He's struggling to carve out any ground to stand on in his weird defense of Trump, who has become indefensible, so shifting things to "Melanie" in this case is just flapping around.
Is it reasonable to go after a man's wife for what he does wrong? Of course not. Is she off limits when her own actions affect people? Likewise, of course not.
@blackangst1 Get a tighter grip on your horses. And maybe consider abandoning any attempts to re-frame any part of the attacks on Trump as unfair. Until he stops ripping children from their parents and putting children in cages, there's no sacred ground carved out for his family. And even when he does finally stop it (if he does), he still has to do a lot to reconcile those abhorrent actions.