UPDATE: Business partner is getting a divorce...

ajayjuneja

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Hey all,

Updating this thread:

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview...atid=38&threadid=1548476&enterthread=y

Wednesday night Steve came home from work and asked for a divorce. Steve's precise words were, "We're just two very different people. I'm never going to be able to satisfy your needs. This [marrying you] was a mistake."

Now honestly, in the long term this will be great for her, as those two have never gotten along properly.

She was also surprisingly productive on Thursday, and since Thursday afternoon she's been getting some good girl bonding time with a great mutual friend of ours, Melodie.

So, just thought I'd let y'all know, and if you got any advice on how to support friends going through a divorce, let me know. They did keep separate bank accounts during their time together, and kept their respective property separate too, except the house they jointly bought (she plans to buy out his share of that). So I am hoping the divorce will be somewhat clean...


Cliff notes:
1. Steve asked for a divorce, calls the marriage "a mistake." He's left the house for a few days, and staying somewhere else (I dunno where).
2. She's staying productive. I imagine work is a good escape. Certainly better than drinking!
3. Advice for how to help friends going through divorce? This is the first one of my friends who is having one... my own parents had one but I had no extra support given to me when that happened many years ago.

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edit: accidentally posted this to hot deals first. sorry about that.
 

Rudee

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Get a bunch of your pals and go to Vegas for a few days and forget about everything that has ever bothered you. You'll come out of it with booze on your breath, some stink on your dink, and a lighter wallet, but one hell of a smile on your face that you won't soon forget.
 

ajayjuneja

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Originally posted by: Rudee
Get a bunch of your pals and go to Vegas for a few days and forget about everything that has ever bothered you. You'll come out of it with booze on your breath, some stink on your dink, and a lighter wallet, but one hell of a smile on your face that you won't soon forget.


Actually, I already have plans to go to Vegas in 3 weeks with a bunch of buddies :)
Glad you asked!
 

Rudee

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Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: Rudee
Get a bunch of your pals and go to Vegas for a few days and forget about everything that has ever bothered you. You'll come out of it with booze on your breath, some stink on your dink, and a lighter wallet, but one hell of a smile on your face that you won't soon forget.


Actually, I already have plans to go to Vegas in 3 weeks with a bunch of buddies :)
Glad you asked!

I'll be there too. Maybe we'll bump into each other at the Spearmint Rhino. ;)

 

ajayjuneja

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Originally posted by: audi
are you a woman or gay?


No. I just want our business to survive and thrive. While sex would be appealing (she is honestly very pretty AND smart), I don't think I want to even consider the idea unless I'd go all the way with her (i.e. marriage). I haven't decided if I want that yet.


Otherwise I risk issues of "if the relationship goes kablooey, how does the business not go kablooey?"
 

audi

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Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: audi
are you a woman or gay?


No. I just want our business to survive and thrive. While sex would be appealing (she is honestly very pretty AND smart), I don't think I want to even consider the idea unless I'd go all the way with her (i.e. marriage). I haven't decided if I want that yet.


Otherwise I risk issues of "if the relationship goes kablooey, how does the business not go kablooey?"

wait so you're not a woman or gay?
 

ajayjuneja

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Originally posted by: audi
Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: audi
are you a woman or gay?


No. I just want our business to survive and thrive. While sex would be appealing (she is honestly very pretty AND smart), I don't think I want to even consider the idea unless I'd go all the way with her (i.e. marriage). I haven't decided if I want that yet.


Otherwise I risk issues of "if the relationship goes kablooey, how does the business not go kablooey?"

wait so you're not a woman or gay?

Yeesh audi you're hard. If you have a solution to how to make sure business doesn't go kablooey if I date & have sex with my business partner, then please tell me and I will have her in bed by the end of next week :)

 

AgaBoogaBoo

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Just kidding earlier, I knew everyone would bring it up as a joke. As for anything serious, no clue :p
 

AndrewR

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Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: audi
Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: audi
are you a woman or gay?


No. I just want our business to survive and thrive. While sex would be appealing (she is honestly very pretty AND smart), I don't think I want to even consider the idea unless I'd go all the way with her (i.e. marriage). I haven't decided if I want that yet.


Otherwise I risk issues of "if the relationship goes kablooey, how does the business not go kablooey?"

wait so you're not a woman or gay?

Yeesh audi you're hard. If you have a solution to how to make sure business doesn't go kablooey if I date & have sex with my business partner, then please tell me and I will have her in bed by the end of next week :)

If you get her on the rebound, you are positively ensuring that the relationship will go "kablooey". Best to let her hump someone for recovery, dump him, then turn to you once she's worked it out of her system if you want to even consider it.

When you're in Vegas, definitely visit the Hard Rock Casino. That place was very nice. :)
 

ajayjuneja

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I am going to the vegas invasion car show with a bunch of friends from LA on the g35driver.com forums. I also am presenting to Alpine that week :)

Life is good!
 

sniperruff

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that would be heart-breaking. i suppose just letting her know that you support her 100% would be the best thing that you can do.
 

ajayjuneja

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Originally posted by: sniperruff
that would be heart-breaking. i suppose just letting her know that you support her 100% would be the best thing that you can do.

Thanks. I let her know that yesterday, and also said that if she needs someone to talk to at 2am cause she can't sleep, to feel free to call me.
 

sniperruff

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Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: sniperruff
that would be heart-breaking. i suppose just letting her know that you support her 100% would be the best thing that you can do.

Thanks. I let her know that yesterday, and also said that if she needs someone to talk to at 2am cause she can't sleep, to feel free to call me.

i can imagine it'd be nice to have a nice friend such as you! =)
 

ajayjuneja

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Originally posted by: sniperruff
Originally posted by: ajayjuneja
Originally posted by: sniperruff
that would be heart-breaking. i suppose just letting her know that you support her 100% would be the best thing that you can do.

Thanks. I let her know that yesterday, and also said that if she needs someone to talk to at 2am cause she can't sleep, to feel free to call me.

i can imagine it'd be nice to have a nice friend such as you! =)

Let's hope it helps! I am clueless when it comes to divorce...