two bootie calls in one day= jerk?

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: meltdown75
i'd be more guilty about letting this thread get this far without pics.

shame on you.

Ah, Melty - you never take your eyes off the prize.

well well well... yet another person that needs to post PICS :evil:

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: drum
are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

you're right, still feels naggingly wrong... i just gotta condition myself to realize that no one is getting hurt

Interesting psychological response. Here's to beating your conscience into submission! :beer:



(The amount of time and energy you're investing into these meaningless relations could be better spent. And you know it.)

Doing what, building a new computer? After a long relationship it is helpful to 'play the field' for awhile. It helps to boost the confidence and to re-learn how to be more flexible in your attitudes. A problem a lot of people have right out of a long relationship is that they measure everyone up to (an often glorified) concept of what their old relationship was at its peak. This is the adjustment time to learn that there is a lot more different ways to live then the one you have always known.

 

[Remy XO]

you need to stop asking ATOT for girl advice

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: sixone
[That may be, but I doubt it. A guy doesn't worry about how 'genuinely nice' a girl is when he knows she only wants a booty call. His words - not mine.

I think you underestimate how conditioned a man can become during a long relationship. It has been 2+ years since my ex left and I there are times that I still feel guilty flirting with a woman. There is no reason why, I am a flirtatious person by nature and did it all the time when I was with my ex, but now I have trouble going past that innocent flirt stage. It is simple pavlovian conditioning. If I went past that innocent stage (or what my ex deemed as that innocent stage) then I got punished. So now I still expect the punishment. And I had a very, um, adventurous relationship with my ex, I imagine it would be much worse with a more traditional relationship.

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: SpecialEd
Would you be comfortable telling one girl about your involvments with the other?

If not, then you should be feeling guilty.

DING DING DING!!! We have a winner!!

Well, I agree here. You should never do something you have to hide from. If you feel that you can't tell one about your relationship with the other, then you are not being honest with yourself or them.

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I don't know, I've been feeling weird lately, I actually have a sex life (there was a 4 month gap between anything, that's how lame I am) but none of the girls i've been seeing are relationship material. Hopefully i meet that one girl so I don't have to feel as exhausted and guilty as I do.

Don't feel bad, it took me a year to get back into the game after my ex left. That really is not that uncommon. I think I heard a rule of thumb of 1 month per year you were with your ex for you to get back into dating.

 

[Proletariat]

Originally posted by: SMOGZINN

Originally posted by: sixone
[That may be, but I doubt it. A guy doesn't worry about how 'genuinely nice' a girl is when he knows she only wants a booty call. His words - not mine.

I think you underestimate how conditioned a man can become during a long relationship. It has been 2+ years since my ex left and I there are times that I still feel guilty flirting with a woman. There is no reason why, I am a flirtatious person by nature and did it all the time when I was with my ex, but now I have trouble going past that innocent flirt stage. It is simple pavlovian conditioning. If I went past that innocent stage (or what my ex deemed as that innocent stage) then I got punished. So now I still expect the punishment. And I had a very, um, adventurous relationship with my ex, I imagine it would be much worse with a more traditional relationship.

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: SpecialEd
Would you be comfortable telling one girl about your involvments with the other?

If not, then you should be feeling guilty.

DING DING DING!!! We have a winner!!

Well, I agree here. You should never do something you have to hide from. If you feel that you can't tell one about your relationship with the other, then you are not being honest with yourself or them.

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I don't know, I've been feeling weird lately, I actually have a sex life (there was a 4 month gap between anything, that's how lame I am) but none of the girls i've been seeing are relationship material. Hopefully i meet that one girl so I don't have to feel as exhausted and guilty as I do.

Don't feel bad, it took me a year to get back into the game after my ex left. That really is not that uncommon. I think I heard a rule of thumb of 1 month per year you were with your ex for you to get back into dating.

Hahaha for some reason I have a hard time believing anything anyone says here.

 

[Fraggable]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: drum
are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

you're right, still feels naggingly wrong... i just gotta condition myself to realize that no one is getting hurt

I know what you're talking about. It's natural to feel like that and most people get used to hardening themselves to it.

 

[TomKazansky]

no feelings involved in booty call = wutevers