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OREOSpeedwagon

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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?

 

OREOSpeedwagon

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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: Phuz
...and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner.

No, all you're numbers are gone because you have no self control. :)

While that could be true, you could also argue that statement. If his gf was not a stoner the whole situation would not have happened and biffbacon would still have his cell phone. However, you can have no self control and still have a cell phone. His gf being a stoner triggered his no self control, sending a message to his hands to throw the cell at the fence. If his gf was not a stoner biffbacon would still be happily chatting on his cell. :confused:
One could also postulate that if his GF wasn't a stoner, it would be something else that "pushes his button".
It's always easier to blame someone else, but the fact remains, it was his phone to choose to throw or not. There were other responses available. He chose to chuck the phone at the fence. It's his action to own.

Not saying it wasn't his fault, but if his gf wasn't a stoner he'd still have his cell phone.
 

AlienCraft

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Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?
My life, health and cat.
I'll kill you if you come after the cat! :evil: :D
 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: Phuz
...and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner.

No, all you're numbers are gone because you have no self control. :)

While that could be true, you could also argue that statement. If his gf was not a stoner the whole situation would not have happened and biffbacon would still have his cell phone. However, you can have no self control and still have a cell phone. His gf being a stoner triggered his no self control, sending a message to his hands to throw the cell at the fence. If his gf was not a stoner biffbacon would still be happily chatting on his cell. :confused:
One could also postulate that if his GF wasn't a stoner, it would be something else that "pushes his button".
It's always easier to blame someone else, but the fact remains, it was his phone to choose to throw or not. There were other responses available. He chose to chuck the phone at the fence. It's his action to own.

Not saying it wasn't his fault, but if his gf wasn't a stoner he'd still have his cell phone.
I say he would still lose his temper over something, and the cell phone would still be at risk.

 

Mill

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Both of you need to grow up, but I couldn't deal with an everyday thing like that. Especially, if I wanted to have kids or the like.
 

OREOSpeedwagon

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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?
My life, health and cat.
I'll kill you if you come after the cat! :evil: :D

Ahh, so you still think that cat you're petting right now is yours?

*evil smile as he strokes AlienCraft's cat* :evil:
 
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This is priceless. 27 is too old to be smoking pot, but apparently it's not too old to be throwing tantrums and blaming others for your own shortcomings. Hate to say it bro, but I think she needs to dump you.
 

djheater

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Feldenak
Originally posted by: biffbacon
so i got mad at my g/f b/c she smokes to much weed. I got pi$$ed, hung up on her, and launched my phone at a nearby fence. Now my cell is broken, i have to buy a new one, and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner. I think it is time to cut off contact.

Actually your cell is broken because you are unable to control your temper.


and you're a tool.


~~edit

BTW, not that I condone her being an addict, she's a tool too, if it makes you feel any better.
 

Rainsford

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You know how you don't solve problems? Loosing your temper. Work it out. You said you're both 27 and that's too old for her to be smoking pot all the time. Maybe, but it's too old to fly off the handle either. Sounds like you both could use some self improvement.
 

biffbacon

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Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
This is priceless. 27 is too old to be smoking pot, but apparently it's not too old to be throwing tantrums and blaming others for your own shortcomings. Hate to say it bro, but I think she needs to dump you.

for fvcks sake, i need to grow up? i really like this girl, and wanted things to work out. it frustrates me more than anything. i can not recall ever losing my temper before, but she pushed me too it. we were having a serious conversation, and then she just started laughing, and couldnt talk b/c she was high as a kite. i do not denounce weed. or pot smokers, but i am a doctor, and dont want it in my life. i was hoping she would make a choice, and choose me, but it now appears she has chosen the weed. again, it is very frustrating... and further i do admit that it was a childish tantrum that i threw, but the fact the she drove me to this proves to me that i do not need this kind of thing in my life, or anything that will bring me down.
 
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Originally posted by: biffbacon
Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
This is priceless. 27 is too old to be smoking pot, but apparently it's not too old to be throwing tantrums and blaming others for your own shortcomings. Hate to say it bro, but I think she needs to dump you.

for fvcks sake, i need to grow up? i really like this girl, and wanted things to work out. it frustrates me more than anything. i can not recall ever losing my temper before, but she pushed me too it. we were having a serious conversation, and then she just started laughing, and couldnt talk b/c she was high as a kite. i do not denounce weed. or pot smokers, but i am a doctor, and dont want it in my life. i was hoping she would make a choice, and choose me, but it now appears she has chosen the weed. again, it is very frustrating... and further i do admit that it was a childish tantrum that i threw, but the fact the she drove me to this proves to me that i do not need this kind of thing in my life, or anything that will bring me down.

Calm down, I was half serious and half joking. But I'll admit the serious half was to see if you'd throw another tantrum. :) Get rid of her, you'll both probably be better off.
 

djheater

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Originally posted by: biffbacon
Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
This is priceless. 27 is too old to be smoking pot, but apparently it's not too old to be throwing tantrums and blaming others for your own shortcomings. Hate to say it bro, but I think she needs to dump you.

for fvcks sake, i need to grow up? i really like this girl, and wanted things to work out. it frustrates me more than anything. i can not recall ever losing my temper before, but she pushed me too it. we were having a serious conversation, and then she just started laughing, and couldnt talk b/c she was high as a kite. i do not denounce weed. or pot smokers, but i am a doctor, and dont want it in my life. i was hoping she would make a choice, and choose me, but it now appears she has chosen the weed. again, it is very frustrating... and further i do admit that it was a childish tantrum that i threw, but the fact the she drove me to this proves to me that i do not need this kind of thing in my life, or anything that will bring me down.



You sound very egocentric here.
Probably why everyone is crapping you, that and the sily popular notion that marijuana is just fine.

Clearly the girl has a problem, drug use everyday, unless perscribed, indicates addiction, if only psychological. That may be a rational reason to abandon the relationship, but "her bringing you down", is not.

 

AlienCraft

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Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?
My life, health and cat.
I'll kill you if you come after the cat! :evil: :D

Ahh, so you still think that cat you're petting right now is yours?

*evil smile as he strokes AlienCraft's cat* :evil:
No, I am quite aware I am the cat's human.... :heart: :D
 

OREOSpeedwagon

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May 30, 2001
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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?
My life, health and cat.
I'll kill you if you come after the cat! :evil: :D

Ahh, so you still think that cat you're petting right now is yours?

*evil smile as he strokes AlienCraft's cat* :evil:
No, I am quite aware I am the cat's human.... :heart: :D

perhaps you have a point...




the decoy cat's human anyway!

ahhhahhahahhaha! :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Feldenak
Originally posted by: biffbacon
so i got mad at my g/f b/c she smokes to much weed. I got pi$$ed, hung up on her, and launched my phone at a nearby fence. Now my cell is broken, i have to buy a new one, and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner. I think it is time to cut off contact.

Actually your cell is broken because you are unable to control your temper.


and you're a tool.


~~edit

BTW, not that I condone her being an addict, she's a tool too, if it makes you feel any better.
How am I a tool?
By pointing out his inability to control his temper is what resulted in the phone being broken?
You're more of a tool by abdicating personal responsibilty for one's actions.
We don't know if what he is saying is true about her. We do know his actions are self admitted.
You are making some assumption of me based on my holding him responsible for his actions.
"She made me do it" only works , once, when you're 5 !! Otherwise, you're just punk.


 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Double post, sorry.

Double post 3 minutes after your first post? Ponder this situation I must.
I got distracted and didn't notice it had posted.
Eating, watching TV, playing with the cat and surfing ATOT. so sue me.....

i might, you got anything valuable?
My life, health and cat.
I'll kill you if you come after the cat! :evil: :D

Ahh, so you still think that cat you're petting right now is yours?

*evil smile as he strokes AlienCraft's cat* :evil:
No, I am quite aware I am the cat's human.... :heart: :D

perhaps you have a point...




the decoy cat's human anyway!

ahhhahhahahhaha! :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:
LOL, POD cats OH MI GAWD!

 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: biffbacon
Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
This is priceless. 27 is too old to be smoking pot, but apparently it's not too old to be throwing tantrums and blaming others for your own shortcomings. Hate to say it bro, but I think she needs to dump you.

for fvcks sake, i need to grow up? i really like this girl, and wanted things to work out. it frustrates me more than anything. i can not recall ever losing my temper before, but she pushed me too it. we were having a serious conversation, and then she just started laughing, and couldnt talk b/c she was high as a kite. i do not denounce weed. or pot smokers, but i am a doctor, and dont want it in my life. i was hoping she would make a choice, and choose me, but it now appears she has chosen the weed. again, it is very frustrating... and further i do admit that it was a childish tantrum that i threw, but the fact the she drove me to this proves to me that i do not need this kind of thing in my life, or anything that will bring me down.

Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.
 

biffbacon

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Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.

i think this is a terrible stereotype, and has nothing to do with the situation. the situation is i really liked her, she really liked me, but she also really liked weed. that in the long run is what is coming between us and destroying our relationship. ive tried hard to help her cut down on it, but as someone said earlier, a person wont stop doing something until they want to; no matter who, or how many people try to intervene
 

djheater

Lifer
Mar 19, 2001
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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Feldenak
Originally posted by: biffbacon
so i got mad at my g/f b/c she smokes to much weed. I got pi$$ed, hung up on her, and launched my phone at a nearby fence. Now my cell is broken, i have to buy a new one, and all my numbers are gone b/c she is a stoner. I think it is time to cut off contact.

Actually your cell is broken because you are unable to control your temper.


and you're a tool.


~~edit

BTW, not that I condone her being an addict, she's a tool too, if it makes you feel any better.
How am I a tool?
By pointing out his inability to control his temper is what resulted in the phone being broken?
You're more of a tool by abdicating personal responsibilty for one's actions.
We don't know if what he is saying is true about her. We do know his actions are self admitted.
You are making some assumption of me based on my holding him responsible for his actions.
"She made me do it" only works , once, when you're 5 !! Otherwise, you're just punk.

Your post confuses me.

The tool comment was directed at biffbacon. I realize that may have not been apparent. If this doesn't clear things up let me know.

 

upsciLLion

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Feb 21, 2001
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Originally posted by: AlienCraft
Originally posted by: biffbacon
Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian
Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.

Maybe if you're lucky he's a proctologist and can help you out with that stick up your ignorant ass. :p

ups
 

AlienCraft

Lifer
Nov 23, 2002
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Originally posted by: biffbacon
Now we see the problem.
You're a Doctor, so of course the world revolves around you.
The only thing bringing "you" down is you.

i think this is a terrible stereotype, and has nothing to do with the situation. the situation is i really liked her, she really liked me, but she also really liked weed. that in the long run is what is coming between us and destroying our relationship. ive tried hard to help her cut down on it, but as someone said earlier, a person wont stop doing something until they want to; no matter who, or how many people try to intervene
Well, it may be a stereotype, but it fits you well. And there is some truth in stereotypes or else they wouldn't exist.
It seems to me, as an disinterested third party, that you aren't so much interested in her welfare, or your relationship, but how it affects you. Someone else commented on your ego-centric POV as well.
I haven't heard you say anything of attempting relationship therapy, or NA, or some other substance abuse program. It sounds as if you're simply "laying down the law" and she ain't toeing the line. That sort of "rehab" never works. It only works when it's applied by professionals to people who are open to the input.
Dude, I know it hurts when your significant other is abusing themself. My ex is an alcoholic. Yet, I now know how much I exacerbated the situation. Not that I opened the bottles, but I wasn't as supportive as I could have been when she really needed it, I had my own "rackets" that I engaged in that only made things worse for her and as such we seperated and she had to recover on her own.
I wish I could've been a better man about it.
20 / 20 hindsight in effect......
That and a few years in therapy.
Best of luck to you and her.