Things not to say to a single mother...

[Triumph]

What you need to do is set a precendent for saying off color things like that. Do it MORE often. So whenever you do say it, people will just say, "Oh Gulzakar!" and everyone will laugh it off.

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: Gurck

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
She's a single working mother. You fault her for not placing her daughter after her workplace during her free hours? She doesn't get very much time to spend with her kid as it is. Should she bring her when there is booze? Probably not. But as a working woman, maybe she doesn't think it's in her best interest to turn down office "socializing" for fear of the repercussions on her career.

I guess you're just playing devil's advocate, since I can't understand how someone could actually take her position... but the OP did say that the woman's mother typically looks after the kid, why couldn't she that night?

I think this attitude about kids is very detrimental to our society. People seem to think having a child or children entitles them to ridiculous privelages, such as having everything on earth G-rated, being able to disrupt an entire public area by not even trying to hush the little bastards when they're making more noise than a jet engine at takeoff, etc... If someone chooses to have children, they're choosing to raise them; anything less is irresponsible and immature. It's not society's job to raise others' children so that the parents don't have to.

That's exactly what I'm trying to do, play devil's advocate. There are two sides to every story, and I was trying to see what hers might be.

I don't remember the OP saying that she was asking anything to be g-rated, or that she was one of those parents that lets her kid run around screaming and getting into things. Or that she's expecting society to raise her child. Some people might do that, but a lot of posters seem to act like she MUST be like that. *shrug*

 

[Gurck]

Yeah, I was speaking in general about trends among parents which I'd assume this woman takes part in. There's no way bringing a screaming demon to a work-related endeavor could help her career, so that angle's a bust. The logical conclusion is that the odds of her being a "society must conform to my child!!" type parent are pretty high.

 

[Nitemare]

Could be worse, locally a father took his 4 y/o to a strip club because he could not find a babysitter...

Think it was on Chistmas Eve or New Years Eve.

 

[lobadobadingdong]

Originally posted by: Gulzakar
I know kids pick up langiages fast. But I remember reading that if you speak dual languages to them at a you age, it confuses them...

It just seems the teaching her Spanish first is going to Handi-Cap her in the early years of her life.

but I could be wrong.

not really, my 2yr old little girl is picking up english and ASL (sign language) fine, and a little bit of spanish (Dora the Explorer and some other program I can't remember what it's called)

 

[ohtwell]

Somethings not to say to a single mother:

Can I be the absent father of your next baby?
I hear single moms are easy.


: ) Amanda

 

[syconub]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: DurocShark

Originally posted by: adrianwalters
:camera:'s?

Got MILF?

Good question.

:camera:'s

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Could be worse, locally a father took his 4 y/o to a strip club because he could not find a babysitter...

Think it was on Chistmas Eve or New Years Eve.

They let kids into strip clubs?! Oh man, you just saved me $20 a week!

 

[cavemanmoron]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Gulzakar
exactly.

it's an adult evening...eating, boozing. A FAREWELL party...and she wants to (note again: not "has to") bring the two-year old! Her mother watches the child all the time.

:Q

Maybe you can teach her daughter "Consígame una cerveza, perra"

consígame una cerveza mujer rápida!!

 

[Gulzakar]

Ok, more info about mommy.

She lives at home with her mother. Her mother watches the child all the time and seems to enjoy this (ethnic thing I guess). The father...her "love", is rarely around except for the occasional weekend excursion. When the child is sick, he never helps, when she needs someone to watch her? he's gone.

I feel little pity for her...she chose to have a baby under the ulimatum of marriage before she gave birth... ;Q and you guessed it, shes not married! She does not have a whole great deal on her like a typical single mom...she pays no rent, no bills, has a full time nanny (mom).

regardless, it wasn't intended to be mean, it slipped...so if anyone here can honestly say they've never slipped, they're liars. So I'm a bad person for thinking this? =p

As far as the language? If learning english becomes a secondary language, I pity her child

and I qoute:

"I don't have no time for this"

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: Gulzakar

As far as the language? If learning english becomes a secondary language, I pity her child

ok, you seem to be bent on the fact that bilingual children are at a disadvantage, despite articles i've linked to you and first hand accounts from people here.

i pity your closed-mindedness.

 

[Gulzakar]

Stop being such a whiner, I was sighting a specific example that does not necessarily apply to the general rule of thumb (as established from this post).

Did I say it was hardcore? Did I say that I might be wrong? yes!

Christ, get over it already!

 

[crystal]

Originally posted by: Gulzakar
Ok, more info about mommy.

She lives at home with her mother. Her mother watches the child all the time and seems to enjoy this (ethnic thing I guess). The father...her "love", is rarely around except for the occasional weekend excursion. When the child is sick, he never helps, when she needs someone to watch her? he's gone.

I feel little pity for her...she chose to have a baby under the ulimatum of marriage before she gave birth... ;Q and you guessed it, shes not married! She does not have a whole great deal on her like a typical single mom...she pays no rent, no bills, has a full time nanny (mom).

regardless, it wasn't intended to be mean, it slipped...so if anyone here can honestly say they've never slipped, they're liars. So I'm a bad person for thinking this? =p

As far as the language? If learning english becomes a secondary language, I pity her child

and I qoute:

"I don't have no time for this"

ouch!!!

 

[Ranger X]

Lame. You could have done so much better than, "You're bringing that thing?!".

 

[Gulzakar]

I will endeavor to make you proud

 

[BaboonGuy]

Originally posted by: Gulzakar
1) Yes, she is a Milf...30 years old, total hottie (but psycho).
2) We haven't gone out yet. But the "thing" will most likely come as the childs father is a moron (note: mother still in love).
3) She gave me a strange look...followed by anger... all I could say was "my bad". What else can I say?

She's Mexican American, born here in the U.S.

She is teaching this little girl Spanish first then English second. Does that seem like a good idea?

After you she looked at you, you should have pointed to her purse.

 

[Gulzakar]

Her:
"whats wrong with my purse?"

Me:
"It's Hideous"

Her:
"You don't know what you're talking about"

Me:
*Mwahahaha* "That is correct"

 

[Baked]

Originally posted by: iamme

Originally posted by: Gulzakar

As far as the language? If learning english becomes a secondary language, I pity her child

ok, you seem to be bent on the fact that bilingual children are at a disadvantage, despite articles i've linked to you and first hand accounts from people here.

i pity your closed-mindedness.

:thumbsup: