So I just got the "I think I want to take a break..."

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: arcenite
I have been with my Fiancee for a little more than 3 years now and everything was going pretty damn good. It appears though as if she's not sure what she wants to do with her life and she wants to take a break. I have never allowed myself to feel for someone as I do her, and this is the reason. Does anyone have a snickers?


Bill

Let me guess... she's in her early 20's?

 

[LanceM]

Originally posted by: Shadowknight

They don't understand that a relationship and love is more than a feeling of ecstacy and happiness which you only feel at the VERY BEGINNING of courtship. They think once that feeling's over, it's not the right relationship for them. Girls like that don't realize that that feeling is NEVER going to last with ANYONE. It's about commitment and a more."quiet" form of love as time passes.

Nail on the head.

 

[scarpent]

Ouch!

 

[Conky]

Originally posted by: Ime

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: necine
breaks mean she wants another dude... but she wants to put u on the backburner incase the new one doesnt work out.

This is unfortunately the correct answer.

I agree. You just became the fallback guy.

Don't fall for it. Get the ring, end the relationship.

I also agree. You just became plan B. Time to kick her to the curb and then drink her away. :beer:

 

[BooGiMaN]

she dumps you durign the holidays...thats just cold....break off any contact and burn everything that reminds you of her.....tell her she is dead to you now

 

[RaiderJ]

Originally posted by: icelazer
<shameless on>That's funny she said she wanted a break, she just told me "Please, don't stop!" </shameless off>

:laugh:

 

[Saint Nick]

unfortuneately i think that time is coming to me.

i can feel it

 

[remagavon]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: arcenite
I have been with my Fiancee for a little more than 3 years now and everything was going pretty damn good. It appears though as if she's not sure what she wants to do with her life and she wants to take a break. I have never allowed myself to feel for someone as I do her, and this is the reason. Does anyone have a snickers?


Bill

Let me guess... she's in her early 20's?

You said that before .

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: remagavon

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: arcenite
I have been with my Fiancee for a little more than 3 years now and everything was going pretty damn good. It appears though as if she's not sure what she wants to do with her life and she wants to take a break. I have never allowed myself to feel for someone as I do her, and this is the reason. Does anyone have a snickers?


Bill

Let me guess... she's in her early 20's?

You said that before .

:shocked:

I thought this was a new thread

 

[jinduy]

how old is she

 

[DaWhim]

Originally posted by: arcenite

I have the same feeling, and I made that clear to her. When I wrote this I was pretty upset but after taking a shower, my take on it is that there's no use living in tears about it because if she's unhappy with me, I am going to be unhappy. I believe I finally understand the phrase "I want you to be happy, even if it's not with me..."

SampSon, I know what you are saying and many people have often said the same thing to me.

Time to go do some studying for my exam tomorrow...

:heart: ATOT

Bill

wait till the bitterness kicks in...

 

[flexy]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
tell her you'll hold onto the ring while she figures out what she wants to do.

NO.

Why should HE provide her with the security that HE will always be there in case SHE wants to marry ? The more security she has regarding him the more she will crave a "break" - she will ONLY realize his value if there is a REAL break/being away fro some time and NOT some semi-breakl with the promise "i will be there once YOU decide (i'll just wait with the ring in my hands)... can you make an even bigger a$$hat out of yourself ? She will break-up even quicker if she sees what a tool you are and how she can manipulate you.

Or how should i understand the "i'll keep the ring" ?

 

[isekii]

Think of this opportunity and screw everything that's not nailed down.

 

[YetioDoom]

Update??

 

[Shadowknight]

Originally posted by: isekii
Think of this opportunity and screw everything that's not nailed down.

... Well, it'll be kind of embarrasing when guests come over and they ask what those stains on the lamp shade are...

 

[SmoochyTX]

Come on OP. We need an update here.

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Come on OP. We need an update here.

we know the update, he said "ok honey whatever you want" and then found out she is screwing everything in sight while coming over late at night to get some loving from the OP and feel "loved" while desparately seeking that feeling of "being loved" again.

and so the cycle begins.

there are no breaks, only breakups/divorce.