So, what do you and your SO argue about the most?

[Kenazo]

inspired by Gravity's "does marriage counselling work" thread

I hate to admit it, but I think my wife and I argue the most about sex. I'm almost perpetually wanting it, and she's not sure if she should feel honored b/c she can turn me on so easily, or upset at herself that she mustn't be doing a good enough job.

 

[btz0013]

neither money nor sex is the big problem in my house.
the big throw downs are usually about what to do with time off/vacations and the like. she likes to have an activity for every minute of the day while i'm happy just lazing about.

 

[mavs55]

me working too much

 

[y2kc]

my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

 

[Homerboy]

kids

 

[RedRooster]

sex and money are easy. we never fight about that.

it's stupid things like why she insists on closing the door loudly, or buying things we don't need like plant stands.
we're either doomed in marriage because of this triviality, or our differences are about as insignificant as they get and we'll be fine.

 

[Lola]

right now its about stuff for our wedding. I never realized how stressful planning a wedding could be. And, in turn that stress is taken out on each other.
We "make up" and that usually makes it better!

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

 

[phreakah]

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

that sucsk, sorry to hear that.


my situation is a lot like btz's.... she likes to plan everyhting out and give a lot of attention to things while i'm always just like whatever... heh

 

[welst10]

Originally posted by: Lola
right now its about stuff for our wedding. I never realized how stressful planning a wedding could be. And, in turn that stress is taken out on each other.
We "make up" and that usually makes it better!

i have trouble understanding what's the deal with wedding. Spending thousands of $ and months of time for that glamorous thing. Then half of them end up in divorce.

 

[y2kc]

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

 

[Wooglin]

The remote.

Also, baseball. She likes Cardinals, I like the Cubs, and right now, she is pwnzoring11111!!1

 

[welst10]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).

WTF!! what kind of stupid denomenation was she involved with? I find it sad when christians try to justify liberalism with legalism and their christiainity.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

She sounds like a moronic bitch, he should let her leave.

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: notfred

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

She sounds like a moronic bitch, he should let her leave.

I agree. first off, she's being retarded, second off, she's not even following her religion properly. oh well.

 

[memo]

Originally posted by: Wooglin
The remote.

Also, baseball. She likes Cardinals, I like the Cubs, and right now, she is pwnzoring11111!!1

Divorce :frown::brokenheart:

 

[Mr N8]

Biggest one is me needing to clean up my den. Its got a daybed in it for company, so it doubles as a guest room, but I'm sure it would take a few weekends to get to that bed.

Other than that, we live a relatively peaceful life together.

 

[y2kc]

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).

WTF!! what kind of stupid denomenation was she involved with? I find it sad when christians try to justify liberalism with legalism and their christiainity.

personally I consider it a cult, but my opinion is obviously skewed by bitterness. i could tell you some hum-dingers about what goes on at that place. it's totally turned me off to (organized) religion. i don't trust churches, particularly the men that lead them.

 

[vood0g]

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

thats fvcking bullsh!t. no one should convert for another person. if you truly believe in the faith then convert, i have no problem with that. but to convert just because your significant other wants u too, is totally stupid.

 

[memo]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).

WTF!! what kind of stupid denomenation was she involved with? I find it sad when christians try to justify liberalism with legalism and their christiainity.

personally I consider it a cult, but my opinion is obviously skewed by bitterness. i could tell you some hum-dingers about what goes on at that place. it's totally turned me off to (organized) religion. i don't trust churches, particularly the men that lead them.

details? i always get a kick out of these cults that dont think they are cults because they are christian

 

[Electric Amish]

We really don't have arguments.

The only thing that causes stress in our marriage is money and her propensity to spend it in large quantities.

 

[memo]

Originally posted by: vood0g

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: y2kc
my spouse (soon to be ex) argued mostly about our religious differences. she came into the marriage without any affiliations but became "born again" 4 years in. everything that was out of whack in our relationship was my fault because i wasn't a christian... oh well.

I'm curious, is it an issue to her or to you? If it's her issue, she's not following her bible too closely:

1 Corinthians 7:12:
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

it's an issue to her. she asked me to leave. i'd long ago decided to respect her "walk", the titheing (sp), the church visits 4 and 5 times a week (at times), her devotion to the church over her family, etc. I'm glad it's over, she had more respect for her pastor than me or our family. For instance: she gets up early every saturday to help clean the church but rarely took the time to get it done with the same regularity at home.

she knows that scripture but told me that it didn't apply to us as "our marriage wasn't ordained by a "man of God" (her pastor).


Edit: Good riddance, if she's an example of Christian womanhood, the church has problems.

if you really love her, you should convert.

thats fvcking bullsh!t. no one should convert for another person. if you truly believe in the faith then convert, i have no problem with that. but to convert just because your significant other wants u too, is totally stupid.

agreed. im posed with "converting" to christianity, but i dont think i will, but just openly understand and question the two religions.

 

[Ogg]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
We really don't have arguments.

The only thing that causes stress in our marriage is money and her propensity to spend it in large quantities.

:thumbsup:

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: welst10

Originally posted by: Lola
right now its about stuff for our wedding. I never realized how stressful planning a wedding could be. And, in turn that stress is taken out on each other.
We "make up" and that usually makes it better!

i have trouble understanding what's the deal with wedding. Spending thousands of $ and months of time for that glamorous thing. Then half of them end up in divorce.

weddings, for most females, are a very important part of their lives. You are correct that half end in divorce, however, i am not a pesamist and i truly think that this is THE only time in both of our lives that we will host such a great party.

Plus, its a little bit different, we are not just getting married in our hometown, we are going away, so its a bit harder to plan something when you are 4k + miles away.
But, i truly enjoy planning it so its not a big deal.