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eakers

Lifer
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wow if my brother told on me like you told on her i would never speak to him again.

*kat. <-- hopes she comes home and gets her act together though
 

TuffGirl

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Agreed kat. rbloedow, I realize you were pissed, but I don't think you should have interfered. That's your parents' job. Noone likes a rat.:frown:
 

DaiShan

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eakers and klee58 while you may be pi$$ed off for your bro on "ratting you out" rbloedow was in the right, drugs it has been proven do physical as well as psychological harm, I would rather have my lil sis not talk to me ever again than to find her one day dead from an OD on a harder drug... on a side note, my sis is only 14 and is completely opposite from me, she confronts my parents on everything and doesn't even try at school, I don't think whe will get into drugs though becuase the consequences in my house are much much worse than any fun she could possibly have experimenting..even she knows that, I feel for ya bro
 

Harvey

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rbloedow -- There is obviously little we can do beyond extend our wishes for a happy outcome to the situation. You have mine.

Pepsei -- << dang, what a no good brat.... let her rot outside.

she forgot who's responisble for her being....she'll need to be taught a lesson how hard it is to be in the real world... >>


You are an asshole! I seldom say it that bluntly without further explanation, but your words make it clear enough. :|
 

Time2Kill

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<< After reading this, I think if we ever have kids we are going to buy a home out in the middle of nowhere. Nice quiet country schools, no hassles, no worries. >>



That doesn't always work, I live in the country and am currently a junior, and drugs use is no better out here than it is in downtown...in fact, a few years ago, two of the local high schools were in the top 10 worse schools for violence/drug use in the state or country...forget which
 

TuffGirl

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<< eakers and klee58 while you may be pi$$ed off for your bro on "ratting you out" rbloedow was in the right >>

I would not call rbloedow a rat if his parents had no clue what was going on with their daughter or if they were unaware of the gravity of her situation. Thing is, they were aware and were taking protective action against it. Hence, I deem his actions as a betrayal. His telling served only to tattle on his sister of what his parents were already aware. That is immature behavior but I suppose he is just acting his age and doing what sibs invariably do.

That said, I'd like to clarify that I do sympathize with him and his family and hope for the best for his sister.
 

Geekbabe

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hMMMM... I remember being a holy terror as a teenager and I remember my parents pulling the strong armed stuff.My brother used to go tell em stuff , adding fuel to the fire.. we're adults now and it's the thing he says he regerts most from when we were kids.
 

Ryan

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Wow - I didn't think so many people would respond. Today is day two, and she still isn't back. I called all of her friends, since I have her cell phone w/ all of their phone numbers. I just called to let them know that if they see her, to please call me.

About me ratting her out. I have kept her drug use a secret for 2 years, and my parents found out about on their own. I have always made it clear to my sister that I object STRONGLY to her drug use, but when my parents found out that she was using more than marijuana, I told her that I wouldn't tolerate her using any more drugs. Then, that same day, her and her friends told me that they smoked pot after I questioned them about why they smelled like pot. I felt, that at that point, it had no choice but to let my parents know about it.

As for my parents, they don't seem that upset about it. :confused:
 

Azraele

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<< Today is day two, and she still isn't back. >>


Have the police been notified?
 

Ryan

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<<

<< Today is day two, and she still isn't back. >>

Have the police been notified?
>>



Yes, but they can't do anything about until a few days from now.
 

gopunk

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Thing is, they were aware and were taking protective action against it. Hence, I deem his actions as a betrayal. His telling served only to tattle on his sister of what his parents were already aware. That is immature behavior but I suppose he is just acting his age and doing what sibs invariably do.

i don't think so, because clearly, his parents thought she had stopped smoking.

you can call this a betrayal or whatever, but say you had a friend that was going to commit suicide... would you tell somebody about it? technically, it's a betrayal... but it's really because you care... if rbloedow didn't care about his sister, he wouldn't have said anything.
 

Hammer

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Klee, I have to disagree with you and eakers on this point. Here's why:

a) This isn't breaking something, taking the car without permission, or sneaking out at night. This is her life that he's talking about. He also stated that she getting into heavier drugs. She's endanger her life and he kept the secret long enough, action needed to be taken because she was not able to deal with her problem on her own.

b) Motivation. It does sound like he told his parents to piss her off, win points, be a rat, etc. He told his parents out of what sounds like genuine concern for his sister's well-being.

c) Taking responsibility. If something were to happen to his sister and she OD'd on something, he would bear responsibility for doing nothing.



<< I would not call rbloedow a rat if his parents had no clue what was going on with their daughter or if they were unaware of the gravity of her situation. Thing is, they were aware and were taking protective action against it. Hence, I deem his actions as a betrayal. His telling served only to tattle on his sister of what his parents were already aware. That is immature behavior but I suppose he is just acting his age and doing what sibs invariably do.

That said, I'd like to clarify that I do sympathize with him and his family and hope for the best for his sister.
>>

 

Pepsei

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<< rbloedow -- There is obviously little we can do beyond extend our wishes for a happy outcome to the situation. You have mine.

Pepsei -- << dang, what a no good brat.... let her rot outside.

she forgot who's responisble for her being....she'll need to be taught a lesson how hard it is to be in the real world... >>


You are an asshole! I seldom say it that bluntly without further explanation, but your words make it clear enough. :|
>>


cool... someone called me an asshole :D
actually i am acting like one because she deserved to be treated as such when she's acting like one towards the family.
rbloedow did the right thing because he cares...
i have little sympathy for drug whores who doesn't want to be helped. let's hope she doesn't hook on heroin. imagine having sex and then having a feeling that's 100x better than sex and last longer...that's heroin. it is very hard to get rid of heroin addication. i used to think we should leaglize pot.. but seeing too many people around me become junkies after trying pot, i'm totally against it now.
 

Muadib

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I also feel for you rbloedow, but I think you did the right thing by telling your parents. I once dated a girl who kept her brother's secret, and didn't tell her mom, and her brother died from an overdose. She was so guilt ridden that she withdrew from everything. I tried to get her to go talk to someone, but she wouldn't, and we eventully broke up. Good luck man.
 

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<< rbloedow -- There is obviously little we can do beyond extend our wishes for a happy outcome to the situation. You have mine. Pepsei -- << dang, what a no good brat.... let her rot outside. she forgot who's responisble for her being....she'll need to be taught a lesson how hard it is to be in the real world... >> You are an asshole! I seldom say it that bluntly without further explanation, but your words make it clear enough. :| >>

cool... someone called me an asshole :D actually i am acting like one because she deserved to be treated as such when she's acting like one towards the family. rbloedow did the right thing because he cares... i have little sympathy for drug whores who doesn't want to be helped. let's hope she doesn't hook on heroin. imagine having sex and then having a feeling that's 100x better than sex and last longer...that's heroin. it is very hard to get rid of heroin addication. i used to think we should leaglize pot.. but seeing too many people around me become junkies after trying pot, i'm totally against it now.
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Shoot man, i need to get me some herioin

 

IGBT

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Institutionalized intervention is called for. You think she's bad now..just think what she'll be like on crack. Things will start dissapearing in the house because the crack monster will be in control. You have 2 short years to effect a change. Good luck.
 

Sephy

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<< Institutionalized intervention is called for. You think she's bad now..just think what she'll be like on crack. Things will start dissapearing in the house because the crack monster will be in control. You have 2 short years to effect a change. Good luck. >>


I don't see where people get this screwed up notion that just because someone heavily smokes marijuana or does some E that they're going to turn to crack or heroin. It's a silly notion, because pot is NOT a "Gateway drug". That's DARE-speak.