So my 25 year old friend is dating a 16 year old

[phantom404]

My wifes cousins husband split with here to *cough* screw...errrr date a 16 year old...hes around 30 Its just wrong

 

[TheVrolok]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: TheVrolok

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: TheVrolok

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: TheVrolok
Do people not realize that it's not the strict age difference of 9 years that is the problem? Sure, 25 and 34, not terrible, 41 and 50, nothing terrible (except for the fact that the older person will most likely fall into health problems sooner and possibly restrict the little activity the younger one has left in his/her life - especially true when the older person is male). It's not the 9 year difference between 16 and 25, it's the fact that this girl is 16. There is just too much that a 16 year old hasn't experienced and a 25 year old has to make their relationship at all feasible.

yah that 25 year old has so much more experience.. what does the avereage 25 year old have on a 16 year old?
4+ years of smoking pot and drinking at college parties while playing WoW and BF2...

wow big gap there..

How old are you outta curiosity? Let me tell you what experience I've gained since I was 16. College with a major and 3 minors, 2 jobs, MCATs, applying to med schools, being of legal age and going to bars, meeting tons of new people of different backgrounds, traveling to europe, learning more about myself, running a student organization, teaching classes, being responsible for the rent, car payments, Internet bills, etc. You know what, that's enough, and I'm only 21, give me another 4 years. If you honestly believe that the AVERAGE 25 year old has done nothing but smoke pot and play video games you've got a seriously flawed view of the world.

I'm 34 at age 17 i joined the navy and fought for the country went to Desert Sheild and storm traveled to over 45 countries gained a top secret clearance married and had a house and 2 cars and had my name on an A-7E Corsair II.. all before age 20.. so la de dah..

I think you've just proven my point. You joined the armed forces, and as such were forced to grow up rather quickly. Look at all the experience you gained from having done so, now tell me that a girl living at home with her parents in high school has matured just as much?

No you just conceeded without even knowing it that different circumstances can mature a 16 year old faster. so that prooves what ive been saying all along.. WE DONT KNOW THE WHOLE STORY..
and everything is NOT so black and white.

We don't know the whole story. All we know is that we have "some" 16 year old and "some" 25 year old. I guess you'd prefer NOT to err on the side of caution and ASSUME this 16 year old is mature beyond her years rather than to assume that she's like the VAST MAJORITY of other 16 year olds in western civilization. Your logic frightens me.

 

[SirStev0]

I completely agree with vrolok...

Let's all play rational for about 15 secs...
If this was your daughter you would absolutely disagree with this idea...

It doesnt matter how old or mature she may be ... SHE IS 16 and HE IS 25

I am 20 and I wouldn't date a 16 year old... Tell your friend to date a girl his own age...
They are not connecting... they are not on the same maturity level... He is using her...
Back in highschool my girlfriends best friend was "dating" a 22 year old...
He was creepy... he'd get her wasted and bang her... if they fought he'd smack her around until he got his way...
Would she leave him... Hell no ... He "loved her" and he that was how "mature relationships happen"

They same story held true for other friends who had the same situation...
A chick in my homeroom got knocked up by her 24 year old boyfriend when she was 17 and he left her hanging...
I can think of about a half a dozen other stories that have the same theme...

I've yet to see a situation of a significantly older man with a teenage/highschool girl where the guy wasnt a complete tool...

Some of you people need a clue...

 

[DVad3r]

Make a poll who dates who !!! I am curious !!!

Me 21, my girl 17!!! Her mom luvs me

 

[ThunderLew]

Not cool

 

[SirStev0]

Originally posted by: DVad3r
Make a poll who dates who !!! I am curious !!!

Me 21, my girl 17!!! Her mom luvs me

Personally, I feel a 4-5 year difference isnt going to mean much, especially as the younger of the relationship approaches college years...
Right out of Highschool my girlfriend at the time was 16 and I was 18. There wasnt that big of a deal. We actually were old enough that we would interact in the same social setting. I am assuming that you and your girlfriend are the same way.

The difference comes when the age difference increases.
I don't know about most states but the age of consent laws in PA, as I know them, are no more then 4 years older then the minor. A 20 year old could sleep with a 16 year old for instance, however, a 24 year old is breaking the law by sleeping with a 16 year old. End of Story.
I'm not trying to be all conservative but trying to justify taking advantage of a younger girl because she is able to make some dicisions on her own is ridiculous. Those laws that allow abortions without parental consent are in place so that the girl does not seek out alternative methods that would potential harm if not kill her. It isn't because she is really completly mature enough to make all those discision on her own. They are in place so that she can legally seek options in a safe environment.
They are in HIGHSCHOOL...

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: SirStev0

Originally posted by: DVad3r
Make a poll who dates who !!! I am curious !!!

Me 21, my girl 17!!! Her mom luvs me

Personally, I feel a 4-5 year difference isnt going to mean much, especially as the younger of the relationship approaches college years...
Right out of Highschool my girlfriend at the time was 16 and I was 18. There wasnt that big of a deal. We actually were old enough that we would interact in the same social setting. I am assuming that you and your girlfriend are the same way.

The difference comes when the age difference increases.
I don't know about most states but the age of consent laws in PA, as I know them, are no more then 4 years older then the minor. A 20 year old could sleep with a 16 year old for instance, however, a 24 year old is breaking the law by sleeping with a 16 year old. End of Story.
I'm not trying to be all conservative but trying to justify taking advantage of a younger girl because she is able to make some dicisions on her own is ridiculous. Those laws that allow abortions without parental consent are in place so that the girl does not seek out alternative methods that would potential harm if not kill her. It isn't because she is really completly mature enough to make all those discision on her own. They are in place so that she can legally seek options in a safe environment.
They are in HIGHSCHOOL...

I agree, its all about brain metal level. Im in college and still lost and don't know what I want in life, my girl going to college next year. Even though she's 17 and Im 4 years older, she's more advanced then me in some aspects. Also FYI, in canada the legal age for sexual consent is 14. And in europe 4-5 years difference in relationships isent frowned or such a "big deal" as it is here in north america.

 

[greys2k]

two words: STATUTORY RAPE

 

[JLGatsby]

Originally posted by: greys2k
two words: STATUTORY RAPE

six words: DEPENDS ON WHAT STATE YOU'RE IN

It'd be legal in my state.

14 is the law in Canada. 12 in Mexico.

 

[smut]

Originally posted by: DVad3r

Originally posted by: SirStev0

Originally posted by: DVad3r
Make a poll who dates who !!! I am curious !!!

Me 21, my girl 17!!! Her mom luvs me

Personally, I feel a 4-5 year difference isnt going to mean much, especially as the younger of the relationship approaches college years...
Right out of Highschool my girlfriend at the time was 16 and I was 18. There wasnt that big of a deal. We actually were old enough that we would interact in the same social setting. I am assuming that you and your girlfriend are the same way.

The difference comes when the age difference increases.
I don't know about most states but the age of consent laws in PA, as I know them, are no more then 4 years older then the minor. A 20 year old could sleep with a 16 year old for instance, however, a 24 year old is breaking the law by sleeping with a 16 year old. End of Story.
I'm not trying to be all conservative but trying to justify taking advantage of a younger girl because she is able to make some dicisions on her own is ridiculous. Those laws that allow abortions without parental consent are in place so that the girl does not seek out alternative methods that would potential harm if not kill her. It isn't because she is really completly mature enough to make all those discision on her own. They are in place so that she can legally seek options in a safe environment.
They are in HIGHSCHOOL...

I agree, its all about brain metal level. Im in college and still lost and don't know what I want in life, my girl going to college next year. Even though she's 17 and Im 4 years older, she's more advanced then me in some aspects. Also FYI, in canada the legal age for sexual consent is 14. And in europe 4-5 years difference in relationships isent frowned or such a "big deal" as it is here in north america.

admit it! you just like that tight puddy! just playin'

 

[JDrake]

Originally posted by: phantom404
My wifes cousins husband split with here to *cough* screw...errrr date a 16 year old...hes around 30 Its just wrong

... that is wrong

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: greys2k
two words: STATUTORY RAPE

Two words: You're Wrong.

Two more words: Age of Consent

Two more words: I can't count.

 

[TheVrolok]

I'd just like to say that the written law does not directly dictate morality. Just becaues it is LEGAL doesn't mean it is RIGHT. So you can't simply say "Oh, it's completely fine because it's legal." There are numerous situations in which the morality of a situation may not necessarily coincide with the legality. In whatever state this is taking place in it is not statutory rape, so it's not illegal, but that doesn't mean it's right to do. I'm curious, those of you who feel there's nothing wrong here, would you be ok with a 42 year old recently divorced man picking up a 16 year old and dating seriously as well?

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: TheVrolok
I'd just like to say that the written law does not directly dictate morality. Just becaues it is LEGAL doesn't mean it is RIGHT. So you can't simply say "Oh, it's completely fine because it's legal." There are numerous situations in which the morality of a situation may not necessarily coincide with the legality. In whatever state this is taking place in it is not statutory rape, so it's not illegal, but that doesn't mean it's right to do. I'm curious, those of you who feel there's nothing wrong here, would you be ok with a 42 year old recently divorced man picking up a 16 year old and dating seriously as well?

If that's what they want, yes.

 

[wobbuffet]

where's the poll man!?

:gift:

 

[TheVrolok]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: TheVrolok
I'd just like to say that the written law does not directly dictate morality. Just becaues it is LEGAL doesn't mean it is RIGHT. So you can't simply say "Oh, it's completely fine because it's legal." There are numerous situations in which the morality of a situation may not necessarily coincide with the legality. In whatever state this is taking place in it is not statutory rape, so it's not illegal, but that doesn't mean it's right to do. I'm curious, those of you who feel there's nothing wrong here, would you be ok with a 42 year old recently divorced man picking up a 16 year old and dating seriously as well?

If that's what they want, yes.

Wow. That is all.

 

[JLGatsby]

Originally posted by: TheVrolok
Wow. That is all.

Look at it like this.

If the 16 year old girl is a willing partner in the relationship, she is probably not of high quality and is of a difference class than the other 16 year old girls who have enough self respect to date within their age range.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: TheVrolok

Wow. That is all.

It's her choice- not yours. Your opinion is completely meaningless, since neither the law nor the girl would be agreeing with you.

 

[astrocase]

Ixnay on the 16 year old eh. To each their own but that guy has got to be really immature or really sick. It's one or the other. What could they possibly have in common? This guy should be in a completely different part of his life and have no interest in a little girl like that. I'm not going to read through this whole thread but get this guy a job and off the playground already...

 

[BlancoNino]

This one time I kissed a girl that was 15 and I was 21. I didn't know because she looked a few years older. Was this wrong?

 

[TheVrolok]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: TheVrolok

Wow. That is all.

It's her choice- not yours. Your opinion is completely meaningless, since neither the law nor the girl would be agreeing with you.

It's too bad that some people don't always know the best thing for themselves. I hope this girl has parents that know best for this girl and kick the 25 year old to the curb. Good thing parents still have a say in the lives of their children (MINORS like this 16 year old).

 

[desiplaya4life]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9
Looks like you need to reevaluate who you choose to be your friend.

lmao

 

[Gilligansdingy]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: Tobolo
oh hell no call police

Oh fscking CHRIST.

:roll:

STFU and mind your own business. If it's consentual, who fscking cares?!?

At 16, you're MORE than able to make your own decisions, etc. The puritian sex laws in this country are fscked up.

BTW, 16 is legal age of consent in many states. In some, it is 14. So stick that in your pipe and smoke it, you bunch of overreactive retards.

OMGSHE'S16CALLTHEPOLICE!!! :roll:

All I have to say is, I hope you dont go trolling at my daughter elementary school...

 

[astrocase]

About the only thing you could possibly expect a 25 year man old to get out of a relationship with a 16 year old girl is sex. Great for the 25 year old. Not so healthy for the 16 year old who is probably expecting something more/else. There's probably a lot of lying going on and it's just unhealthy. Consensual? Sure. Nonetheless I wouldn't want my 16 year old daughter dating a 25 year old guy. When they talk about legal ages of consent there are stipulations in there about the age differences until they aren't minors anymore. They call it "similarity of age" and if you're too far apart and you're having a relationship with a minor it can be considered statuatory rape. Then there's that rule that says that only the "victim" can press charges at the age of 16 or 17 but I'm not sure if that's in every state. Parents might have more rights in some states. I'm not a lawyer but this is how I have understood it to be.

Eli is right though. The USA is way too puritan.

 

[wseyller]

I know a 35 year old man that is dating an 18 year old but she was 17 when they started seeing each other and he knock her up at 17.