You need to come to terms with that on your own. If you are ok living with the regret (as already expressed by posters in this thread) and only walking up and thanking someone for their service as opposed to sharing a beer with another vet then there you go.
It's something only you can admit to yourself one way or another.
I'm not saying that's the reason to join, that however is the choice he is facing and those two outcomes are going to be presented to him based on his choice through the rest of his life. I'm simply stating only he can determine, and he needs to be very honest with himself, with which he can be ok with.
Some people can live with regret, others can't. He also needs to figure out if he'll regret not joining at all.
You made your choice not to serve, that's one only you have to live with. If you are completely honest with yourself to yourself and are ok with that, then everything else about it doesn't matter.
If you keep reciting that spiel you just puked into this thread to keep lying to yourself, then I'm sorry you have to live with that. Many do.
Your response was great up to the last sentence.
I'm not thread crapping nor lying to myself. Lying to myself would be "I should have joined the Army out of school to make $35k/year so I could more than likely be deployed to Afghanistan during my 5 year contract to help people, then leave once the country was on the road to prosperity and could stand on its own".
OP is considering joining and morality is a huge part of committing yourself to serving an entity for at least 3 years with no way to easily get out early with good outcomes. Explaining my decision is just insight. And I'm not trying to disrespect someone "serving their country". Just do it for the right reasons because you may be disappointed if one of your reasons to do it is to "do good".
Also, that's rather simplistic to say there's "two outcomes". Here's some of the outcomes I can think of:
- Don't enlist, have a shitty life with no regrets on not enlisting.
- Don't enlist, have a great life with no regrets. Period.
- Don't enlist, have a good life, but thank veterans for their service, moderate regret.
- Enlist, have a terrible time in the service, regret your decision to join.
- Enlist, have a great time, share beers with vets.
- <High suicide rate among military individuals>...
The military and service serves its purpose and is good in many ways, but it shouldn't be a decision the OP should take lightly. That's a cliff notes and only intention of this post, so don't try to spin it.
Sorry you took it personally?