So I figure I'm screwed.. (relationship stuff)

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: baffled2
At least you have choices, here in Boston my options are dweebs,geeks,freaks and lesbians

So true... It's boston, what do you expect?

Of course, if you're a guy, you always have a fine babe like baff to keep you company, .

 

[lawaris]

Originally posted by: baffled2
At least you have choices, here in Boston my options are dweebs,geeks,freaks and lesbians

U ain't looking hard enough

 

[Red Dawn]

So if a friend here dies... we can't discuss it.. but relationship stuff.. we can chat..

How about posting about it like Vultures or Bloody Vampires talking about a kid who made a bad choice? Something I'm sure he wouldn't want discussed on any Internet message board. Or how about someone who does a good deed then reveals in the attention it garners him... so much so that he bumps the threads talking about it so it goes to the top of the page? You guys are nothing but a bunch of pathetic voyeurs.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

So if a friend here dies... we can't discuss it.. but relationship stuff.. we can chat..

How about posting about it like Vultures or Bloody Vampires talking about a kid who made a bad choice? Something I'm sure he wouldn't want discussed on any Internet message board. Or how about someone who does a good deed then reveals in the attention it garners him... so much so that he bumps the threads talking about it so it goes to the top of the page? You guys are nothing but a bunch of pathetic voyeurs.

or calling that same kid an idiot and slamming the entire generation over it? at least some of the people here helped rather than showing how cruel and heartless they can truely be.

 

[StageLeft]

Go with the hotter one. You know I'm right.

 

[Red Dawn]

Cruel and Heartless is using the incident as something to chat about and to build up ones prestige at ATOT. My comment was off the cuff. I was going to follow it up but the thread was locked. The poor Kid obviously had a mental and nervous breakdown but for you guys it's just something to chat about. If you had any class what so ever you would have just let it be after you had made saure he was ok. But no, there was adulation to be had and some of you (gopunk) wasn't going to miss out on the opportunity to take advantage of it.

 

[wfbberzerker]

still waitin on those pics

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

So if a friend here dies... we can't discuss it.. but relationship stuff.. we can chat..

How about posting about it like Vultures or Bloody Vampires talking about a kid who made a bad choice? Something I'm sure he wouldn't want discussed on any Internet message board. Or how about someone who does a good deed then reveals in the attention it garners him... so much so that he bumps the threads talking about it so it goes to the top of the page? You guys are nothing but a bunch of pathetic voyeurs.

or calling that same kid an idiot and slamming the entire generation over it? at least some of the people here helped rather than showing how cruel and heartless they can truely be.

Some day that confused 15 yr old will be ,hopefully,fully recovered and all grown up, he may have completed an advanced degree, he may aspire to a career that requires high securiy clearance, he may aspire to run for public office. I think he'll be mighty grateful to know that there's no easily accesible thread devulging info that brands him as mentally unstable.

That thread being pulled is just the same as a juvenille court record being sealed, the mods did the boy a favor !

 

[Pliablemoose]

Ramses, ...get them mad @ you for something, not just a little mad, I mean really mad.

Sounds a little odd, but you'll find out what they're like mad sooner or later, so make it now. Do something like slip an envelope somewhere in her purse that explains what you're doing (leave out the contest part), leave the note or message in such a way that it's impossible for you to have left it after you got them mad.

Trust me, you'll really want to know how they argue before you get married to one of them

 

[Red Dawn]

That thread being pulled is just the same as a juvenille court record being sealed, the mods did the boy a favor

Yeah but it denied the wankers something to gossip about. To them no persons private life is sacred. They wanted to talk about that poor kids problem to death all the while patting themselves on the back convincing each other how bitching they are.

 

[pyonir]

while i can't speak for gopunk, we didn't know he was alright. that is why the thread was started the next morning and the one in forum issues was started. we wanted to know he was alright. the later thread today was letting everyone know he was alright.

maybe the statement made earlier in this thread here was a little overboard, but we are trying to figure out if this 'community' is about just computers and news, or if we can actually build personal friendships here as well and discuss what is bothering us in our personal lives. we got our answer.

but for you guys it's just something to chat about

i can't speak for the others, but for me it was geniune concern. i can chat about a lot of things here, i don't need to use this incident.

 

[Red Dawn]

pyonir, you aren't an idiot, you can see what Baffled and I are trying to say. That incident didn't need to be posted about time and time and again in one or two threads. At the most it should have been kept private for those who were involved and nobody else. The rest didn't need to be kept abreast of the situation and they surely didn't need to know why he did what he did.

BTW, my comments were aimed at those who would gossip about the incident on these and other Forums.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

That thread being pulled is just the same as a juvenille court record being sealed, the mods did the boy a favor

Yeah but it denied the wankers something to gossip about. To them no persons private life is sacred. They wanted to talk about that poor kids problem to death all the while patting themselves on the back convincing each other how bitching they are.

What's really sad to me at least, is that many here have no idea that they have the right to personal privacy
that a piece of what gives people dignity is the right to with hold info about their innermost feelings and any issue that they deem to be too personal to share with any and all comers. No subject is too private, too embarrasing or intimate to be shared here it seems,including humilating or painful episodes in the lives of other people and it is very sad.


This indiscrimate sharing robs people of privacy and dignity, it also cheapens true intimacy between people which only occurs over time,with mutual disclosure which allows trust to build and real relationships to form

 

[Red Dawn]

They'll all say they were just concerned but in reality they were just being nosey. I wonder how many pages of posts were made by these nosey individuals at Shawns site?

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
They'll all say they were just concerned but in reality they were just being nosey. I wonder how many pages of posts were made by these nosey individuals at Shawns site?

Please Red, we have people here who will proudly announce how many times they've played spank the
monkey that day,how often they wipe and how, the color and style of their underwear, guys who will post pics of women they know in real time without their permission,in short, people who will blurt out anything one could possibly ever want to know... and then some about themselves, what did you expect, tact,consideration and sensitivity for the feelings and needs of others from people who have no respect
for themselves and their own privacy ?

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
They'll all say they were just concerned but in reality they were just being nosey. I wonder how many pages of posts were made by these nosey individuals at Shawns site?

i see what you are both saying RD and Baff. the only thing that bothers me is the ones who were truely concerned never got a chance to make sure everything was ok, because of those that were nosey and had to seek the attention back on themselves rather than caring for a fellow member.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
They'll all say they were just concerned but in reality they were just being nosey. I wonder how many pages of posts were made by these nosey individuals at Shawns site?

i see what you are both saying RD and Baff. the only thing that bothers me is the ones who were truely concerned never got a chance to make sure everything was ok, because of those that were nosey and had to seek the attention back on themselves rather than caring for a fellow member.

You know, I know that there were some good people involved in that situation and that it is possible to form good friendships via the web, heck I've a few people I'm very close to as result of being a member here.However that is why we have pm,email an IM services, so that the info could be shared ,concerns alleviated but privacy and dignity maintained

 

[Instagib]

Hi

 

[melly]

which of the girls:

-makes your heart skip a beat
-would you go to the ends of the earth for
-do you feel at ease with
-encourages you

and vice versa?

a word of advice: don't choose the one who'd be hurt by it the most based on that alone. it's like a 'pity choosing'!

and, do you have to decide right now? instead of forcing things just let things be for the next little while. do you have a gut instinct? and what do *you* need right now; whose personality best completes you?

 

[Ramses]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Ramses, ...get them mad @ you for something, not just a little mad, I mean really mad.

Sounds a little odd, but you'll find out what they're like mad sooner or later, so make it now. Do something like slip an envelope somewhere in her purse that explains what you're doing (leave out the contest part), leave the note or message in such a way that it's impossible for you to have left it after you got them mad.

Trust me, you'll really want to know how they argue before you get married to one of them

Well actually one of them knows about this and will end up reading the thread probibly, but she's astoundingly OK with stuff like that, not a typical woman at all.

As far as the mad and argument part goes, well, one of them I know how she is, the other I can't imagine ever being ABLE to make angry. Hard to explain. Yet again, I dont see a clear "winner" on that count either, there both about as "nice" argument wise as one can get, just for different reasons.

hmm...

 

[rgwalt]

Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

 

[Red Dawn]

We are greatr at Hijacking threads.. which really isn't so great. I apologize

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

I only responded the way I did due to others dragging the other matter into this thread, you are however correct and I apolgise to the OP.

 

[Ramses]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Which one knows about the situation? The practical one or the care-free one? It really isn't natural for a person to be OK with this sort of situation. Also, you said that you've been with one for a year and a half now. Are you absolutely certain the other girl still feels the same way?

Oh, one more thing, not to come down on the mighty elite members of the board, but baffled, Red, and others, don't hijack this poor guy's thread to talk about the situation with ilikesprite. Doing so just brings the situation up for the rest of the board again, and that isn't necessary. If you really want to let this incident sink to the bottom, then take your discussion to PM. Regardless, it doesn't belong in Ramses's thread.

Ryan

Ahh, the practical, been with for last year and a half or so one knows. She's a very non-standard person, grown up differently than most people, it's hard to explain without going on and on but take my word for it that it's not as odd as it would normally be considered that she's able to discuss this with me instead of yelling and screaming.

On the other girl. I dont know precisely, but I'm sure enough to give this some thought. I know her, could always read her well.

 

[Ramses]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
We are greatr at Hijacking threads.. which really isn't so great. I apologize

No problem, it sound like something worth discussing...