two bootie calls in one day= jerk?

[slackerinabox]

SO, long story short, a girl i've been involved with (not dating at a all) invited me over before classes tomorrow... I'm not very attracted to her, I'll be honest, but we both get something out of our time together.. Another girl, a girl I find cuter but have never done anything with, seems very much in the mood and invited me over to her place at night. I shouldn't feel guilty, right?

update:
argh.. Spent the night with girl #2, rescheduled with girl #1. Girl #2 was so sweet and gentle and genuinely nice that I'm feeling guilty and may cancel with girl #1... Neither are relationship material but I still feel like a jerk.

 

[slackerinabox]

because I do feel guilty!

 

[mercanucaribe]

Yeah you should.

 

[sswingle]

No guilt needed. Have fun!

 

[arcenite]

who cares

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
two bootie calls in one day= jerk?

Only if one of them is your sister/mom.

 

[Ronstang]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Yeah you should.

Why? Because you are jealous that you are not capable of the same?

Don't sweat it, have fun and ignore all the moralizing this thread will produce.

 

[imported_MadHatter]

Why do you feel guilty?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Yeah you should.

Why? Because you are jealous that you are not capable of the same?

Don't sweat it, have fun and ignore all the moralizing this thread will produce.

No need to feel jealous, neither of these girls are uber hot super models...

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: MadHatter
Why do you feel guilty?

I feel like I should let them know, but that's absurd right? Sorry, guy who's been in a 7 year relationship speaking - feels like I'm cheating even though I know i'm not.

 

[Steve]

Keep it to yourself.

 

[Ronstang]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Yeah you should.

Why? Because you are jealous that you are not capable of the same?

Don't sweat it, have fun and ignore all the moralizing this thread will produce.

No need to feel jealous, neither of these girls are uber hot super models...

Doesm't matter, most of the guys around here only know their palms, they claim they wouldn't hit anything less than supermodel who farts marshmallows but they are little liars just showing off. There are plenty around here that will be jealous.

 

[moshquerade]

how do you figure they will both result in nookie?

 

[drum]

are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
Yeah you should.

Why? Because you are jealous that you are not capable of the same?

Don't sweat it, have fun and ignore all the moralizing this thread will produce.

No need to feel jealous, neither of these girls are uber hot super models...

Doesm't matter, most of the guys around here only know their palms, they claim they wouldn't hit anything less than supermodel who farts marshmallows but they are little liars just showing off. There are plenty around here that will be jealous.

They shouldn't be, read my pathetic thread on dating to see how long and frustrating of a journey it was for me to get to a hardly normal sex life. I'd be jealous of my pal who walks into a bar and can just speak to a girl for 5 minutes and go home with her that night. me? eh. don't be jealous, just read my thread and stop being the sap that i was..

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
how do you figure they will both result in nookie?

girl #1 - definite nookie, she hinted at what will happen during the course of the visit

girl #2 - possible nookie. we flirted quite heavily on the phone tonight and i said "we could meet up for coffee in the city or I can just come over with my coffee maker" she said "you don't need to bring the coffee maker..." sooooo.. it's a possibility if I play my cards right..

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: drum
are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

you're right, still feels naggingly wrong... i just gotta condition myself to realize that no one is getting hurt

 

[Crucial]

*cough*attention whore*cough*

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Crucial
*cough*attention whore*cough*

nope, read my other threads to see how painfully insecure I am... I never claim to be anything but pathetic.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: moshquerade
how do you figure they will both result in nookie?

girl #1 - definite nookie, she hinted at what will happen during the course of the visit

girl #2 - possible nookie. we flirted quite heavily on the phone tonight and i said "we could meet up for coffee in the city or I can just come over with my coffee maker" she said "you don't need to bring the coffee maker..." sooooo.. it's a possibility if I play my cards right..

why not just have the 3 of you get together? you know what i mean?

 

[midwestfisherman]

who cares....

 

[Shadowknight]

A common phrase I've heard is "dating isn't marriage" Taking that a further step "casual sex isn't a relationship". Don't worry about it, as long they aren't doing this with a lot of guys, then I would run for the hills and get an STD test (always a good idea, IMHO).

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: drum
are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

you're right, still feels naggingly wrong... i just gotta condition myself to realize that no one is getting hurt

Interesting psychological response. Here's to beating your conscience into submission! :beer:



(The amount of time and energy you're investing into these meaningless relations could be better spent. And you know it.)

 

[Ricemarine]

Originally posted by: Shadowknight
A common phrase I've heard is "dating isn't marriage" Taking that a further step "casual sex isn't a relationship". Don't worry about it, as long they aren't doing this with a lot of guys, then I would run for the hills and get an STD test (always a good idea, IMHO).

QFT

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: drum
are you in a serious relationship? no?
then why would you be guilty?

you're right, still feels naggingly wrong... i just gotta condition myself to realize that no one is getting hurt

Interesting psychological response. Here's to beating your conscience into submission! :beer:



(The amount of time and energy you're investing into these meaningless relations could be better spent. And you know it.)

Of course I know it. I want nothing more than a nice, stable relationship with a nice, normal girl with a relatively small amount of bagage.. Does not seem to be in the stars for me lately, I've been dating some real oddballs lately. Though having a correlation between relationships and sex drove me mad...