(hopefully)...
I broke up with my GF yesterday, of 3.5 years. She was my GF all through college, basically. Starting dating in a rather unconventional way, I met her one night in the dorms, slept with her, and I guess she considered us a "thing". Didnt have a problem with that at first.
I tried to break up at about 6 months because I wanted to date other people, and found out she was very, very attached to me. Threatened to kill herself at the 1 yr mark if I broke up with her. She's very dependent on me, emotionally, socially, and financially. Im sure I enabled her to some extent, no doubt. I've broke it off various time over the time of the relationship, but I feel bad for her after some period, and the fact she comes to me willing to do anything I want (sexually) to get my back doesnt help. You cant imagine how hard it is for the big brain to take control of the little brain when you got a chick willing to indulge whatever sexual fantasies you wish in order to get you back. And of course, its all good and fine for a while, and thehn the underlying problems come out again.
The breaking point for me is that she keeps talking about marriage, the ring, etc...Although I have much invested in this relationship, Im 22 and not ready to get married, especially without a steady job. She is my first real long term relationship and Im not sure she is the one.
Its really scary to be almost attached to the hip to someone and then break it off, taking a chance you might not meet someone again. Hopefully things will move on and I can find someone else, being single can be scary.
I broke up with my GF yesterday, of 3.5 years. She was my GF all through college, basically. Starting dating in a rather unconventional way, I met her one night in the dorms, slept with her, and I guess she considered us a "thing". Didnt have a problem with that at first.
I tried to break up at about 6 months because I wanted to date other people, and found out she was very, very attached to me. Threatened to kill herself at the 1 yr mark if I broke up with her. She's very dependent on me, emotionally, socially, and financially. Im sure I enabled her to some extent, no doubt. I've broke it off various time over the time of the relationship, but I feel bad for her after some period, and the fact she comes to me willing to do anything I want (sexually) to get my back doesnt help. You cant imagine how hard it is for the big brain to take control of the little brain when you got a chick willing to indulge whatever sexual fantasies you wish in order to get you back. And of course, its all good and fine for a while, and thehn the underlying problems come out again. The breaking point for me is that she keeps talking about marriage, the ring, etc...Although I have much invested in this relationship, Im 22 and not ready to get married, especially without a steady job. She is my first real long term relationship and Im not sure she is the one.
Its really scary to be almost attached to the hip to someone and then break it off, taking a chance you might not meet someone again. Hopefully things will move on and I can find someone else, being single can be scary.
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