So I figure I'm screwed.. (relationship stuff)

[rgwalt]

Originally posted by: Ramses

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

Ahh, the practical, been with for last year and a half or so one knows. She's a very non-standard person, grown up differently than most people, it's hard to explain without going on and on but take my word for it that it's not as odd as it would normally be considered that she's able to discuss this with me instead of yelling and screaming.

On the other girl. I dont know precisely, but I'm sure enough to give this some thought. I know her, could always read her well.

Well, while this seems kinda under-handed, I would make sure the other girl would take me back before leaving the one you are with. Remember the addage that the grass is always greener? Well, once you get over to the other side of the street, you might not like what you find. I would stick with the girl you are with, but that is just my opinion.

However, if I couldn't bring myself to decide, I wouldn't take either.

Ryan

 

[Azraele]

What a tough situation. Yet, I think deep down in your heart, you know who you will pick. Follow your heart.

 

[Stark]

Well I wasent going to bring it up, but there pretty equal on that note also..

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So you're banging two girls who know nothing about each other and asking strangers which one you should choose. If that is the case, then my answer is:

all three of you are idiots and you specifically are a piece of crap. But that's just MHO.

 

[Ramses]

Well, while this seems kinda under-handed, I would make sure the other girl would take me back before leaving the one you are with. Remember the addage that the grass is always greener? Well, once you get over to the other side of the street, you might not like what you find. I would stick with the girl you are with, but that is just my opinion.

Thought of that and, you guessed it, the practical current girl says she'll be there if it dosent work out.
Now, personally, this seems like it would be a very crappy thing for me to do, I dont know that I could look her in the eye afterwards....

Your right about that grass is greener thing, I learned that one a long while ago, and still have to remind myself of it. I think it's a genetic guy thing..

 

[Ramses]

Originally posted by: Stark

Well I wasent going to bring it up, but there pretty equal on that note also..

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So you're banging two girls who know nothing about each other and asking strangers which one you should choose. If that is the case, then my answer is:

all three of you are idiots and you specifically are a piece of crap. But that's just MHO.

No, I've been in a very much monogamous relationship with the practical one for about a year and a half, the other I havent seen in a long while, broke things off kinda suddenly and for practical, but not very good in retrospect, reasons. If you read my post a little more carefully I think all immediatly pertinant information is there.

As for asking strangers, what's the harm really? I don't know most of you, you don't know me...?
Fresh opinions are nice sometimes...

 

[NaughtyusMaximus]

I'd say keep your current girl for the same reason as someone already noted. The grass is always greener...

 

[rahvin]

Ramses,

If you dump her to try out the old thing she's going to cheat on you in her middle age, and she will be justified doing it. You can't second guess it, if you aren't in love you shouldn't be making commitments of any kind.

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: Ramses

Originally posted by: Zakath15
It is a tough decision, either way... personally, I would choose whichever stands to be the longer relationship.

Of course, I tend to be a "long-term" relationship kinda guy.

Same here on the long term relationship, I don't date anyone that I cant atleast consider spending many years with, and I've done pretty well so far. Not many women, but the one's I've known have all been extrordanary. My timing has just gone all funky on this one..

I'm going to put in my two cents.

could you see yourself married to either of them?

if you couldn't marry them then what is the point of dating them, it's obviously someone who would drive you nuts,

and if you could ask yourself in stressfull situtions which one would handle things better without blowing their top.

 

[Stark]

Ok, I stand corrected. You're not a complete piece of crap.

Generally speaking, it's best to leave ex-girlfriends and just that... EX-girlfriends.

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: Ramses

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

Ahh, the practical, been with for last year and a half or so one knows. She's a very non-standard person, grown up differently than most people, it's hard to explain without going on and on but take my word for it that it's not as odd as it would normally be considered that she's able to discuss this with me instead of yelling and screaming.

On the other girl. I dont know precisely, but I'm sure enough to give this some thought. I know her, could always read her well.

Ok so you can read her. but does that mean if she gets mad she isn't going to scream and yell. ??

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

Originally posted by: rgwalt

Originally posted by: Ramses

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

Ahh, the practical, been with for last year and a half or so one knows. She's a very non-standard person, grown up differently than most people, it's hard to explain without going on and on but take my word for it that it's not as odd as it would normally be considered that she's able to discuss this with me instead of yelling and screaming.

On the other girl. I dont know precisely, but I'm sure enough to give this some thought. I know her, could always read her well.

Well, while this seems kinda under-handed, I would make sure the other girl would take me back before leaving the one you are with. Remember the addage that the grass is always greener? Well, once you get over to the other side of the street, you might not like what you find. I would stick with the girl you are with, but that is just my opinion.

However, if I couldn't bring myself to decide, I wouldn't take either.

Ryan

In my Experience the Grass isn't always greener on the otherside of the fence. In some cases there is no grass for several months before it grows in green,

 

[rgwalt]

Well Ramses, it sounds like you really have cornered the situation pretty well. I don't have anything to tell you other than to be careful here. No matter how open minded your current girl is, it really bothers me that she is willing to let you go AND come back of your own accord. That isn't human nature. There are always exceptions to the rule, but more than likely the girl you are with may have some hidden issues. Now, I'm not saying that is the case, I'm just suggesting that it could be a problem. I don't know either of these women, so it is your call.

Ryan

 

[oLLie]

If I was in that situation and I absolutely couldn't decide, I wouldn't choose either of them as a gf and just hope that I could stay good friends (at least speaking acquaintances) with both.

Ollie

 

[Gulzakar]

Stick with stability...it's obvious that this woman you are with is wise...feeling alive and young again only last so long...living with someone who will stick by your side and love you is a hard thing to find...I mean, she knows about the other woman! Either way you go, you are going to wonder whats going on with the other person.