Grasshopper27
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I figured this could use a new topic, because the situation had changed so much. The original thread is here.
Update...
She left about an hour ago, she has to go to work tonight...
We had a great talk today, we slept in until 10am (this is late for us), then we had breakfast and talked for 5 hours...
Wow, talk about enlightening, we needed this talk. Yes, she was secretly scared about my flying, she just didn't want to say anything. Yes. she was freaked out by the idea of my flying again the very next day, but didn't want to say anything. She was afraid that if she tried to come between me and my flying, I wouldn't want her anymore. I assured her that wasn't true, and that while flying was indeed my life, she was still more important. The concern I expressed is that she might try and force me to quit flying, and I didn't feel that would be fair. I asked her if working for another company would make a difference, she said, "maybe if they didn't fly 20 year old piles of junk!".
Now that JetRanger isn't really a pile of junk, nothing worth nearly a half million bucks can ever be called "junk". 🙂 But her point is valid... I think we can compromise here, but it does mean I'm going to have to find a new place to work, some place that flies newer/safer equipment.
None of that is really the big news... (saved the best for last)
The BIG surprise... I asked her flat out what she was expecting from me in 5 months when her lease is up. She replied, "well, I figure you probably want to make more of a commitment". I said, "yes, that is true, but what exactly are you expecting, honestly?" She replied, "honestly, I thought you were going to ask me to marry you".
I was speechless, I didn't know what to say. It must have been obvious because she quickly said, "oh no, you don't have to, I just thought you might, don't freak out on me!". I said "no, I'm not freaked out". She said, "liar, I can see it in your eyes, you're freaked!"
Ok, so I was/am...
So I told her my master plan, about how I was going to ask her to move in with me for a year, then I'd pop the question. She replied that she wouldn't be comfortable living with me if we were not engaged, which puzzled me because she seemed open to the idea of moving in with me, that much we had talked about, at least some. She said sure, but she was assuming that meant I was going to pop the question too...
I asked how long she wanted to be engaged for, she said for a year. I said, "so, come April you want to get engaged, move in, and get married sometime in Spring 2004?" She simply said, "yes, that is what I want".
Again, I was speechless... She jumped back in and said, "but if that isn't what you want, tell me, I don't want to scare you away, if this is too soon, say so, we can take it slower".
I honestly don't see a need for slower, that sounded like a good plan. So next April, we are officialy getting engaged and she is moving in, then the following year, we'll get married. 😀
She did say she wanted me to do it all official like, I needed to get her an engagement ring and be really romanic with the proposal. She also wanted the timing to be a surprise, so sometime in the month or so before her lease is up... This gives me 4 months to think up some really romanic way to propose! (err, ideas are always welcome)
We haven't told our parents yet, but I'm sure her Mom will her about this tonight. My Mom is out of the country right now, but she'll be back soon enough...
This feels like the right thing to do, the right plan. It seems weird, mostly because I always figured it somehow was going to be a surprise. I wanted to do something special for her, but I guess making it really a surprise is nearly impossible. 😛
Just thought I'd post an update, you guys were really great last night, you helped calm me down and keep my head on my shoulders... I was really freaked out last night... You were also right that I was far more affected by the near crash than I thought. We talked about that today as well and I think it bothered me, mostly because I knew that engine was due for a replacement but kept flying it because, well, my boss told me to. 🙁
I'm going to take a few weeks off from flying, my boss was not happy about this morning, but I said that after the near crash, I wasn't medicaly fit to fly and I could get an AME to say so if she wasn't convinced. I told her I needed a week or two off to recover, she said I could have some time, but it would be unpaid, and the longer I waited the less chance there would be of a job waiting for me when I come back. So I suppose I am without a job right now...
I don't care, Thumper wants to marry me, she loves me, that is all that matters...
🙂
*Big group hug to everyone*
Grasshopper
Update...
She left about an hour ago, she has to go to work tonight...
We had a great talk today, we slept in until 10am (this is late for us), then we had breakfast and talked for 5 hours...
Wow, talk about enlightening, we needed this talk. Yes, she was secretly scared about my flying, she just didn't want to say anything. Yes. she was freaked out by the idea of my flying again the very next day, but didn't want to say anything. She was afraid that if she tried to come between me and my flying, I wouldn't want her anymore. I assured her that wasn't true, and that while flying was indeed my life, she was still more important. The concern I expressed is that she might try and force me to quit flying, and I didn't feel that would be fair. I asked her if working for another company would make a difference, she said, "maybe if they didn't fly 20 year old piles of junk!".
Now that JetRanger isn't really a pile of junk, nothing worth nearly a half million bucks can ever be called "junk". 🙂 But her point is valid... I think we can compromise here, but it does mean I'm going to have to find a new place to work, some place that flies newer/safer equipment.
None of that is really the big news... (saved the best for last)
The BIG surprise... I asked her flat out what she was expecting from me in 5 months when her lease is up. She replied, "well, I figure you probably want to make more of a commitment". I said, "yes, that is true, but what exactly are you expecting, honestly?" She replied, "honestly, I thought you were going to ask me to marry you".
I was speechless, I didn't know what to say. It must have been obvious because she quickly said, "oh no, you don't have to, I just thought you might, don't freak out on me!". I said "no, I'm not freaked out". She said, "liar, I can see it in your eyes, you're freaked!"
Ok, so I was/am...
So I told her my master plan, about how I was going to ask her to move in with me for a year, then I'd pop the question. She replied that she wouldn't be comfortable living with me if we were not engaged, which puzzled me because she seemed open to the idea of moving in with me, that much we had talked about, at least some. She said sure, but she was assuming that meant I was going to pop the question too...
I asked how long she wanted to be engaged for, she said for a year. I said, "so, come April you want to get engaged, move in, and get married sometime in Spring 2004?" She simply said, "yes, that is what I want".
Again, I was speechless... She jumped back in and said, "but if that isn't what you want, tell me, I don't want to scare you away, if this is too soon, say so, we can take it slower".
I honestly don't see a need for slower, that sounded like a good plan. So next April, we are officialy getting engaged and she is moving in, then the following year, we'll get married. 😀
She did say she wanted me to do it all official like, I needed to get her an engagement ring and be really romanic with the proposal. She also wanted the timing to be a surprise, so sometime in the month or so before her lease is up... This gives me 4 months to think up some really romanic way to propose! (err, ideas are always welcome)
We haven't told our parents yet, but I'm sure her Mom will her about this tonight. My Mom is out of the country right now, but she'll be back soon enough...
This feels like the right thing to do, the right plan. It seems weird, mostly because I always figured it somehow was going to be a surprise. I wanted to do something special for her, but I guess making it really a surprise is nearly impossible. 😛
Just thought I'd post an update, you guys were really great last night, you helped calm me down and keep my head on my shoulders... I was really freaked out last night... You were also right that I was far more affected by the near crash than I thought. We talked about that today as well and I think it bothered me, mostly because I knew that engine was due for a replacement but kept flying it because, well, my boss told me to. 🙁
I'm going to take a few weeks off from flying, my boss was not happy about this morning, but I said that after the near crash, I wasn't medicaly fit to fly and I could get an AME to say so if she wasn't convinced. I told her I needed a week or two off to recover, she said I could have some time, but it would be unpaid, and the longer I waited the less chance there would be of a job waiting for me when I come back. So I suppose I am without a job right now...
I don't care, Thumper wants to marry me, she loves me, that is all that matters...
🙂
*Big group hug to everyone*
Grasshopper
