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So my girlfriend is going to see her ex tonight.... *UPDATE 3*

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Originally posted by: frodrick
Originally posted by: jdub1107
Why would she not see him if he does it again? Because fool her once shame on him, fool her twice, shame on her?? You sound like you're trying to make yourself believe that she can make the right choice. I think she's already proven that she can't.
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Sorry, but the saying adapted to this situation goes, "fool her once, shame on.. shame on.. him? fool her can't get fooled again."
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LOL.
 
Originally posted by: BD2003
She doesnt need to be hanging out with her ex, for any reason whatsoever. Put your foot down.
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You're just inviting yourself into trouble if you let her continue to see him fully knowing that you cannot trust him whatsoever, especially since he kept trying to make moves on her after she had left him.

Don't be a tool, just tell her its you or him. Don't be a contender for a girl's heart. You're it or you're not.
 
You, my friend, need to make it clear to this guy that he'll be needing a very good dentist if he pulls the same sh!t with your girlfriend that he tried last time.
 
Originally posted by: p0ntif
Originally posted by: piroroadkill
Originally posted by: WarDemon666
Originally posted by: MX2times
Show her this thread
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really?
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Actually, that might not be such a bad idea, she will see all the negative responses and swallow all her pride.
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Actually I think its a bad idea. Some people react negatively to other people posting info about their lives without their knowledge or consent all over the net. But hey, you know her best. Do what you want.
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You have a point, but to be honest, I think it's her that should be doing the explaining at this point.
 
The issue isn't about the ex, its about your relationship with HER. Yes, she still has feelings for him and hasn't moved on. Then again, have you given her any reason to move on with you? You can't TELL her not to go, but you can ask her not to go. If you are sensitive to her feelings you will see she is looking for a reason stick around with you. Do you have commitment issues? Grow a set and ask her not to go, then explain why.
 
Originally posted by: WarDemon666
for the last time, they talked to each other after that, he said he was sorry, and they started to be friends again.. they didnt see each other since then, and they decided to do something now... I guess I can understand, except for the fact that hes a prick.
Anyways, i feel like shit. lol


I can A: leave her a letter and go work on the comps @ parents for a weekend
or B: stay till she gets here, tell her I love her, and that i hope she has a good night
or C: stay all night and wait for the bastard to get here (although my gf said he wont show up if im here.)
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If he won't show up if you're home then there's a problem. Obviously he doesn't feel comfortable around you. Why would he not feel comfortable if he feels comfortable enough to visit your gf while you're away? It should make no difference if you are there or not if he really is just there on a goodwill visit and not trying to get down her pants. Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable with the situation that you are in. If somebody grabs my gf's ass and the like then there is going to be big problems and she won't talk to that person anymore if she wants to stay together and make it work. It just causes nothing but problems in a relationship in my view of things.
 
#1- Your gf sounds like a lil puss to me. For what reason does she need to see him? The fact that he squeezed her ta ta's and grabbed her ass tells us they were close.

#2- You need to address him, face to face. Not saying you need to whoop his ass, but tell him you dont like what he did and to back off.

Plain and simple.
 
Originally posted by: slickcat
Originally posted by: WarDemon666
for the last time, they talked to each other after that, he said he was sorry, and they started to be friends again.. they didnt see each other since then, and they decided to do something now... I guess I can understand, except for the fact that hes a prick.
Anyways, i feel like shit. lol


I can A: leave her a letter and go work on the comps @ parents for a weekend
or B: stay till she gets here, tell her I love her, and that i hope she has a good night
or C: stay all night and wait for the bastard to get here (although my gf said he wont show up if im here.)
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If he won't show up if you're home then there's a problem. Obviously he doesn't feel comfortable around you. Why would he not feel comfortable if he feels comfortable enough to visit your gf while you're away? It should make no difference if you are there or not if he really is just there on a goodwill visit and not trying to get down her pants. Personally I wouldn't feel comfortable with the situation that you are in. If somebody grabs my gf's ass and the like then there is going to be big problems and she won't talk to that person anymore if she wants to stay together and make it work. It just causes nothing but problems in a relationship in my view of things.
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How about D: Youre with me now, not with him. You dont need your ex, who is still trying to grope you, hanging around you, period. If you MUST have him as a friend, then you can NOT have me as a boyfriend.
 
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listen to your ATOT family. i would tell her that it makes you uncomfortable that she is going to see him (because you are, if you're not then you wouldnt have posted in here about it). if she still goes then dump her.

nothing good is going to come out of this. more than likely i think there is more than just "friendly" conversation going on between the two of them.
 
Man, you're only 19. There are plenty of women out there. Why are you putting up with this? You really think she's the 'one'? Have you experienced a lot of relationships already? Don't invest yourself and your time in something without being able to compare it first.
 
Everyone here is pretty much giving you the same message. If it isn't as obivous to you qas it is to everyone else and their mom, then you really need to sit back and think about this until it sinks in.
 
Originally posted by: WhiteKnight
You'd better hope that this guy doesn't have a Halo t-shirt, dude, or it's all over.
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HAHAHAHA

I say war needs to add a poll
1) Be a pacifist, take it up the ass
2) Go over to the bastard and punch him in the face
 
She still likes him. If she didn't want to get back together with him, she wouldn't talk to him after he molested her. Hell, my ex-gf and I had a GRET time together, and we borke up on COMPLETELY amicable terms, but she still only rarely talks to me.
 
Sneak back and pop in on them. Seriously, why are you allowing this? I'd slam the door shut on that deal. No fvcking way is that even a remote possibility.
 
Originally posted by: FoBoT
dump her and find a new gf
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i skipped from page 1 to 7, so i missed a lot of responses.

this is academic. if she needs anything from the other dude, at all, besides a VERY casual friendship (and i mean, saying "Hi" is as much as it needs to be), then you are lacking in some department or she is just plain whack and can't let it go.

don't get played for a n00b. make the decision for her if she can't do it alone. you deserve better, even if you don't think so.
 
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