*Updated - My wife's sister just told me that I am less intelligent than her husband.

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What should I do...

  • Tell her he's obviously not as intelligent as me because I wouldn't have married a bitch like her.

  • Ignore it like her family does.

  • Try and talk to her constructively and see where the hostility is coming from.

  • Just avoid her whenever possible.


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IndyColtsFan

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UPDATE: Well I talked to my wife a little more about it... She was pretty much shocked that it still bothered me. She then told me that her sister has been trying to get pregnant for quite a while now (I really had no idea since they're both ~35, I figured they were just career oriented and didn't want kids.) My wife and I had a little one last September.

Not sure how what she said made her feel better but if it did, I no longer have an issue with it. As for why it bothered me to begin with? It's probably because I only have a Mathematics BS.

BTW his PhD is in Marketing.

LOL! A PhD in Marketing -- now that is rich!

If she says it to you again, say "Oh yeah? I heard he shoots blanks!"
 

fstime

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UPDATE: Well I talked to my wife a little more about it... She was pretty much shocked that it still bothered me. She then told me that her sister has been trying to get pregnant for quite a while now (I really had no idea since they're both ~35, I figured they were just career oriented and didn't want kids.) My wife and I had a little one last September.

Not sure how what she said made her feel better but if it did, I no longer have an issue with it. As for why it bothered me to begin with? It's probably because I only have a Mathematics BS.

BTW his PhD is in Marketing.




It was a statement made when she was drunk but I'm not one that excuses nonsense like this because of alcohol.

She justified the statement by bringing up the fact that he has a doctorate degree from Columbia.

While I have no way to refute the claim or prove anything contrary, I simply don't think it is in proper form and am quite shocked that it was said with at least 10 other people around. At the time I simply walked away.

It's been a few days since the incident and I am still bothered by it. She is known for making statements like this and when anyone confronts her, everyone else pretty much says it's "her being her."

I'm at a loss for what to do especially because I will be with my wife's family for a two week vacation soon.

lol, women are GREAT at getting in your head. Ever watch Dane Cook's standup, brain ninjas.

I would be just as shocked as your wife if you brought up such nonsense about some silly comment days later.

At the end of the day, you need to grow a sack and get over it princess. If you get upset over every snide comment, expect to start losing your hair soon. Brush it off and move on, looking for some sort of "comeback" just proves to her that she succeeded at getting in your head.
 
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Miramonti

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Haha.

Your wife is hotter and you're better looking. No question there.

Your sister-in-law looks disdainful and the dude looks unhappy. There's hidden issues there. She looks like a total wise and beautiful woman fwiw. An expression is all it takes to see she's a ball of angst.

If you want to get under her skin, always act HAPPY around them. And that you're so happy with life that you're going to get her sister pregnant again. :thumbsup: LMAO.

The picture is quite a study, isn't it?

OP and wife seem like good looking, happy, nice, thankful people...the SIL and BIL found it difficult to smile at the camera and just don't look comfortable in their own skin like OP and wife. Each appear to be unsettled and uncomfortable, as if a mid-life crisis is taking grip, and neither looks particularly 'connected' to the other, unlike the OP and his wife who are much warmer people and warmer next to each other.

Not trying to read in too much in one pic, but it seems the contrast caught in this photo between the couples is dramatic in more ways than one.

And I agree...be HAPPY. Not out of spite, but out of appreciation for where you're at in life with your wife and newborn...things look great.

p.s. I also think there is some big-sis/little-sis dynamic or rivalry going on here which has possibly existed between these girls all their lives, atleast in the older sis' mind.
 
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KK

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in some nonchalant way, plant the seed that her highly intelligent husband settled for her. kinda like bring up you don't know why he would marry her.
 

Hugo Drax

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The picture is quite a study, isn't it?

OP and wife seem like good looking, happy, nice, thankful people...the SIL and BIL found it difficult to smile at the camera and just don't look comfortable in their own skin like OP and wife. Each appear to be unsettled and uncomfortable, as if a mid-life crisis is taking grip, and neither looks particularly 'connected' to the other, unlike the OP and his wife who are much warmer people and warmer next to each other.

Not trying to read in too much in one pic, but it seems the contrast caught in this photo between the couples is dramatic in more ways than one.

And I agree...be HAPPY. Not out of spite, but out of appreciation for where you're at in life with your wife and newborn...things look great.

p.s. I also think there is some big-sis/little-sis dynamic or rivalry going on here which has possibly existed between these girls all their lives, atleast in the older sis' mind.

I have to agree, the picture says it all. I would not worry about it.
 

child of wonder

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UPDATE: Well I talked to my wife a little more about it... She was pretty much shocked that it still bothered me. She then told me that her sister has been trying to get pregnant for quite a while now (I really had no idea since they're both ~35, I figured they were just career oriented and didn't want kids.) My wife and I had a little one last September.

Not sure how what she said made her feel better but if it did, I no longer have an issue with it. As for why it bothered me to begin with? It's probably because I only have a Mathematics BS.

BTW his PhD is in Marketing.

lol

I have only an Associate's degree and earn a six figure income but I must be a moron because I never got a Bachelor's degree or a PhD.

Education does not equal IQ or intelligence.
 

LegendKiller

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What the fuck do you do with a PhD in marketing? If he isn't some huge ad exec his degree is worthless.

BTW, about 90% of people who go to Columbia = weirdo. I know a lot of Columbia grads, they are almost all freaks.
 

Farmer

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BTW his PhD is in Marketing.

What is this I don't even

He has a Ph.D. from the business school at Columbia. That's definitely not trivial. I don't know why you make it sound so retarded.
 

Dr. Zaus

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Don Draper is far too smart to waste so much time with a such a worthless "PhD."

For some it's a degree in applied psychology (consumer behavior); for others its a degree in stochastic economic modeling.

Whatever it is, it's not worthless: it's a monstrous degree used to conduct research that creates societal WMDs.

and it pays new assistant-profs 120k to start.

A math dude or marketing dude.
the math-modeling guys in marketing tend to have been math/engineering undergrad.
(through real-analysis is a minimum to get in)

What the fuck do you do with a PhD in marketing? If he isn't some huge ad exec his degree is worthless.
You conduct marketing research you are interested in and, out of Columbia, get paid 160k to start and teach one course a semester.

160k for 30 weeks of having to be somewhere, at most, 10 hours a week

Sweet fucking gig.
 

alkemyst

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For some it's a degree in applied psychology (consumer behavior); for others its a degree in stochastic economic modeling.

Whatever it is, it's not worthless: it's a monstrous degree used to conduct research that creates societal WMDs.

and it pays new assistant-profs 120k to start.

the math-modeling guys in marketing tend to have been math/engineering undergrad.
(through real-analysis is a minimum to get in)


You conduct marketing research you are interested in and, out of Columbia, get paid 160k to start and teach one course a semester.

160k for 30 weeks of having to be somewhere, at most, 10 hours a week

Sweet fucking gig.

so now you will be making not $120k but $160k when you graduate? lolz
 

Dr. Zaus

Lifer
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so now you will be making not $120k but $160k when you graduate? lolz

I'm not doing a Ph.D. in marketing.

But the average starting pay for a Ph.D. in marking who does math-modeling is 160k.

Has the syphilis you got by cheating on your wife has finally gotten to your brain? Every time you question the insane pay starting business professors make I provide proof and you run away like you've been emasculated. I think all those 'roids have shrunk your balls to the size of M&Ms.
http://www.docsig.org/index.php/who-went-were/who-went-where-and-salary-surveys

http://www.docsig.org/index.php/stu...and-salary-surveys/file/4-who-went-where-2011

16axu8k.jpg


BTW I was off, the math-modeling guys are making 174 to fing start.
 
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HamburgerBoy

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At first I was laughing at the op because that kind of comment would literally make me laugh (not necessarily because I was scoffing at it), but there are certain things would irk me to be called out on, so maybe the op is just sensitive about how his intelligence is perceived. And lol @ all the people trying to quantify which of the two is in fact smarter, as if that really changes the situation at all.
 

Farmer

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DixyCrat:

I agree with what you are saying, but I don't think you should downplay the stress of being an Assistant Professor.

Yes, you will make six figures.

No, it is not an easy job. Any time you are not in lecture or preparing for lecture, you are writing proposals, writing papers, reading papers, reviewing papers, attending conferences, giving seminars, constantly.

Once you're tenured, what DixyCrat describes is fairly accurate. But it is a very long road to tenure. People do not go into academia for money, I guarantee you that.
 

RampantAndroid

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http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/monk3y/IMG_2334.JPG

I'm the indian guy, my wife is next to me... my child is being held by her sister and so forth.

I'm with Indy Colts Fan: not knowing the guy, he looks full of himself. I can see where this comes from with her making the comment, if I can judge someone by a photo. You OK with him? Just not her?

Personally, I'd just avoid her. If your wife knows it bothered (bothers?) you, she might say something to her sister, she might not...and avoiding is the best option either way.
 

Dr. Zaus

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I agree with what you are saying, but I don't think you should downplay the stress of being an Assistant Professor.

Yes, you will make six figures.

No, it is not an easy job. Any time you are not in lecture or preparing for lecture, you are writing proposals, writing papers, reading papers, reviewing papers, attending conferences, giving seminars, constantly.

Once you're tenured, what DixyCrat describes is fairly accurate. But it is a very long road to tenure. People do not go into academia for money, I guarantee you that.
No doubt. I think someone going for tenure at a top institution is probably going to keep up a Ph.D. student pace until tenure.

Hell, my mentor's been a full prof forever and he keeps up his productivity like he's a mad man.

Further, yes, even the finance and accounting guys (that get paid significantly better than marketing and my field) still make significantly better in industry.

That said the poor communications folks make next to nothing and have to work just as hard for their tenure.
 
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Phoenix86

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I'm not doing a Ph.D. in marketing.

But the average starting pay for a Ph.D. in marking who does math-modeling is 160k.

Has the syphilis you got by cheating on your wife has finally gotten to your brain? Every time you question the insane pay starting business professors make I provide proof and you run away like you've been emasculated. I think all those 'roids have shrunk your balls to the size of M&Ms.
http://www.docsig.org/index.php/who-went-were/who-went-where-and-salary-surveys

http://www.docsig.org/index.php/stu...and-salary-surveys/file/4-who-went-where-2011

16axu8k.jpg


BTW I was off, the math-modeling guys are making 174 to fing start.
A+

Would read again. :thumbsup:
 

Ventanni

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Wheel of morality, turn turn turn. Tell us a lesson that we should learn.

1. Don't take the comments from drunk women seriously. I'm normally a no-drama type of guy, but even I've said regretful things while under the influence.

2. I've met quite a few people with high level degrees, and some (read, not all!) loooovvveeee to hold it over your head that they have a master's degree or some bullcrap that you don't.

I once went out on a date with this girl, right? The conversation went something like this:

Me - "Hey, how are you?"
Her - "I'm good! Nice to meet you. What do you do for a living?"
Me - "I work escalations for a major internet company."
Her - "Oh, did you go to school for that?"
Me - "No, actually I have my degree in massage therapy."
Her - "So you don't have a degree?"
Me - "I do actually..."
Her - I have a master's degree in library science."
Me - "So you work at a library."
Her - "Yes."
Me - "So we both make the same amount of money, only you spent six figures getting yourself self a useless degree, and you have the gall to hold it over my head?"

While I respect her for getting herself a degree in a field she actually works in, which is admittedly something I never did, needless to say that was the last time we ever went out.

3. I bet the said dude with the PhD in marketing is actually pretty cool, and probably wouldn't say something stupid like, "Oh I have a PhD and you don't."

Besides, anyone who says either they or someone else is smarter than you are is probably too stupid to argue with in the first place. That's what 5 year olds say to each other, not adults.
 

clamum

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Is this a troll post, or something? If not, you're fucking seriously giving more than about a half second of thought to this? Good fuckin lord, who gives a shit!?
 

Mxylplyx

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Your metric is broken...or ignorant.

Anyone in-the-know would side with the mathematician based on such "metrics".

Who would a hedge fund hire? A math dude or marketing dude. Who are the people with the huge Wall St. paychecks?....It ain't marketing dudes. LOL. (personal experience talking here)

As I said, I didnt read the thread.
 

Anonemous

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There's a PhD in marketing? Don't you just go work for a marketing company or something to get experience?
 

Ancalagon44

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For what its worth, your wife is hotter than her sister. Make sure the SIL knows that at every opportunity.

Crack jokes like, "Well I know who got all the good looking genes, and it sure wasnt you!", follow up with a loud fake laugh.