girls who grow up to be "normal" are the ones who end up without any real ambitions and are happy just being someone's wife, gossiping with her church pals about bullshit.
i'd rather have a daughter who didn't find any problem expressing herself, explored her creativity, had experiences, and fought for equality of all people, whether they were gay, black, hispanic, asian, purple, whatever.
do i want my daughter to be a drug user? of course not. would i be pissed if she experimented? maybe... i dunno. but i do know that the fear of her trying a drug here or there pales in comparison to my desire for her to be a good person who believes in artistic expression, love of all kinds, and doesn't try to live life to make other people happy.