So I just got the "I think I want to take a break..."

[MustangSVT]

break it up.

 

[BriGy86]

going on "breaks" always ends badly, at least it has with everyone i know

 

[yosuke188]

My Advice: Don't ask for advice relating to love on an online forum, especially ones that are filled with fat, greasy, single men.

 

[Xyclone]

Chew it over with a Twix... whoops, I meant Snickers.

 

[pmoa]

Originally posted by: arcenite
I have been with my Fiancee for a little more than 3 years now and everything was going pretty damn good. It appears though as if she's not sure what she wants to do with her life and she wants to take a break. I have never allowed myself to feel for someone as I do her, and this is the reason. Does anyone have a snickers?


Bill

so sorry man....i got the same thing in july...happens a lot! its been tough but you'll get through it man! :beer:

 

[mugs]

Don't screw the girl from the copy shop or you'll never live it down.

Sorry man.

 

[Looney]

Originally posted by: arcenite
I have been with my Fiancee for a little more than 3 years now and everything was going pretty damn good. It appears though as if she's not sure what she wants to do with her life and she wants to take a break. I have never allowed myself to feel for someone as I do her, and this is the reason. Does anyone have a snickers?


Bill

She's been a fiancee for 3 years? Maybe that's the problem.... maybe she just thinks you're stalling.

 

[orion23]

Be glad it happened now and not after the marriage. Allow her to take her time, but don't just wait around. Be ready to move on, if you have a chance, take it. She'll understand when or if she comes back!

 

[winr]

Best wishes arcenite.:sun:

Good luck on the exam.

 

[Zap Brannigan]

Originally posted by: orion23
Be glad it happened now and not after the marriage.

 

[necine]

breaks mean she wants another dude... but she wants to put u on the backburner incase the new one doesnt work out.

 

[bigrash]

i don't think you need skickers, but you might need some vaseline

sorry, i couldnt resist

 

[spidey07]

Break means its over.

People in love don't want "breaks"

Move on.

It really is just that simple.

 

[lasergecko]

It's time to use one of These and move on.

 

[Schfifty Five]

Originally posted by: SampSon
You're so young I'm surprised you actually believed your potential marriage would last.
Good luck.

How old are they?

 

[drum]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: moshquerade
enjoy the break, really.
for one thing don't call her/IM her/email her all the time, because absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I thought it was "Absence makes the heart wander."

it definately should be from my experiences

 

[gotsmack]

defiantely get the ring back. You must protect your capital investments at all costs!

 

[dullard]

I missed this last month. Sorry to hear about it, and I hope things have gone well for you.

When I got that message after 4 years of dating, I was devistated. We broke up for a few months. When we got back together, I thought I was the happiest person in the world. Seven years later, multiple attempts on her part to "go on a break" again, and now a divorce I see the light. Getting back together after the "break" was the single most stupid thing I could have possibly done in my entire life. I will regret it forever. Note: I'm extremely happy now with someone else.

 

[techtonics]

There is nothing more difficult to deal with than a break up with a loved one. My advice is to keep yourself busy to keep your mind off her. Exercise is a good choice in activity.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: EmperorIQ
i'm the wrong person to give advice here, but my take on "taking a break" is just a bunch of bs really. Its just black and white, either a break up or stay together.

oh yea, and hold onto the ring.

this man speaks the truth

Indeed. "Taking a break" is a load of BS. If she doesn't want to be with you, she should say so instead of pulling a cop-out line like that.

Get the ring back and kick her to the curb.

 

[Ronstang]

Originally posted by: necine
breaks mean she wants another dude... but she wants to put u on the backburner incase the new one doesnt work out.

This is unfortunately the correct answer.

 

[Shadowknight]

Originally posted by: yosuke188
My Advice: Don't ask for advice relating to love on an online forum, especially ones that are filled with fat, greasy, single men.

QFT. But if you've been a relationship for 3 years and she "wants a break", that shows up more red flags than over the Kremlin on May Day. I'm not going to necessarily assume that she's having an affair, but some girls get out of a relationship because that "spark" isn't there anymore. They don't understand that a relationship and love is more than a feeling of ecstacy and happiness which you only feel at the VERY BEGINNING of courtship. They think once that feeling's over, it's not the right relationship for them. Girls like that don't realize that that feeling is NEVER going to last with ANYONE. It's about commitment and a more."quiet" form of love as time passes.

Anyway, good luck.

 

[Ime]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: necine
breaks mean she wants another dude... but she wants to put u on the backburner incase the new one doesnt work out.

This is unfortunately the correct answer.

I agree. You just became the fallback guy.

Don't fall for it. Get the ring, end the relationship.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: necine
breaks mean she wants another dude... but she wants to put u on the backburner incase the new one doesnt work out.

I have never had this happen to me, but every single friend I've had that has had this happen to them the girlfriend wanted to **** another guy but keep him at bay. All but one were smart enough to dumped the hoez when this happened; the one guy that allowed her to of course got back with her, and she ended up burning him again, wasting precious years and thousands of dollars.

 

[trmiv]

So it's been a month, what happened with this? Is she enjoying new salami already?