So my ex is being deployed to Jordan...

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Stark
I see this guys future turning out something like this:

Capt. Herbert Sobel had no physical wounds, but deep mental ones. [After the war] he also disappeared from sight. He married, had two sons, got a divorce, and was estranged from his children. He worked as an accountant for an appliance company in Chicago. Maj Clarence Hester was in Chicago on buisness one day int eh early 1960s. He arranged to have lunch together. He found Sobel to be bitter toward E Company and life generally. Twenty years later Guarnere tried to locate Sobel. He found his sister, who told him Sobel was in bad mental condition and that he directed his rage at the men of E Company... Shortly thereafter Captain Sobel shot himself. He botched it. Eventually he died in Septeber 1988. His funeral was a sad affair. His ex-wife did not come to it, nor did his sons, nor did any member of E Company.

Wouldn't be a big surprise, Stark. Where did you find that?

Peace,
Dezign

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: ncircle

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: ncircle

Originally posted by: Rudee
You certainly like attention, don't you Dezign?

Thanks for giving me some, do come again!

Peace,
Dezign

Hehehe...

Peace,
Dezign

 

[Stark]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Stark
I see this guys future turning out something like this:

Capt. Herbert Sobel had no physical wounds, but deep mental ones. [After the war] he also disappeared from sight. He married, had two sons, got a divorce, and was estranged from his children. He worked as an accountant for an appliance company in Chicago. Maj Clarence Hester was in Chicago on buisness one day int eh early 1960s. He arranged to have lunch together. He found Sobel to be bitter toward E Company and life generally. Twenty years later Guarnere tried to locate Sobel. He found his sister, who told him Sobel was in bad mental condition and that he directed his rage at the men of E Company... Shortly thereafter Captain Sobel shot himself. He botched it. Eventually he died in Septeber 1988. His funeral was a sad affair. His ex-wife did not come to it, nor did his sons, nor did any member of E Company.

Wouldn't be a big surprise, Stark. Where did you find that?

Peace,
Dezign

Last chapter of Band of Brothers. I have about 5 pages until I'm done with the book. Just so happened that I read that right before checking on this thread.

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: kranky
Now there's a true sociopath. I think this is how things will go for him - he'll enjoy some measure of success which will keep inflating his sense of self-worth. And then the unimaginable day will come when he meets his match - a bigger sociopath. He'll get crushed (probably in his career) because he can't imagine anyone else could be even colder and more calculating then he is. The other guy will probably frame him for something and it will cost him a loss of prestige. He won't be able to handle losing face (after all, it will be totally unjustified and unfair, in his mind), and will do something stupid which will get him in serious trouble. I think it will involve guns.

Interesting prediction, kranky. And you're right... he fits the psychological definition of a "sociopath" perfectly. I hope something happens sooner rather than later that makes him change his ways... anyway, he left this morning for Jordan. God speed to all the men and women in uniform.

Peace,
Dezign

What in the world did you do to this guy? Did he catch you having a huge orgy with his best friends or something? I mean he sure hates ya.....lol

I realized he wasn't the one for me, that I was moving in a different direction with my life, and I broke off my engagement with him. Some people take break-ups a little harder than others.

Peace,
Dezign

He's definately wacko. Four years is definately a long time...but after 2 years you'd think he would get on with it. BTW, WHY in the world are you speaking to him? You're really not helping him forget about you, everytime he speaks to you i'm sure all those memories etc pop right up. Unless you enjoy messing with his head then you should STOP contacting him or making yourself available for him to contact you. He needs to get you out of his mind and the only way is for him to never hear from you ever again. I hope you understand what i'm saying here and take my advice.

I went through a breakup a while back and was very bitter about it, i got over it fast by not talking to her or having any type of contact. She was actually like you and would try to contact me to "see" how i'm doing blah blah, but all that really did was remind me of how much she hurt me etc. So please do this guy and yourself a favor and break ALL contact with him.

 

[james88]

V: becuase there is a war going to kick off with Iraq on the xth of x

Yeah, right! Such sensitive material can be easily leak out, my a..!
Thousands of people lives are involved, do you think these sensitive materials are given out to the whole arm force?

 

[OutHouse]

You probably hope he dies, right? That's all you care about, is "did he just disclose classified information?"

Ummm no he did not. No Lt in an Artillery batallion who lost his security clearance because of mental health issues would even come close in knowing the real date. I seriously doubt that he will ever get his clearence back he is nothing more than a secretary now or he is the platoon leader for the goon squad.

goon squd = other misfits who can not do thier jobs.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: kranky
Now there's a true sociopath. I think this is how things will go for him - he'll enjoy some measure of success which will keep inflating his sense of self-worth. And then the unimaginable day will come when he meets his match - a bigger sociopath. He'll get crushed (probably in his career) because he can't imagine anyone else could be even colder and more calculating then he is. The other guy will probably frame him for something and it will cost him a loss of prestige. He won't be able to handle losing face (after all, it will be totally unjustified and unfair, in his mind), and will do something stupid which will get him in serious trouble. I think it will involve guns.

Interesting prediction, kranky. And you're right... he fits the psychological definition of a "sociopath" perfectly. I hope something happens sooner rather than later that makes him change his ways... anyway, he left this morning for Jordan. God speed to all the men and women in uniform.

Peace,
Dezign

What in the world did you do to this guy? Did he catch you having a huge orgy with his best friends or something? I mean he sure hates ya.....lol

I realized he wasn't the one for me, that I was moving in a different direction with my life, and I broke off my engagement with him. Some people take break-ups a little harder than others.

Peace,
Dezign

He's definately wacko. Four years is definately a long time...but after 2 years you'd think he would get on with it. BTW, WHY in the world are you speaking to him? You're really not helping him forget about you, everytime he speaks to you i'm sure all those memories etc pop right up. Unless you enjoy messing with his head then you should STOP contacting him or making yourself available for him to contact you. He needs to get you out of his mind and the only way is for him to never hear from you ever again. I hope you understand what i'm saying here and take my advice.

I went through a breakup a while back and was very bitter about it, i got over it fast by not talking to her or having any type of contact. She was actually like you and would try to contact me to "see" how i'm doing blah blah, but all that really did was remind me of how much she hurt me etc. So please do this guy and yourself a favor and break ALL contact with him.

I don't talk to him at all, and I have not tried to contact him since we broke up. I have not, however, blocked him from my AIM list... and every once in a blue moon, completely randomly, he'll IM me (always first, I've never IM-ed him first). I don't talk to him unless he initiates conversation (and even then, I don't say much), and the last thing I want to do is mess with his head. I don't do that.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[Zombie]

didn't read the whole thing but from what I read your ex sounds more like next Timothy Mcweigh. Usually stupid people think of themselves as better than the rest.

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: kranky
Now there's a true sociopath. I think this is how things will go for him - he'll enjoy some measure of success which will keep inflating his sense of self-worth. And then the unimaginable day will come when he meets his match - a bigger sociopath. He'll get crushed (probably in his career) because he can't imagine anyone else could be even colder and more calculating then he is. The other guy will probably frame him for something and it will cost him a loss of prestige. He won't be able to handle losing face (after all, it will be totally unjustified and unfair, in his mind), and will do something stupid which will get him in serious trouble. I think it will involve guns.

Interesting prediction, kranky. And you're right... he fits the psychological definition of a "sociopath" perfectly. I hope something happens sooner rather than later that makes him change his ways... anyway, he left this morning for Jordan. God speed to all the men and women in uniform.

Peace,
Dezign

What in the world did you do to this guy? Did he catch you having a huge orgy with his best friends or something? I mean he sure hates ya.....lol

I realized he wasn't the one for me, that I was moving in a different direction with my life, and I broke off my engagement with him. Some people take break-ups a little harder than others.

Peace,
Dezign

He's definately wacko. Four years is definately a long time...but after 2 years you'd think he would get on with it. BTW, WHY in the world are you speaking to him? You're really not helping him forget about you, everytime he speaks to you i'm sure all those memories etc pop right up. Unless you enjoy messing with his head then you should STOP contacting him or making yourself available for him to contact you. He needs to get you out of his mind and the only way is for him to never hear from you ever again. I hope you understand what i'm saying here and take my advice.

I went through a breakup a while back and was very bitter about it, i got over it fast by not talking to her or having any type of contact. She was actually like you and would try to contact me to "see" how i'm doing blah blah, but all that really did was remind me of how much she hurt me etc. So please do this guy and yourself a favor and break ALL contact with him.

I don't talk to him at all, and I have not tried to contact him since we broke up. I have not, however, blocked him from my AIM list... and every once in a blue moon, completely randomly, he'll IM me (always first, I've never IM-ed him first). I don't talk to him unless he initiates conversation (and even then, I don't say much), and the last thing I want to do is mess with his head. I don't do that.

Peace,
Dezign

Block him and leave him blocked.

 

[Grasshopper27]

Originally posted by: Crimzon
You know, almost every other post I read has a reference to Skoorb. You all just net friends, or do these people have an obsession with the Skoorbs?

It's an obsession, a way of life...

The Skoorbs are cool, what can we say?

Hopper

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Okay, I understand that your broke off your engagement.

But seriously... what did you do to this guy? Play him? Cheat on him? Steal from him? He basically blames you for turning him into a monster. So was he insane then? Or did that just come after the relationship?

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
Okay, I understand that your broke off your engagement.

But seriously... what did you do to this guy? Play him? Cheat on him? Steal from him? He basically blames you for turning him into a monster. So was he insane then? Or did that just come after the relationship?

Looking back on it, I'm able to see a lot of things I didn't while we were together. Now I understand why everyone (parents, friends, etc.) told me to stay away from him... all I did was break up with him for my own good (and his), and the result... the way he is now... seems to be a magnification of what he's always been. Love is blind... but I've learned to heed the advice of my family and friends (and even strangers... i.e. ATOT). If everyone says something's wrong, odds are something's wrong...

Peace,
Dezign

 

[imported_Tomato]

EDIT: Mods can lock if they choose to. Point's been made, questions have been answered, am no longer "seeking attention."

Thanks to those who offered kind advice/suggestions/information.

 

[MaxDepth]

Dammit. I'm jealous.




You can type fast and accurately.


:|

 

[MedicBob]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Your ex sounds like a dick, but also your ex has no idea when it's going to kick off. Trust me, he's BSing.

I agree both points.

He sounds like a moron.

He has NO idea when or if Iraq gets invaded.

 

[dabuddha]

Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

I gotta agree with you. i just dont see the reason for her not to have him blocked. He would of probably forgot about her a while ago if he did not have a lit up s/n on his list....or at least not think about her as much.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

Problem is you're NOT helping by being there, you're just a sad reminder. The sooner you completely vanish from his life, the sooner he will forget. Trust me, i know.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

Problem is you're NOT helping by being there, you're just a sad reminder. Trust me, i know.

So am I being selfish by not blocking him? I just want to know whether or not he comes back safe... I guess once that's been established, I can block him.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

Problem is you're NOT helping by being there, you're just a sad reminder. Trust me, i know.

So am I being selfish by not blocking him? I just want to know whether or not he comes back safe... I guess once that's been established, I can block him.

Peace,
Dezign

No, you're not being selfish.... It's just a bit different for some of us guys....my ex tried to stay there etc cause she felt a bit guilty or something and was just like you "trying to be there for me", thing is that really doesnt help because it gives the guy hope even if just a little in the back of his mind or shows him you might still care for him a bit and reminds him of the past. Once again i tell you from experience to just vanish from this guys life and do him and yourself a favor. It's not doing either one of you any good, specially HIM.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

Problem is you're NOT helping by being there, you're just a sad reminder. Trust me, i know.

So am I being selfish by not blocking him? I just want to know whether or not he comes back safe... I guess once that's been established, I can block him.

Peace,
Dezign

No, you're not being selfish.... It's just a bit different for some of us guys....my ex tried to stay there etc cause she felt a bit guilty or something and was just like you "trying to be there for me", thing is that really doesnt help because it gives the guy hope even if just a little in the back of his mind or shows him you might still care for him a bit and reminds him of the past. Once again i tell you from experience to just vanish from this guys life and do him and yourself a favor. It's not doing either one of you any good, specially HIM.

exactly cept the selfish part.. sadly, it is being selfish. it has nothing to do about caring and feeling. If you truly cared for him, you'd block him instead of being there as a constant reminder of lost love. By being there, you're just leading him on. I can't remember nor do I wish to "assume" but I believe you're the one who broke off the engagement. If that is true, you have no right to interfere with his life. He has the right to move on without you and you're making that as difficult as can be for him

 

[Ciber]

Originally posted by: dabuddha

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ciber

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: dabuddha
Blocking him would work all right if she didn't want his attention. She claims she doesn't but its quite obvious she does. My ex is completely blocked off from me. Blocked on IM clients, no phone calls nothing. It seems you enjoy receiving his attention or you wouldn't even be talking to him. Grow up Dezign, really.

Don't make assumptions, dabuddha. At one point I told him if he ever needed anything, I would be there for him. If he was ever in trouble, I would help him out. That's why I didn't block him from my life completely. Why I'm not blocking him from my AIM now? Because I want to know if he comes back from the middle east alive. Sorry for caring. When I grow up and stop feeling, I'll letcha know.

Peace,
Dezign

Problem is you're NOT helping by being there, you're just a sad reminder. Trust me, i know.

So am I being selfish by not blocking him? I just want to know whether or not he comes back safe... I guess once that's been established, I can block him.

Peace,
Dezign

No, you're not being selfish.... It's just a bit different for some of us guys....my ex tried to stay there etc cause she felt a bit guilty or something and was just like you "trying to be there for me", thing is that really doesnt help because it gives the guy hope even if just a little in the back of his mind or shows him you might still care for him a bit and reminds him of the past. Once again i tell you from experience to just vanish from this guys life and do him and yourself a favor. It's not doing either one of you any good, specially HIM.

exactly cept the selfish part.. sadly, it is being selfish. it has nothing to do about caring and feeling. If you truly cared for him, you'd block him instead of being there as a constant reminder of lost love. By being there, you're just leading him on. I can't remember nor do I wish to "assume" but I believe you're the one who broke off the engagement. If that is true, you have no right to interfere with his life. He has the right to move on without you and you're making that as difficult as can be for him

From my experience with women, they tend to feel guilty etc after they break up with a guy and think they are being mean or not being a friend or god knows what if they break all contact etc, specially if they know/think they hurt the guy..... You get what i'm trying to say? They are being selfish but dont really see it or think they are being selfish... They are too emotional and dont think enough Not that us guys are any better