Its just huge, stressful incident after incident. Sometimes we look at it and can't believe its only been a month since this all started. What might be so stressful? What might be pushing us to our limits you ask? Here they all are in rough chronological order:
1. April 7th it starts (My birthday no less). My parents forget my birthday because....
2. My uncle was diagnosed with severe cancer that day and was given 3-5 months to live (found this out on April 8th)
3. (Minor issue) My car's gas cap failed to release when on empty on a friday night in a city 250 miles from home. I spent about 1 hour in the trunk of my car removing item after item in order to remove the locking mechanism so I could fill up. Who does this happen to? I have never heard of this happening before
4. My sister and 6 mo old were in a serious car accident and both in intensive care. Several days later they were both released, but my sister had two staples in her head and had gotten most of her memories back. My nephew came through the brain swelling but lost over 1 lbs of weight
5. My wife lost her job
6. (Minor issue) My tv broke. (Three repair calls to my house and 3.5 weeks later and its still not fixed. A constant thorn in my side)
7. My wife found another job, intervied and was all but promised she would get it
8. (Minor issue) Internet access was down for three days till Comcast came out to fix it. In the process he reset my router (at first blaming the problem on that) and I had to reset up my name, security and the bazzilion port openings
9. Paper work error led to my wife not getting a job
10. (Minor issue) Spent a good chunk of a precious day off figuring out why my computer was freezing. urns out to be bad ram. Two emails later I have failed to receive an RMA for it
11. Wife found yet another job and knows thrusday if she gets it
12. Mother in law arrested and charged with a felony. (Shes a nurse and it involves 'improper handling of a narcotic class drug perscription' or some such) She spends a night in jail. She will almost certainly have her license suspended meaning she won't have a job. She will probably move in with older sister in law but might move in with us. Annoying, lazy younger sister in law will probably move in with us for the summer to ease financial burden on mother in law
13. Uncle move to hospice care as cancer is too advanced to treat (Lung cancer. They can't remove it because they already removed the other lung due to cancer 2 years ago) Est time remaining...1-2 months
14. I found out yesterday that my manager at work really hates me and is trying to get me fired. Apparently he doesn't like it when I call him out for being lazy and not doing his job. Also, performance reviews normally last 15 minutes. Mine lasted an hour as we discussed why I got a 3 instead of a 4. He told me a 3 wasn't bad. I said I wasn't debating that but I wanted to know how I could improve to get a 4. He could no answer that and started to get nitpicky. (I didn't have my nametag on during the review and he used that as the reason I got a 3 in appearance instead of a 4. Really? You knew I was going to be missing a nametag today and gave me a 3 for the past 6 months because of this?) Eventually he got pissed and tried to threaten me with bringing his boss in on the review. I agreed. He was suprised and tried to continue with the review. I said "I though we were bringing (Insert manager name) in on this" His boss agreed with me and my review score is being reviewed.
Now I find out hes going over my records, looking for a reason to fire me
Thank god I saw this happening (hes not the most professional person ever) and I got a call from HR this morning regarding his use of foul language and derogatory insults directed at me last week. Let the HR wars begin!
In the midst of all of this we are trying to look for a house as our lease is up in June and is going up a lot if we resign. We would be paying more to rent than a mortgage payment if we can't find time to find a house
We are both getting stress and depressed - although mine is starting to turn into "Fsck you world - I'll see this $hit through!" Amazingly we are getting strength from each other instead of fighting (although there has been a slight bit more of that too) so thats gotta be a good thing.
Should be interesting to see what happens next.....
Edit 2 hours later: Well, that didn't take long. My wife didn't get the job, so we still don't know if we will be able to buy a house or where she is working next school year.
AN annoying thing abou the job situation is that she is told that they want to hire her and that they think she would be the best teacher for the position but they can't hire her because of her low level of senority in the district. Fucking unions
Cliffs:
-Bad things happen to family (cancer, felonies, ICU hospitalization)
-Many minor - but persistent bad things happen to us
-Wife loses job
-Mine is in jeopardy
1. April 7th it starts (My birthday no less). My parents forget my birthday because....
2. My uncle was diagnosed with severe cancer that day and was given 3-5 months to live (found this out on April 8th)
3. (Minor issue) My car's gas cap failed to release when on empty on a friday night in a city 250 miles from home. I spent about 1 hour in the trunk of my car removing item after item in order to remove the locking mechanism so I could fill up. Who does this happen to? I have never heard of this happening before
4. My sister and 6 mo old were in a serious car accident and both in intensive care. Several days later they were both released, but my sister had two staples in her head and had gotten most of her memories back. My nephew came through the brain swelling but lost over 1 lbs of weight
5. My wife lost her job
6. (Minor issue) My tv broke. (Three repair calls to my house and 3.5 weeks later and its still not fixed. A constant thorn in my side)
7. My wife found another job, intervied and was all but promised she would get it
8. (Minor issue) Internet access was down for three days till Comcast came out to fix it. In the process he reset my router (at first blaming the problem on that) and I had to reset up my name, security and the bazzilion port openings
9. Paper work error led to my wife not getting a job
10. (Minor issue) Spent a good chunk of a precious day off figuring out why my computer was freezing. urns out to be bad ram. Two emails later I have failed to receive an RMA for it
11. Wife found yet another job and knows thrusday if she gets it
12. Mother in law arrested and charged with a felony. (Shes a nurse and it involves 'improper handling of a narcotic class drug perscription' or some such) She spends a night in jail. She will almost certainly have her license suspended meaning she won't have a job. She will probably move in with older sister in law but might move in with us. Annoying, lazy younger sister in law will probably move in with us for the summer to ease financial burden on mother in law
13. Uncle move to hospice care as cancer is too advanced to treat (Lung cancer. They can't remove it because they already removed the other lung due to cancer 2 years ago) Est time remaining...1-2 months
14. I found out yesterday that my manager at work really hates me and is trying to get me fired. Apparently he doesn't like it when I call him out for being lazy and not doing his job. Also, performance reviews normally last 15 minutes. Mine lasted an hour as we discussed why I got a 3 instead of a 4. He told me a 3 wasn't bad. I said I wasn't debating that but I wanted to know how I could improve to get a 4. He could no answer that and started to get nitpicky. (I didn't have my nametag on during the review and he used that as the reason I got a 3 in appearance instead of a 4. Really? You knew I was going to be missing a nametag today and gave me a 3 for the past 6 months because of this?) Eventually he got pissed and tried to threaten me with bringing his boss in on the review. I agreed. He was suprised and tried to continue with the review. I said "I though we were bringing (Insert manager name) in on this" His boss agreed with me and my review score is being reviewed.
Now I find out hes going over my records, looking for a reason to fire me
Thank god I saw this happening (hes not the most professional person ever) and I got a call from HR this morning regarding his use of foul language and derogatory insults directed at me last week. Let the HR wars begin!
In the midst of all of this we are trying to look for a house as our lease is up in June and is going up a lot if we resign. We would be paying more to rent than a mortgage payment if we can't find time to find a house
We are both getting stress and depressed - although mine is starting to turn into "Fsck you world - I'll see this $hit through!" Amazingly we are getting strength from each other instead of fighting (although there has been a slight bit more of that too) so thats gotta be a good thing.
Should be interesting to see what happens next.....
Edit 2 hours later: Well, that didn't take long. My wife didn't get the job, so we still don't know if we will be able to buy a house or where she is working next school year.
AN annoying thing abou the job situation is that she is told that they want to hire her and that they think she would be the best teacher for the position but they can't hire her because of her low level of senority in the district. Fucking unions
Cliffs:
-Bad things happen to family (cancer, felonies, ICU hospitalization)
-Many minor - but persistent bad things happen to us
-Wife loses job
-Mine is in jeopardy
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