so i got mad...

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: biffbacon
so i got mad at my g/f b/c she smokes to much weed. I got pi$$ed, hung up on her, and launched my phone at a nearby fence. Now my cell is broken, i have to buy a new one, and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner. I think it is time to cut off contact.

Actually your cell is broken because you are unable to control your temper.

and you're a tool.


~~edit
Got it clear now.

BTW, not that I condone her being an addict, she's a tool too, if it makes you feel any better.

How am I a tool?
By pointing out his inability to control his temper is what resulted in the phone being broken?
You're more of a tool by abdicating personal responsibilty for one's actions.
We don't know if what he is saying is true about her. We do know his actions are self admitted.
You are making some assumption of me based on my holding him responsible for his actions.
"She made me do it" only works , once, when you're 5 !! Otherwise, you're just punk.

Your post confuses me.

The tool comment was directed at biffbacon. I realize that may have not been apparent. If this doesn't clear things up let me know.

Got it clear now.... Thanks...

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: upsciLLion

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: biffbacon

Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.

Maybe if you're lucky he's a proctologist and can help you out with that stick up your ignorant ass.

ups

and how he'll help you get your face out of his cheeks, we'll never know, without pics.
BTW, what's your excuse for being such an asshat?

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: biffbacon

Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.

i think this is a terrible stereotype, and has nothing to do with the situation. the situation is i really liked her, she really liked me, but she also really liked weed. that in the long run is what is coming between us and destroying our relationship. ive tried hard to help her cut down on it, but as someone said earlier, a person wont stop doing something until they want to; no matter who, or how many people try to intervene

Well, it may be a stereotype, but it fits you well. And there is some truth in stereotypes or else they wouldn't exist.
It seems to me, as an disinterested third party, that you aren't so much interested in her welfare, or your relationship, but how it affects you. Someone else commented on your ego-centric POV as well.
I haven't heard you say anything of attempting relationship therapy, or NA, or some other substance abuse program. It sounds as if you're simply "laying down the law" and she ain't toeing the line. That sort of "rehab" never works. It only works when it's applied by professionals to people who are open to the input.
Dude, I know it hurts when your significant other is abusing themself. My ex is an alcoholic. Yet, I now know how much I exacerbated the situation. Not that I opened the bottles, but I wasn't as supportive as I could have been when she really needed it, I had my own "rackets" that I engaged in that only made things worse for her and as such we seperated and she had to recover on her own.
I wish I could've been a better man about it.
20 / 20 hindsight in effect......
That and a few years in therapy.
Best of luck to you and her.

its not true at all that i havent tried to help her. i am very interested in her well being. therapy has been suggested, and like i said we've talked about it for about 5 months. it just seems as she doesnt want to stop, or even slow down. her only replies are "you would be amazed how many professionals smoke it everyday, and you dont even know about it". i have tried extensively, but there is only so much one person can do. until she is ready to quit, or slow down she wont. im not sure what else you would expect me to do in this situation. i can talk about it until im blue in the face, but if a person doesnt want to hear what you are saying theres nothing to be done. ive decided just to tell her how much i care about her, but that i will no longer talk to her until she tries to get some type of help. thanks all for your input

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: biffbacon

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: biffbacon

its not true at all that i havent tried to help her. i am very interested in her well being. therapy has been suggested, and like i said we've talked about it for about 5 months. it just seems as she doesnt want to stop, or even slow down. her only replies are "you would be amazed how many professionals smoke it everyday, and you dont even know about it". i have tried extensively, but there is only so much one person can do. until she is ready to quit, or slow down she wont. im not sure what else you would expect me to do in this situation. i can talk about it until im blue in the face, but if a person doesnt want to hear what you are saying theres nothing to be done. ive decided just to tell her how much i care about her, but that i will no longer talk to her until she tries to get some type of help. thanks all for your input

Now that sounds like a plan. Much better than hurling things at immovable surfaces.
Seriously, good luck to both of you.

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: biffbacon

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

Originally posted by: biffbacon

its not true at all that i havent tried to help her. i am very interested in her well being. therapy has been suggested, and like i said we've talked about it for about 5 months. it just seems as she doesnt want to stop, or even slow down. her only replies are "you would be amazed how many professionals smoke it everyday, and you dont even know about it". i have tried extensively, but there is only so much one person can do. until she is ready to quit, or slow down she wont. im not sure what else you would expect me to do in this situation. i can talk about it until im blue in the face, but if a person doesnt want to hear what you are saying theres nothing to be done. ive decided just to tell her how much i care about her, but that i will no longer talk to her until she tries to get some type of help. thanks all for your input

Now that sounds like a plan. Much better than hurling things at immovable surfaces.
Seriously, good luck to both of you.

thanks AC im hoping the best happens

 

[shimsham]

why were you dating her if you didnt like the fact that she smokes pot? did she smoke when you met her?

 

[hawkeye81x]

Sell all her stuff.
Buy tons of weed.
Pretend you are addicted and force her to feel remorse for what she has forced you to do.
If she quits, yay!
If she doesn't quite, you can trade it to a drug addict for a new girlfriend

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: shimsham
why were you dating her if you didnt like the fact that she smokes pot? did she smoke when you met her?

i knew she had smoked in the past, but when we started dating she didnt. Then a couple months into our relationship she started up again. i didnt mind that she did in the past, and didnt think i would mind if she did again, but never realized the magnitude of the problem. i thought it was like a couple times a month thing, or a when she went partying thing. i never knew it was an everyday habit

 

[Chaotic42]

Originally posted by: Phuz

...and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner.

No, all you're numbers are gone because you have no self control.

Actually they're gone because the phone's velocity dropped to zero very quickly.

Edit: Relative to the fence

 

[biffbacon]

lol, thanks for the defense chaotic

 

[slycat]

lets put it this way, IF they/she/he cared enough about you, they will change.
IF you are important enough, it will happen. If not, no use trying. So, you should know
where you stand.

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: slycat
lets put it this way, IF they/she/he cared enough about you, they will change.
IF you are important enough, it will happen. If not, no use trying. So, you should know
where you stand.

slycat, thats what im going for now. today i told her that i think she has a problem, and i want to get help. I have tried to help, but she wont listen. Now i told her that I wont talk to her until she stops, or gets some kind of help

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: slycat
lets put it this way, IF they/she/he cared enough about you, they will change.
IF you are important enough, it will happen. If not, no use trying. So, you should know
where you stand.

Actually, that doesn't work with addicts.
It's themselves that they care little about.
And if you don't care so much about yourself, everyone else is below that level.
Biff knows where he stands, he used to puff, too, but he quit. It's her cross to bear.
Never forget about PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY in these issues.
He needs to do what is good for him, first and foremost.

 

[guapo337]

Originally posted by: bolinger

Originally posted by: Feldenak

Originally posted by: biffbacon
so i got mad at my g/f b/c she smokes to much weed. I got pi$$ed, hung up on her, and launched my phone at a nearby fence. Now my cell is broken, i have to buy a new one, and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner. I think it is time to cut off contact.

Actually your cell is broken because you are unable to control your temper.

Maybe if he smoked a little of that hydro beforehand, he would have been much more chill in the situation.

unless he's a TWEAKER!!!

 

[Rapidskies]

Ask yourself this, do you want someone stoned out of their mind 24/7 raising your kids? 27 is far past the age to start growing up. I don't blame you for losing your temper as you are hurt, as I'm sure you've invested quite a bit of time and love into this relationship. I would call it quits if I were you, just think of what your little kid will be saying "Daddy why is mommy always laughing and eating all my girl scout cookies?". Good luck!

 

[Renob]

and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner.


I love it when people blame their dumb @ss behavior on others.

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: Renob
and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner.


I love it when people blame their dumb @ss behavior on others.

if you read the posts you would have realized that i admitted it was dumb

 

[Corporate Thug]

biffbacon, RELAX man, have a few puffs and chill

 

[Renob]

if you read the posts you would have realized that i admitted it was dumb


I read the post, I was just posting what I thought.

Also Im glad you thought out how dumb it was, there have been a few times in my life were I felt like killing people but am happy I did not act on those thoughts.

 

[PistachioByAzul]

Your girlfriend sounds cool. You sound like you need to smoke a little.

 

[biffbacon]

Originally posted by: EngineNr9
Your girlfriend sounds cool. You sound like you need to smoke a little.

yeah, thanks