um... really weird... met a girl - I think she's... married??

zixxer

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This is my original post. I added what ended up happening after the EDIT at the bottom




cliffs at bottom



Maybe I'm just freaking insane -

Here's the situation.. I'm leaving out/changing some details because I know she's bigtime into computers - and possibly may frequent AT.


Basically - I met this completely hot chick totally freaking randomly. Like - at a red light. I smiled at her, she smiled back (shyly... sp?)

I pulled into a gas station, and she pulled in behind me.. both needing gas. I struck up a conversation and we REALLY hit it off... bigtime.. shared a drink at the gas station, talked about a bunch of stuff (so many very ironic things we have in common) for 20-30 min at least. She was always laughing, throwing her hair back, touching me, etc.. I asked her for her #... she was like you're going to think this is really really wierd but im a huge dork - I hate phones (ironically I do too) and prefer email.. here's my num though, and my email. I had a pretty good impression we hit it off...

ok so I emailed her the next afternoon (or maybe two days?) and she responded - light flirting - she mentioned hanging out - that she enjoyed the other night and wanted to get to know me better but I couldn't that night. We setup plans for tomorrow (friday). Just out of curiousity I google her email... found her online blog...


she fscking married. Not only married, but to an overseas soldier. :-/ WTF?

Now - the latest post I saw was like june..

I'm very very wtf. I mean - it's possible it's just a friendly thing - but I for 100% sure was NOT getting that vibe. Another possibility is that they got divorced - in the past month?


ugh. I'm mainly disgusted over her husband being overseas. If she is married to someone fighting for our country I'm DEFINETELY not hitting that I mean wtf?


Cliffs:

zixxer meets hot chick at light, both hit it off, both flirting a lot, girl gives #, girls asks zix out, girl acts sad when he has plans, asks about fri night, shared drink,

zixxer goes to email girl - googles her email - finds blog - she's married to a soldier who is overseas.

zixxer is major WTF


EDIT:

got done hanging out w/ other girl tonight around 9. this original girl had text msg'd me and said to call her if plans ended before midnight or whatnot. I wasn't really tired and figured ATOT wanted their update... so we ended up hanging out.

She is married - her husband is overseas. Apparently he cheated on her like 6 months ago - she's seen him once since then, they fought the whole time, and are mutually agreeing to split once he's back here. Hmm. Nothing physical happened tonight - less flirty than the other day though... we're supposed to hang out tomorrow night - I might cancel on her. I'm a little wierded out by the whole thing - and since I really dont know her - i wonder if it's all true or she's just bored with her husband gone :-/

EDIT 2:

Ugh... I called off hanging out w/ this chick last night.. (we hung out thur, I 'cancelled' fri (gotta play hard to get))

she's txt msg'd me twice today - wanted to eat breakfast (? wtf?) then again around 3pm wanting to eat dinner... I didn't respond.. I know she's going to the mtn's or some junk w/ her family.. around 10pm I responded and was like hey... call me when you get back....

she's so hot - arg.... moral dilemma...

also, I never pointed this out - We're both 21-22..... she married after knowing the dude 2 months. They never lived together - basically he was going overseas and asked her to marry him last minute...

EDIT 3:

Hit it 3-4 times in the past 12 hours... little late to work but -eh-...


it had been a long time for her - the first time took a couple minutes... without going into detail... nice...
 

xSauronx

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maybe theyre into the "open marriage thing"

or maybe he'll kill you if you touch her.
 

NaOH

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post her xanga please

These coincidences don't happen for no reason. Maybe she might be the one for you.
 

SwiftWind

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I guess the first question I can think of is, did you see a ring on her finger?
 

zixxer

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Originally posted by: SwiftWind
I guess the first question I can think of is, did you see a ring on her finger?

to be honest I didn't look. I'll update tomorrow.
 

zixxer

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Originally posted by: AMDUALY
post her xanga please

These coincidences don't happen for no reason. Maybe she might be the one for you.

you know what - that's a fantastic idea. I'll change all the details of the story so she doesn't run across this - then post her xanga. I'm getting the link right now
 

ivol07

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Why don't you just ask her? But don't mention you reading her blog. Just a casual "So are you seeing anyone" type of thing...

Oh, and if she is married, STAY AWAY. Especially to an overseas soldier. That dude is gonna come back all messed up in the head and gonna take it out on the douche that's boning his wife!

That and bad karma, real bad.
 

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: xSauronx
maybe theyre into the "open marriage thing"

or maybe he'll kill you if you touch her.

I'm guessing it's probably the latter. :laugh:
 

NaOH

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Originally posted by: zixxer
Originally posted by: AMDUALY
post her xanga please

These coincidences don't happen for no reason. Maybe she might be the one for you.

you know what - that's a fantastic idea. I'll change all the details of the story so she doesn't run across this - then post her xanga. I'm getting the link right now


PM FTW
 

LookingGlass

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Originally posted by: zixxer


ugh. I'm mainly disgusted over her husband being overseas. If she is married to someone fighting for our country I'm DEFINETELY not hitting that I mean wtf?

You should be more disgusted at her, if she is indeed married, than at her husband being overseas.
I have learned, suck it up, be forth coming, and honest, ask her. If you do indeed have contact again. Don't BS, talk about it. If she is married, move on.