So, what do you and your SO argue about the most?

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: Isla
His mother and his sister. They are poisonous, and mean to our kids! But honestly, we don't argue to much anymore. Ever since I learned to help him keep his wallet full and his balls empty, he's quite easy to get along with. :laugh:

OMG, I love you!!!

 

[Isla]

Kenazo

Yup, sounds like a cult alright. They can be very small, like extended families who go to more 'normal' churches, too. My mother in law calls herself a Prophetess of God and pretty much thinks God tells her what is best for every one else. Which usually involves serving at her feet.

My husband is agnostic now. I still have my faith, but I don't affiliate myself with any religious groups.

 

[Lazy8s]

Originally posted by: Isla
His mother and his sister. They are poisonous, and mean to our kids! But honestly, we don't argue to much anymore. Ever since I learned to help him keep his wallet full and his balls empty, he's quite easy to get along with. :laugh:

*gets down on one knee with a ring*

I know you're married and all but since it's a 50% divorce rate I call dibbs on your second marriage....if you ever have one with an attitude like that :beer:

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: Isla
His mother and his sister. They are poisonous, and mean to our kids! But honestly, we don't argue to much anymore. Ever since I learned to help him keep his wallet full and his balls empty, he's quite easy to get along with. :laugh:

*gets down on one knee with a ring*

I know you're married and all but since it's a 50% divorce rate I call dibbs on your second marriage....if you ever have one with an attitude like that :beer:

Dang! Beat me to it!!

 

[ucdbiendog]

Originally posted by: btz0013
neither money nor sex is the big problem in my house.
the big throw downs are usually about what to do with time off/vacations and the like. she likes to have an activity for every minute of the day while i'm happy just lazing about.

thats like me and my g/f (for 3 yrs) too, except we dont argue about it. our arguements are about politics. she is a closed minded republican, and cannot even say WHY she is (she was raised in republican familtY). I am more of a conservative democrat, but i hate bush with a passion, and the fact that she LIKES him drives me insane. so i just try not to bring it up to avoid getting pissed at her. Im sure she thinks the same of my politcal views, but whatever. If we ever do argue, its usually about politics.

 

[spidey07]

how much of a whiney baby pain in the ass she is and how I need her to make more money.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: Isla
Ever since I learned to help him keep his wallet full and his balls empty, he's quite easy to get along with. :laugh:

:thumbsup: That's sig material right there.

See sig

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: Isla
Ever since I learned to help him keep his wallet full and his balls empty, he's quite easy to get along with.

Sums up Dr. Laura's new book "the proper care and feeding of husbands," and the bible. Don't know how she does it but I like it. I like it alot!

 

[Isla]

Well, BOTH my individual counselor AND my marriage counselor pretty much told me that I would have to be willing to put 'more into it', or let him put it in more, so to speak. Not just to get it over with, either... but to show him that I want him and love him, 'cause that's the language males speak. In return, I expect him to try to speak my language a little better. He is improving, and I'm being patient.

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: Isla


Well, BOTH my individual counselor AND my marriage counselor pretty much told me that I would have to be willing to put 'more into it', or let him put it in more, so to speak. Not just to get it over with, either... but to show him that I want him and love him, 'cause that's the language males speak. In return, I expect him to try to speak my language a little better. He is improving, and I'm being screwed.

fixed

 

[Tinkerhell]

nothing.

 

[Tinkerhell]

Originally posted by: vood0g

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

thats fvcking bullsh!t. no one should convert for another person. if you truly believe in the faith then convert, i have no problem with that. but to convert just because your significant other wants u too, is totally stupid.

Agreed. I come from a family where my father converted. Not good! All it does is cause problems (in some cases)

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: mavs55
me working too much

Ditto.

I'm a work-a-holic. And responsible for a huge amount of stuff. I've got critical servers running over half the country and if one of them goes down it's my ass that has to get it fixed. She wants me to leave the job at home, but it's tough when you have so much stuff resting on your shoulders that need to be up and running 18 hours a day. Some days I just come home blasted and frustrated and just want to chill out but she wants to do stuff and I don't have the energy. So she gets mad at my work.

But I can't leave my job because we're a single income family until she graduates in a year.

So it's a catch 22. Need the job because it pays the bills. Hate's the job because it emotionally...and some days physically drains me.

I've worked a minimum of fifty up to 80 hours a week for the last six years. Eventually they get used to it.

My wife and i argue about money a bit.

As far as resentments go I could say that I feel she's inconsiderate but really I'm just being egocentric. She would say that I'm emotionally domineering but would admit I'm not that bad really when she has a cool head.

We wound up pregnant when she was 20 and I was 22. Six years on we're the only couple we know (and we've known a few in similar situations) that are still together, still in love, and still happy.

So I've got that going for me, which is nice.

 

[clamum]

The few times we've argued it was over drugs IIRC.

 

[spacejamz]

I just called her to check and she said to say that we don't argue over anything...what a relief...

 

[stonecold3169]

We don't ever fight, and thats not an exageration.

Probably the sorest part of our relationship is the topic of getting married. I'm not a practicing christian, and she was raised in a very stric protestant household. She's been having a lot of very strong internal conflict over this, as she was raised that she should only be marrying someone equally devout. What really bothers her isn't that I'm not christian, so much as she feels like it SHOULD be an issue because thats how she was raised, which I totally understand.

 

[Isla]

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: Isla


Well, BOTH my individual counselor AND my marriage counselor pretty much told me that I would have to be willing to put 'more into it', or let him put it in more, so to speak. Not just to get it over with, either... but to show him that I want him and love him, 'cause that's the language males speak. In return, I expect him to try to speak my language a little better. He is improving, and I'm being screwed.

fixed

LOL!

Well, it's more like getting bonked. Often.

 

[Chronoshock]

I asked my GF and she said we argue about "stupid things." So there you have it

 

[BatmanNate]

Country music.

 

[The Stigenator]

reminder for myself = world is not perfect as I make it seem to be..

 

[BD2003]

We dont really argue. Neither of us have to have our way all the time, just about anything is good for us.

 

[Eli]

Hmm.. I'm trying to think..

Probably money. I'm always having to tell her "we don't have enough" for this or that.. lol.

Otherwise, it's just stupid insignificant sh!t. We've actually been trying to work through our minor differences as of late.

If you're arguing about sex, you may as well just split up now.. lol

 

[wyvrn]

My wife is a control freak. And then there are the co-dependent relationships she insists on starting. Oh, and then her overbearing, close-minded family. Add to that the fact she expects me to manage the money, but her have the say on how to spend it without doing any of the work.

Other than that, we get along fine