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jalaram

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I know it would otherwise ruin your parents trip, but they will be pissed that you didn't tell them immediately.

I would suggest having an excuse ready. E.g. "I wanted to wait to tell you after they confirmed it and when I could tell you in person."

That said, Good luck and best wishes to you.
 

MrDudeMan

Lifer
Jan 15, 2001
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Sucks about the news, but 75 miles a week? That isn't healthy. There are much better ways to do cardio that won't ruin the rest of your body. When you get better, I suggest swimming or biking.
 

clamum

Lifer
Feb 13, 2003
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Damn. Sorry to hear that man. :(

Keep your head up, stay strong, you'll get better.
 

RichUK

Lifer
Feb 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Dude...I'm so sorry. :(

Tell your parents when they get back. There's nothing they can immediately do and it'll just ruin their trip.

I agree.

That?s terrible news; I hope it all works out for the best.
 

mcvickj

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Dec 13, 2001
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What a kick to the balls. Hopefully the second rounds of tests have some better news for you. Good luck.
 

cthulhu

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Nick, sorry to hear that. Best wishes for a fast and full recovery. Being young and in good health will greatly benefit you in your recovery.
 

Patt

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I'm really devastated to read that in such a healthy 24 year old ... I've got some experience with a very similar situation. My wife of 7 years (then gf) was in a very similar position to where your gf is at the moment. If you need to ask any pointed questions ... feel free to PM me. Best of luck today ...
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As for telling your parents ... I think they'd want to know ASAP ... you are more important than some anniversary trip, and they can provide you with some of the emotional support you're going to need. My advice would be to bring it up with them now, so your GF isn't the primary one with the load, as that could be very hard on her. My 2 cents.
 

thecoolnessrune

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Jun 8, 2005
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Here's hoping you'll get better news on your next visit. My roommate just called me last week and told me his cancer has returned. A tumor on the base of his brain stem at 16, and one on his spine at 17.

Now he's 22 and has new tumors on his shoulders and another large one at the base of his spine. No surgery and no radiation so its just trying to find a form of chemo that wont kill him at this point.

We all do have so much to be thankful for.
 

MrDudeMan

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I'd tell my parents if I were you. Any parents worth their weight in salt would want to know immediately. I'm sure they'd rather be spending their anniversary with their son who needs them more than he ever has before than on a trip.
 

geno

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Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
I'd tell my parents if I were you. Any parents worth their weight in salt would want to know immediately.

Oh, I don't doubt for a second his parents would want to know right away, given the chance. I'd opt to let them know when they get back, though. Chances are, they're not going to be vacationing again until Nick is in the clear.
 

RagingBITCH

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Sep 27, 2003
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Good luck on the news today...but sorry to hear :(

I'd wait to tell your parents...let them enjoy it. It's not going to change anything by then worrying about it unless they can do some immediate surgery that requires them being there. I'm sure they'd want to know immediately, but at the same time, let them have some fun/enjoyment.
 

xboxist

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Jun 25, 2002
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Damn, that sucks. I was hospitalized for super intense abdominal pains last year. It persisted for about 48 hours (couldn't sleep a minute, even though my body and mind were exhausted from the ordeal). The doc chalked it up to a random ulcer after they found no signs of anything else. The pain returned about a month ago although not quite as intense. Still, it kept me from sleeping at all that night.

Best of luck to you. I think I'll now go demand further testing on my own body.
 

Blieb

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Apr 17, 2000
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Sending good vibes.

Keep us updated ...

Don't tell your parents until they get back.
 

lokiju

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May 29, 2003
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There is hope that it's a mistake.

I had a doctor tell me I had oral cancer in my mouth once. Turned out it was just a sore and nothing to worry about, but it scared the every living shit out of me for a week.

Best of luck to you no mater what the results are.

 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Damn, man, very sorry to hear this :(

My brother, only 33, was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer back in January. I'm not going to go into detail, but the most recent news has not been very good. Same sort of thing: he's a health nut and a physician. All of his friends are doctors...so it's a quite a shock.

Anyway, I can appreciate what you and your family will be going through over the next year or more, as we're all still in that initial stage of shock. One thing I can suggest is to pay careful attention to your diet from here on out. There are a lot of natural diets, heavy on teas, that can work wonders when supplementing the treatments that you will endure. Look specifically at what others with intestinal cancer have done, especially those that have beaten the odds. Also, be sure to seek multiple opinions and recommendations from various physicians. Don't just speak with general oncologists but GI specialists.

Whatever you do, remain optimistic, and Good luck.

 

isekii

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Mar 16, 2001
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Originally posted by: lokiju
There is hope that it's a mistake.

I had a doctor tell me I had oral cancer in my mouth once. Turned out it was just a sore and nothing to worry about, but it scared the every living shit out of me for a week.

Best of luck to you no mater what the results are.

you should've punched that mofo in the face for giving you a false diagnoses and screwing with you.
 

Miramonti

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Aug 26, 2000
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Really sorry to hear about that. :(
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........(just kidding about that rose. :p )

Its hard to express how thankful I am about my health. I have many more years than you do and don't workout nearly as much. I realize that at some point my very undeserved good fortune will catch up to me.

Often in situations like this is that the ailing person like yourself has to be the strength of the family, helping others keep it together. Ironic isn't it?

So be strong and courageous, and an example to others, so when you kick this, you can so proud of yourself for the rest of your long life.

 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Originally posted by: Perknose

We may have crossed swords here on the internets

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(sorry, couldn't help it; it is AT, after all)



Whatever you do, Nick, maintain your sense of humor. It may be your best ally throughout this stage of your life.

depending on the outcome today, I'd suggest starting up your own caring bridge page. It's a good way for others to keep track of your progress and it's a good organization. Helps to cut down on the flood of phone calls for constant updates and whatnot that you will not want to deal with.


...though I guess people would do the same with Facebook?
 

zinfamous

No Lifer
Jul 12, 2006
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Originally posted by: RichUK
Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
Dude...I'm so sorry. :(

Tell your parents when they get back. There's nothing they can immediately do and it'll just ruin their trip.

I agree.

That?s terrible news; I hope it all works out for the best.

totally. they will be angry, initially, but they'll eventually be thankful for that time, regardless of what you were going through.