by cheating on your wife has finally gotten to your brain? Every time you question the insane pay starting business professors make I provide proof and you run away like you've been emasculated. I think all those 'roids have shrunk your balls to the size of M&Ms.
http://www.docsig.org/index.php/who-went-were/who-went-where-and-salary-surveys

http://www.docsig.org/index.php/stu...and-salary-surveys/file/4-who-went-where-2011

BTW I was off, the math-modeling guys are making 174 to fing start.

What's the ranges? I can hand pick 20 CCNP's that would show a median around $120k 'starting'.

The problem you will have is no one is going to take someone living on assistance and just taking some classes here and there and throw them into a responsible role. If you pull it off in the first 5-10 years consider it winning the lottery on our dime.

 

[AreaCode707]

"Then I guess we balance out because your sister's smarter than you."

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I'd still tell her he shoots blanks.

 

[crashtestdummy]

This thread is hilarious.

I have no idea if your sister-in-law's husband is smarter than you. I can tell you that as a physical science grad student that having a PhD doesn't mean you're smart. It just means you're willing to put yourself through five years of hazing.

I will say, though, that being bothered by this comment tells me you have some serious insecurity issues. Of course the woman wants to think she married the smartest person in the world. She was drunk, probably feeling a bit insecure for some reason, and said something stupid. If I got pissed off anytime someone said something like that I wouldn't have any friends anymore.

 

[ChopperDave]

It's totally unacceptable that your sister let this slide. It's totally unacceptable that everyone lets her behavior slide. The "oh that's just how he/she is" mentality is responsible for hundreds of thousands of uncorrected assholes walking the planet. It all started when the asshole's family decided to just accept the poor behavior. I have an in law who is the cheapest man you'll ever meet, but "that's just how he is." People still buy him a round or a lunch or whatever. He'll always be cheap and will never reciprocate because he doesn't have to. Similarly your sister in law will always be a hag because nothing better is expected of her.

That leads me to my recommendation. Next time she makes a comment like this, even if it isn't to you, just say "it's sad that comments like that don't surprise your family and that they never required more of you."

In the meantime, I really like the idea of isolating a feature and picking at it. It needs to be real but insignificant. It needs to be real because it will be far more effective if it's something she's noticed about herself before. It needs to be insignificant so you don't come off as a crass bastard. Remember the standards to which you're held are much higher than hers. You must adhere to them.

"A friend of mine has bags under her eyes too. She uses some special cream but I don't know if it helps."

As a last ditch effort there's no question that comparing her to her sister will send her into a mental frenzy. Someone who makes such a comment to you is obviously very insecure and is trying to use her husband's accomplishments to bolster her self image in relation to how she sees her sister. So if you don't like my first recommendation just go with that the next time she embarrasses you.

Her: "My husband is smarter than you because (?)"
You: "Your sister is classier and more elegant than you because she doesn't make statements like that. She also knows when to set the sauce down so she doesn't turn into a drunken boor."

 

[monk3y]

This thread is hilarious.

I will say, though, that being bothered by this comment tells me you have some serious insecurity issues.

I'm pretty sure it's the fact that I graduated with a 2.6 GPA during my undergrad pretty much ensuring that I will not ever attend any graduate program.

I really wasn't mature at all when I got my degree and looking back, I feel like I wasted a wealth of potential growth and opportunity.

 

[ChopperDave]

My usual comeback if someone insults me is "Oh, that's probably true." They don't know what to say after that. People throw out insults because they want to get under your skin. It's not enough to ignore it, because they still think they made you angry. Agreeing with a smile demonstrates you are not bothered.

I like this. Only the worst of the worst are immune to guilt. Agreeing with such a statement completely sucks the air out of the room. Her statement and your response will be left just sitting there for everyone to reflect upon. Not only will you avoid appearing upset and offended, but you'll probably trigger a guilt reflex.

 

[ShawnD1]

I like this. Only the worst of the worst are immune to guilt. Agreeing with such a statement completely sucks the air out of the room. Her statement and your response will be left just sitting there for everyone to reflect upon. Not only will you avoid appearing upset and offended, but you'll probably trigger a guilt reflex.

That's a trick from that How To Win Friends book. People are more eager to agree with you if you agree with them, even if you know they are wrong. If someone says AMD processors are the best, agree that they are the best, then say why you picked an Intel processor. Saying "no, you're wrong" makes them less likely to want to hear you out.

Some of the worst damage you can do to someone is with a smile and seemingly innocent comments. "Yeah, he probably is smarter than me. I enjoy the simple things in life. Nothing makes me happier than spending time with my wife and son."

 

[momeNt]

After seeing the update. I pretty much called it. She resents her man's beta status. Women instinctively judge a man by their masculinity and ability to impregnate them, they also look at things that provide shelter in our current socioeconomic climate such as job stability and salary, but their instinct draws them towards powerful masculine men. Yes the man with the phd has a nice beard, but her inability to get pregnant has left her filled with resentment towards her choice of mate, and she feels the need to lash out because she is a hateful wise and beautiful woman.

 

[darkewaffle]

lol he has a marketing degree and you have a math degree and you're worried he's smarter

though the fact you actually give a crap does seem to lend support to it

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Some of the worst damage you can do to someone is with a smile and seemingly innocent comments.

Yep.

"Yeah, he probably is smarter than me. I enjoy the simple things in life. Nothing makes me happier than spending time with my wife and son. Oh, by the way, how is your family coming along?"

FTFY

 

[IronWing]

Option F: Hand in your man card for letting this bother you.

 

[ChopperDave]

Option F: Hand in your man card for letting this bother you.

I think it's fair to be bothered by something like this. In laws are people you have to live with nearly day in and day out. If one of them is constantly cutting you down even the nicest of people will eventually reach their boiling point. Similarly we all have our insecurities. Our OP is insecure/regretful about the 2.6GPA behind his degree. His sister in law seized the opportunity to use it against him. It's quite understandable that anyone might take that personally. The level of retribution called for if any is debatable but it's fair to be bothered by the situation.

 

[JimKiler]

If it happens again the retort to use is:

"What do you call a doctor who only got C's in medical school? The answer is Doctor."

This will trivialize the degrees your SIL's husband has.

Yes the OP should not let this bother him but we all have this happen by certain people or situations.

 

[JulesMaximus]

That's a trick from that How To Win Friends book. People are more eager to agree with you if you agree with them, even if you know they are wrong. If someone says AMD processors are the best, agree that they are the best, then say why you picked an Intel processor. Saying "no, you're wrong" makes them less likely to want to hear you out.

Some of the worst damage you can do to someone is with a smile and seemingly innocent comments. "Yeah, he probably is smarter than me. I enjoy the simple things in life. Nothing makes me happier than spending time with my wife and son."

If you liked that book you should pick up a copy of 'Raising Gangsters for Fun and Profit'. :thumbsup:

 

[BurnItDwn]

I think your issue is that beards look smarter than gotees.

 

[Kelvrick]

So OP, how well do you get along with the husband? Is he a cool guy and just the SIL is a bitch?

 

[OutHouse]

OP your wife needs to defend you. last month my wifes aunts were in town. i have not seen one of her aunts in about 7 years so when i got home from work i said Hi, and she immediatly insults me. no hi or hello or nice to see you,,, she fucking insults me in my home. i just look at her, turn around and walk out. my wife was there, heard it and told her aunt to see herself out.

I have no idea wtf i did. ive never had a problem with her and was shocked and kinda hurt that she felt the need to insult. so fuck her she is never welcome in my house again. my wife is in total agreement and let her side of the family know why she was asked to leave.

 

[ChopperDave]

OP your wife needs to defend you. last month my wifes aunts were in town. i have not seen one of her aunts in about 7 years so when i got home from work i said Hi, and she immediatly insults me. no hi or hello or nice to see you,,, she fucking insults me in my home. i just look at her, turn around and walk out. my wife was there, heard it and told her aunt to see herself out.

I have no idea wtf i did. ive never had a problem with her and was shocked and kinda hurt that she felt the need to insult. so fuck her she is never welcome in my house again. my wife is in total agreement and let her side of the family know why she was asked to leave.

What did she say?

 

[OutHouse]

i had no idea Columbia offered PHd. in marketing...

 

[vshah]

how is this even an issue?

 

[Farmer]

i had no idea Columbia offered PHd. in marketing...

I'm sure it's a business school Ph.D. I don't think its called "a Ph.D. in Marketing."

 

[Dari]

What the fuck do you do with a PhD in marketing? If he isn't some huge ad exec his degree is worthless.

BTW, about 90% of people who go to Columbia = weirdo. I know a lot of Columbia grads, they are almost all freaks.

How are Columbia grads freaks?

 

[OutHouse]

I'm sure it's a business school Ph.D. I don't think its called "a Ph.D. in Marketing."

yup, you are probably right.