"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Just remember that for the future. Good luck otherwise.
Just remember that for the future. Good luck otherwise.
make sure she wears a female condom, and you wear one too. last thing you want is to get saber toothed crotch crickets
Better it is to love and feel pain then never to love and feel nothing. (that's a cheesy ripoff from a half dozen quotes) But it's true. If he learns the hard way, in a year, that she hasn't changed, then he'll break it off and learn from it. It's the way life goes, and he'll be the better for it.
I have to agree with ffmcobalt on this one. While... my every inclination is to say dump her... but I have been where lilcam is before, at a point where he believes he can work it out. More power to him.
Love can do some amazing things (insert cheesy theme music here)... with time, grace, and honesty... who knows? I've met healthy, mature, adult couples (and teenage ones) who have recovered from infidelity. It takes an unimaginable amount of effort and patience, but it can be done.
Good luck, and let us know how it works out.
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Are you sure you really want to be with this person? There's a lot of negative here, and I don't recall hearing much positive. Do you want to be with her for who she is, or because you're afraid to be alone? (I apologize for getting personal, and by no means do you have to answer the question; just think about it..)
Think about this.. please. It's an important factor to consider, one that's not easy to think about, especially when you're doing it on your own.
Damn, I still say dump her. And take back that ring and try and get a refund. See how she likes it. That's what cheating b!tches like her deserve. $10 says she'll do it again.
-- mrcodedude
-- mrcodedude
Geekbabe
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I gotta tell you that after thinking about this I am rather shocked and amazed that anybody would post
about such a situation complete with constant updates.I can see possibly consulting your friends via email
pm or aim but this ? The person you need to be talking to is your g/friend,not us
about such a situation complete with constant updates.I can see possibly consulting your friends via email
pm or aim but this ? The person you need to be talking to is your g/friend,not us
Well if you have to check up on her or threaten to check up on her then you have no relationship. My advice to you is the same as it was in the other thread- Kick her to the curb and move on. You are setting yourself up for a whole bunch of unnecessary misery.
Geekbabe
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I dunno, seems to me like the girl hasn't got things too good herself... she's got so called "good friends"
and a "boyfriend" who all seem to have dirreahea of the mouth...
If a guy I was going with ever humilated us both by airing our private business like this on so public
a forum he wouldn't have to agonize over the status of our relationship as I'd dump him like a hot rock.
Geekbabe
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Originally posted by: baffled2
I NEVER score zero dude, you best sit down now and be quiet, the adults are out and about
Ditto.
<--- wins his own points, ignores Red Dawn's comments.
flexy
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another problem i see here:
It looks like your g/f is always together with other people (she says 'they listen to her')....while all the talk with YOU seems to be on the phone or something ?
Something is not right here....
You should look at the reasons why SHE preferred to be with another guy...telling you HE listens to her (and you dont...blah blah)..and why she finally cheated with him.....and why did she lie to you in the first place even if you knew already she was cheating ????
You really should work out that stuff...and i mean not over the phone....and you both have to look at your relationship for reasons why things go a little bit odd here....
I found it VERY odd (maybe that's girl's logic...shudder)....after she obviously cheated on you already...and you were talking on the phone she was asking YOU (!) if you trust her....if i remember she even asked YOU if you might ever cheat on HER........ To me it looks like she sees a littly dummy in you,...she was/is taking advantage of your trust...and in addition she was also lying to you.... like she doesnt take you very seriously or something.....
It looks like your g/f is always together with other people (she says 'they listen to her')....while all the talk with YOU seems to be on the phone or something ?
Something is not right here....
You should look at the reasons why SHE preferred to be with another guy...telling you HE listens to her (and you dont...blah blah)..and why she finally cheated with him.....and why did she lie to you in the first place even if you knew already she was cheating ????
You really should work out that stuff...and i mean not over the phone....and you both have to look at your relationship for reasons why things go a little bit odd here....
I found it VERY odd (maybe that's girl's logic...shudder)....after she obviously cheated on you already...and you were talking on the phone she was asking YOU (!) if you trust her....if i remember she even asked YOU if you might ever cheat on HER........ To me it looks like she sees a littly dummy in you,...she was/is taking advantage of your trust...and in addition she was also lying to you.... like she doesnt take you very seriously or something.....
Geekbabe
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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: baffled2
I NEVER score zero dude, you best sit down now and be quiet, the adults are out and about
Ditto.
<--- wins his own points, ignores Red Dawn's comments.
Don't be using my posts as a shield to toss dig's RD's way, heck ,it's like when my son was little and used to cling to my skirt... he outgrew it though
I'm... going to save myself some embarrassment and flashbacks and step out of this thread. It's simply bringing up too many correlations to the last girl I dated; I don't think I can really participate and give unbiased advice.
Good luck. May Red Dawn not rip you all a new one.
Good luck. May Red Dawn not rip you all a new one.
Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: Zakath15
Ditto.
<--- wins his own points, ignores Red Dawn's comments.
Don't be using my posts as a shield to toss dig's RD's way, heck ,it's like when my son was little and used to cling to my skirt... he outgrew it though
OUCH!
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Yikes. I wasn't tossing digs Red Dawn's way, I was just saying I tend to not take what he says all that personally.
Red Dawn
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I actually agree with Baff's coments regarding the boyfriend with dirreahea of the mouth. The only thing worse is some fool crying in his beer at a bar over some dame. He might as well put a sign around his neck "Avoid sitting next to me unless you want to be bored sh!tless with my sob story"Anyway, it seems the this kid went ahead and did what he was going to do despite all of the wonderful advice you Internet Ann Landers gave him. Hmm go figure!
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I'm not out to ri[p anybody a new one. If they want to tangle with me then fine but if they disagree with me all they have to say is "I disagree with you" Honestly, knowing the nature of many who hang here I really didn't expect most to agree with me in the first place.
I agree with you surprisingly often... I just don't show it. I have to be extremely pissed off or grumpy to say it outright...
Originally posted by: baffled2
I NEVER score zero dude, you best sit down now and be quiet, the adults are out and about
It was just a simple way of saying that Red Dawn had a funny post.
nik
Geekbabe
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Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: baffled2
I NEVER score zero dude, you best sit down now and be quiet, the adults are out and about
It was just a simple way of saying that Red Dawn had a funny post.:frown:
nik
lol, I understood that and once again used a
to indicate that I was jokingI'm not sure what your problem with me ius lately nik but if this keeps up I
think I'm going to stop responding to your posts as I'm tired of having to explain
in detail each of my responses.
Baffled2,
Lilcam isn't airing his dirty laundry, or hurting his relationship in any way by coming here. These sorts of situations are what the internet is best used for - candid (though admittedly sometimes innacurate) opinions without the fear of friendship and social convenience to warp the advice.
..And in light of the thread, it seemed like many gave appropriate advice and warning - Lilcam can use such information to help him make the decision he chooses to make. Whether or not its the right one, he's gotten alot of helpful feedback to help make one.
You'd drop a guy like a rock? You need one first, to drop him.
Lilcam isn't airing his dirty laundry, or hurting his relationship in any way by coming here. These sorts of situations are what the internet is best used for - candid (though admittedly sometimes innacurate) opinions without the fear of friendship and social convenience to warp the advice.
..And in light of the thread, it seemed like many gave appropriate advice and warning - Lilcam can use such information to help him make the decision he chooses to make. Whether or not its the right one, he's gotten alot of helpful feedback to help make one.
You'd drop a guy like a rock? You need one first, to drop him.
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