shira: I think you and I have a different conception of "heaven."
It seems to me that you consider the state of feeling "I've won and I know I won't ever fall again" to be transcendently good. So good that you want to help others to get to their own version of that same place. Well, that sounds to me like the pursuit of "heaven." The conception of what "heaven" is is obviously different for different people and different faiths, but the idea of wanting to arrive at some blissful state is the common feature. But for those who don't feel the need for being in a "blissful state," the pursuit isn't meaningful. Hence, "Heaven is for those who need heaven."
I've won and know I won't ever fall again isn't a feeling, it is a statement about the knowledge produced by the collapse of the state of duality giving way to the experience of oneness. It's a one way ticket. One can't undo the experience. One knows something very different and positive has happened, that it has happened to others and is a secret that permeates human existence, the root of religion myth, psychology and other things. I can't help knowing its value any more than you can help not seeing it.
s: The projection I was referring to was your statement "I know that you can't help the I'm saved your not scenario," which I interpreted to mean that you think I'm the one continually claiming "I'm saved, but you're not." My follow-on to that was to point out that I certainly don't consider myself to be "saved" in any way; I only reiterated that my life is pretty good, but that I know I'm not immune to bad things happening, as a way of helping you to understand just how "not saved" I consider myself to be.
M: We do not see 'saved' in the same way either. For you it has religious connotations, for me it means transcendence of the delusion of duality.
s: If you can't recognize that you, not I, make the ("I'm saved, you're not") claim all the time, then I really don't know what to say other than to advise you to read back over your posts and see just how often you do say it. Yet your statement is that I'm the one who "can't help" making that boast. In other words, you interpret my statement that "My life is pretty good" as equivalent to "I'm saved, you're not." That's "projection."
And, Moonbeam, you do this sort of things in many different contexts. I read your responses to others' posts, and I try to objectively evaluate where you and others are coming from. You'd be surprised just how often I see you stating that others are playing some particular intellectual game when in fact it's you, not them, who have been doing that game-playing. It's so bad sometimes that I find myself wondering if you have a some sort of mental illness that makes it too painful for you to look at yourself.
This aversion to introspection which I see in you becomes worse and worse the more the focus of the interaction moves onto your own mental state and behavior. Which, is why, unfortunately, I can almost guarantee that your response to this post is going to twist and turn statements on their heads - anything to remove the real focus from yourself.
I sincerely apologize for making you feel uncomfortable.
I think I've described why I get irritated. But when I meditate on it awhile, my irritation fades and gets replaced with a sense of compassion for you.
Peace.