So, if you know someone is trying to date ur gf, what would you do?

[stso]

Well, I found a strenge phone number on my gf's cell phone, so I called. I heard a guy voice and it sound like a classmate in our class (we're all in the same class btw). He's very obvious trying to date my gf because he's always trying to talk to her when I'm away. Anyhow, since I found out the suspicious phone number and confirmed it was him, I hacked into my gf's email account and found out that he is asking my gf out to movie. At this point, what should I do? Any advise? Btw, don't tell me to dump her, it's not an option

Edit1: Well, the reason I checked her phone history is that I got suspicious about what's going on between him and her, and I was right about it.

Edit2: It's not that I don't trust her in the beginning, but she never said a word about him. You know, we're all in the same classroom, and I also let her know that I knew this guy is trying to date her. I told her about that few month back. Now this is happenning, he's starting to ask her out.
By the way, I didn't steal her phone and look for the number. It was a Free2Go phone, and I was recharging minutes for her.

Edit3: Btw, she did not put this guys number in her cell phone phonebook. I just happen to hit (up) button and saw it in the dialed history by accident. And since it is the number I don't recognize, I start to be suspicious about it. That's why I called.

Edit4: Com'n you people. If you saw someone is hitting your GF/BF every time you turn your back to them, what would you do? Do you just pretend nothing happened? Give me a break!

Edit5: email posted as below

the physics grade is been posted on the door in front of our classroom, did you get a chance to look it up, if not, maybe you should go.

last time I did not say anything about asking you to go out because I was not sure the email address you gave me was the right or not, but now I know it was correct, so would you like to go to a movie sometime next week, since I have time next week. so please call me at (XXX) XXX-XXXX if you would like to go.

Have a nice day!!!

sincerely
NAME NAME

 

[mpitts]

#1 - Stay away from her personal stuff: cell phone, email, etc.

#2 - Don't blame the guy. If anything, blame your girlfriend.

 

[Hoober]

Originally posted by: stso
Well, I found a strenge phone number on my gf's cell phone, so I called. I heard a guy voice and it sound like a classmate in our class (we're all in the same class btw). He's very obvious trying to date my gf because he's always trying to talk to her when I'm away. Anyhow, since I found out the suspicious phone number and confirmed it was him, I hacked into my gf's email account and found out that he is asking my gf out to movie. At this point, what should I do? Any advise? Btw, don't tell me to dump her, it's not an option

Hmm... ask her about it? I'm just thinking out loud, here, but usually communication is the best form of settlement. Certainly better than stealing her phone and looking through the directory. And hacking into her email would be a felony... but hey, that's just me thinking out loud.

 

[Crimzon]

I agree with the above post.

If he knows she's taken and still is chasing her, that's messed up, but it's still her fault for entertaining it.

 

[Wingznut]

Well... Here's your big chance to see how committed she is to you.

If she dates the guy... Well, I guess it's time to find a new girlfriend.
If she doesn't... Then you know where you two stand.

But you can't spend your life trying to shelter your significant other from other people.

 

[polm]

Where the heck do you get off calling a number you found on HER cell phone ?

 

[Kenazo]

#1 - What kind of paranoid freak monitors his gf's cell phone??

#2 - If she hasn't complained about this to you she is probably interested in him. Too bad you lose.

 

[BCYL]

Talk to your gf about it... and do it in a nice way (like dont yell at her, it's not her fault)... Make your feelings clear about the situation to her, and also hear her side of the story (like how does she feel about the guy)... Then reach an agreement or compromise with her that would make both of you feel good...

The WORST thing you can do it blame it on her or yell at her... Just be honest about it and do it in a nice way... It's already bad you hacked into her email account... If she finds out about it she will feel you dont trust her etc...

 

[glen]

Originally posted by: stso
Well, I found a strenge phone number on my gf's cell phone, so I called. I heard a guy voice and it sound like a classmate in our class (we're all in the same class btw). He's very obvious trying to date my gf because he's always trying to talk to her when I'm away. Anyhow, since I found out the suspicious phone number and confirmed it was him, I hacked into my gf's email account and found out that he is asking my gf out to movie. At this point, what should I do? Any advise? Btw, don't tell me to dump her, it's not an option

You are psycho!

 

[zippy]

You hacked into her email account? Wow, okay psycho. :Q The phone is easy and probably just something you did randomly (I hope!) with no intentions of snooping (hopefully just messing with whoever it ended up being...but then you heard it was the dude)...but you went out of your way to find out some stuff about your girlfriend. Don't you trust her?

That said, if you have a good relationship with her, just ask her what the deal is. Say something like, "I heard that <insert dude's name> asked you out - is everything alright between us?" Or, if you don't think anyone knows about him asking her out, just be playing with her phone when you two are out or something and be like, "Whose number is this?"

Good luck.

 

[Pepsei]

You are a moron for hacking into your gf's account...

you should trust her enough to turn him down...



however, since you already did it... you should kick his teeth in. I really hate a third party who like that. hmmm it's worse if your gf told him she's seeing someone already and he still tries to date her. (she DID tell him that she's not available right?)

 

[Mr N8]

#1 - as said before, leaver her personal things alone, she's not your wife.

#2 - she's just a gf, so in my book, without the ring, she's fair game. If you aren't good enough, someone else will be.

 

[psteng19]

How exactly did you "hack" into her email account?

Please see my psycho stalker thread

 

[amnesiac]

Wow dude, talk about serious trust issues.
What are you doing sneaking around your g/f's personal stuff? Does she know you're violating her privacy?

You have serious problems and I recommend you talk to your g/f and figure out why you don't trust her before she realizes you're a possessive freak and dumps you. :|

If you truly trust her, then maybe you should look into how much you trust yourself. Sometimes self-mistrust manifests itself as doubt and paranoia.

 

[UNCjigga]

I don't know if you two drink or not, but if you do, well..get really loaded together one night and while you're all buzzin just blurt out, "hey, what do you think of threesomes? Would you do a threesome with me or another guy?" If she laughs and says no right away, she's yours. If she hesitates or says maybe, she's done it BEFORE....WITHOUT YOU!

 

[n0cmonkey]

Tell her what you did and let her see the movie with this other guy. Stop being a weenie.

 

[Ameesh]

Originally posted by: glen

Originally posted by: stso
Well, I found a strenge phone number on my gf's cell phone, so I called. I heard a guy voice and it sound like a classmate in our class (we're all in the same class btw). He's very obvious trying to date my gf because he's always trying to talk to her when I'm away. Anyhow, since I found out the suspicious phone number and confirmed it was him, I hacked into my gf's email account and found out that he is asking my gf out to movie. At this point, what should I do? Any advise? Btw, don't tell me to dump her, it's not an option

You are psycho!

seriously whats her number we should call her to tell her to dump you, ya freak.

 

[stso]

Well, the reason I checked her phone history is that I got suspicious about what's going on between him and her, and I was right about it.

Anyhow, how do I know if they actually go out? I don't wanna follow her

 

[yowolabi]

if you can't trust her enough to stay out of her email, then things are not good between you two anyway. Get everything out in the open and if you can't agree about rules for not talking to other people that want to break you two up, then one of you needs to have the guts to say bye to the relationship. But your an idiot if you'd even consider having her followed and haven't even talked about it with her yet. Stopping being a wuss and ask her what's going on.

 

[Beau]

You violated her rights by snooping around in her email and phone. Grow up. Learn to trust. If she violates your trust, then its her fault, not his. She's the one in a relationship, not him.

 

[NakaNaka]

Dude - I know how it can be to have some jealousy. But calling a number on her cell phone is over the top. Then hacking into her e-mail??? C'mon dude.

 

[Yeeny]

I'd be pissed! Thats my woman dammit!

 

[n0cmonkey]

It would be kind of funny if you went off on her and found out he is just a friend. It would also be kind of cool if you went to jail

 

[Beau]

Originally posted by: stso
Well, the reason I checked her phone history is that I got suspicious about what's going on between him and her, and I was right about it.

Anyhow, how do I know if they actually go out? I don't wanna follow her

So you'll snoop through her sh!t, but you won't follow her?

Talk to her about it. Tell her what you did (prepare for a shitstorm for that one), and see what's going on.

 

[KthxBye]

1. Put a GPS under her car seat and retrieve it later to see where shes been!
2. Guessing the password cause you know which ones she uses does not count as hacking into her email.