So my girlfriend is going to see her ex tonight.... *UPDATE 3*

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piroroadkill

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Originally posted by: CRXican
not sure if it has been said but

they're fvcking

I wouldn't necessarily agree, but I do think that she thinks about it, and he certainly does, so if it hasn't come around yet, it will unless something drastically changes.
 

jdub1107

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Originally posted by: WarDemon666
Originally posted by: AccruedExpenditure
Dood... you're hella dumb. Listen to the advice of people above... what do you think they're going to be talking about/doing? Let me give you a hint... it's NOTabout US Foreign Policy...

Let me be candid:
Any time I've hung out with any of my ex'es the least we've done is kissed/made out, the most... well yeah... look most guys don't give a fvck (i know I don't)... especially if he's her last BF... you need to put your foot down or the next YAGT we're going to see from you is "My G/F Cheated on me with her EX"

But my GF wouldnt let someone do that to her. If he does ANYTHING, shes going to push him away, 100%... maybe this time she will REALLY stop talking to him, and then Ill be even happier? :)

Why would she not see him if he does it again? Because fool her once shame on him, fool her twice, shame on her?? You sound like you're trying to make yourself believe that she can make the right choice. I think she's already proven that she can't.
 

BAMAVOO

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Originally posted by: TravisT
Originally posted by: BAMAVOO
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Originally posted by: TravisT
that dude is asking for a butt whooping. He deserves it. And no, i would not let my gf go around the guy again, and he better hope he doesn't catch me seeing him around her.

It is not his fault she lets him come back into her life. There is no reason they should be together.


Hope you like sloppy seconds.

Actually, as a man, i understand that it is also my responsibility to not go around someone elses gf, fiance, or wife with intentions like his. I believe that the guy doing this is equally, if not more guilty for acting on this. As far as she goes, i'd be upset as well. Certainly would probably get her out of my life as soon as possible, or would like to think that I would.


But they were together before. it is a lot different if ties were already there. Have you not loved before and lost, but wanted to get back together? She is opening a door that he obviously wants to enter. She is in a relationship and should not subject herself to falling back to the one she was with previously. If she still cares for this so called friend, she should break it off with the Wardemon. If she doesn't care for him, she should tell the EX to stay away. I see nothing good for Wardemon coming from this. Maybe heartache or a big fight, but that is all.
 

Ninjja

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Originally posted by: J Heartless Slick
Umm, she had a bad interaction with him and made sure you knew about it. Now she is going to see him again?

That sounds like you and her has issues that need to be resolved as soon as possible.

this sounds about right.
 

p0ntif

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I had a gf at one time who wanted to go see her ex in another state (this was when we were first going out) I said that she should do it if she felt that she had to. She did, and then never did again. We were golden for 8 months until I broke up with her for unrelated issues. The thing is, its nice to let your gf go back to her ex once just to be sure. If you don't, she may always have some fantasy of how things were, blah blah. The only catch is that if she continues to do this over time, then you've lost the battle. You should save yourself some future heartache and dump her quickly.
 

WarDemon666

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for the last time, they talked to each other after that, he said he was sorry, and they started to be friends again.. they didnt see each other since then, and they decided to do something now... I guess I can understand, except for the fact that hes a prick.
Anyways, i feel like shit. lol


I can A: leave her a letter and go work on the comps @ parents for a weekend
or B: stay till she gets here, tell her I love her, and that i hope she has a good night
or C: stay all night and wait for the bastard to get here (although my gf said he wont show up if im here.)
 

Preyhunter

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Originally posted by: WarDemon666
Originally posted by: FoBoT
dump her and find a new gf

My gf isnt the problem, shes really nice and caring, she would never do anything with someone else, the other guy is a fvcking lying as$hole..

I talked to him the other day on the net:
me: "Hey, i heard youre gonna see my gf this weekend"
him: "naw, no time, have too much stuff to do, for the next month"
me: "oh ok"

next day:
gf: "*hisname* still wants to come over tomorrow, he just lied to you because he thought I wasnt going to tell you"

stupid lying bastard. His new GF that he has now doesnt know anything about what he did with my gf a while back, I was going to tell her, but I didnt wanna be an as$hat


There's a lot being said in this post:

1. He lied
2. He thought that your gf wasn't going to tell you OR she covered for him with that explanation

What would have given him the idea that she wasn't going to tell you? Does he think that she has something to hide from you? My take on the points above are:

1. He has intentions toward your gf that he doesn't want you to know about
2. He thinks that she has intentions toward him that she doesn't want you to know about
>a. She does and has told him so
>b. She doesn't, but for some reason he thinks she does and he's ready to accept her intentions
 

WarDemon666

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Originally posted by: Preyhunter
Originally posted by: WarDemon666
Originally posted by: FoBoT
dump her and find a new gf

My gf isnt the problem, shes really nice and caring, she would never do anything with someone else, the other guy is a fvcking lying as$hole..

I talked to him the other day on the net:
me: "Hey, i heard youre gonna see my gf this weekend"
him: "naw, no time, have too much stuff to do, for the next month"
me: "oh ok"

next day:
gf: "*hisname* still wants to come over tomorrow, he just lied to you because he thought I wasnt going to tell you"

stupid lying bastard. His new GF that he has now doesnt know anything about what he did with my gf a while back, I was going to tell her, but I didnt wanna be an as$hat


There's a lot being said in this post:

1. He lied
2. He thought that your gf wasn't going to tell you OR she covered for him with that explanation

What would have given him the idea that she wasn't going to tell you? Does he think that she has something to hide from you? My take on the points above are:

1. He has intentions toward your gf that he doesn't want you to know about
2. He thinks that she has intentions toward him that she doesn't want you to know about
>a. She does and has told him so
>b. She doesn't, but for some reason he thinks she does and he's ready to accept her intentions

No, its because he never told his GF when he wanted to see my gf, and he thought my gf did the same....

Thats what my GF told me, and I believe her

 

p0ntif

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If it makes you uncomfortable, WHICH IT OBVIOUSLY DOES, then tell her!
It's really not that complicated. Besides, there ar tons of girls out there. Never be hesitant to break up. Experience life and other people.
 

CVSiN

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Originally posted by: WarDemon666
I hate the bastard. I let him see my GF a few times after we started going out, just because I am so kind hearted and wanted my gf to be happy, and most of all, free....

But theres this one time, the bastard went and started grabbing her ass, tried touching her tit's.... She told him to leave right away, and cried all night, I got home after work at 12:00, she was waiting for me at the door, practically crying, and told me what happened. I was ready to go back to his house and beat the living sh!t out of him. She told me not to, and that she would never talk to him again cause hes a dumb as$, and she hates him...

Its been about 5 months + now, and they have been talking for a while... They were going to go to the movies together (the last time I saw them at the movies (i knew her b4 going out with her) they were making out the whole time and didnt see the movie) but this time my gf has to stay home to babysit, so hes coming here, and they are "supposed to play games"..


I now have to go to my parents house ( dial up, and I have to fix 3 computers this weekend... )

I trust her, but I dont trust him.

What should I do? she told me if I dont want I can tell her, and she wont let him come, but I want her to be free!! Is it worth it?

What would you guys do?


Fvckign christ what are in in High school?

 

Preyhunter

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Why would he think that?

Edit: And what does he have to hide from his current gf?
 

jdub1107

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Sounds like your girls ex doesn't have respect for anyone (ie. you, his gf, and your gf). Doesn't your gf see this? Why would she want to be around him? Because he's a nice guy? I don't see the reasoning.
 

p0ntif

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Originally posted by: piroroadkill
Originally posted by: WarDemon666
Originally posted by: MX2times
Show her this thread

really?

Actually, that might not be such a bad idea, she will see all the negative responses and swallow all her pride.

Actually I think its a bad idea. Some people react negatively to other people posting info about their lives without their knowledge or consent all over the net. But hey, you know her best. Do what you want.
 

frodrick

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Originally posted by: jdub1107
Why would she not see him if he does it again? Because fool her once shame on him, fool her twice, shame on her?? You sound like you're trying to make yourself believe that she can make the right choice. I think she's already proven that she can't.

Sorry, but the saying adapted to this situation goes, "fool her once, shame on.. shame on.. him? fool her can't get fooled again."
 

jdub1107

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Do you think the other guy told his current gf that hes going to see your ex tonight? Probably not and for good reason.