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Actually, I've pretty much already know what I'm going to do, but I'm interested in what most of the people in the OT would consider doing if they found themselves in the same position. I've asked this same question of a few of my friends, and all of them have given me different answers.
Here is the deal:
I have been working for two years as a Senior Software Engineer at my company (I manage all PC development for the company). It is a large manufacturing company that over the last 4 years, has been working on their own customized ERP system (instead of purchasing one). I was not part of that decision, so please don't got off topic on that. Anyway, I have been doing a lot of different design projects and have been leading a number of development projects (usually the same ones). I have always been DBA for our smaller support systems that run on SQL Server, but recently they have made me DBA over our iSeries systems (this came with no pay raise...but they pay me very well already). Anyway, recently a job has become available for the Lead System Architect and they are wanting me to take it (CIO still has to approve...but I've got a really, really good chance). Basically I would be completely in charge of the ERP system design. In order for this to happen, I would have to get someone else to manage my PC Development team and I would manage that person. I would still have my DBA responsibilities, but I would be able to get this new manager of the PCDev team to do a lot of the dirty work...I would mostly be responsible for everything to get done. Anyway, if I take this new job, I will be getting a 20-25% increase , not to mention the experience. Oh yeah, I'm only 25, so I don't expect to get this kind of opportunity elsewhere any time soon...especially with the economy. There are only two downsides to this job in my opinion...it will be a lot more stress and my girlfriend.
The deal with my girlfriend is that we have been living about 600 miles away from each other for the last year. We have been looking for ways to move closer to each other for the last year...but we were not in a rush and were looking for a good opportunity. Recently she got a really good job offer, but she was going to have to make a 3 year commitment on it (long story). Anyway, before she took the job, she consulted with me because she new that it meant I would have to move to her for us to live closer together. I said I was fine with that, and I have been actively pursuing that (just no luck with the current economy...I'm not going to move for any job...it has to be a decent one). Anyway, now I've been given this job offer, and I will have to tell her that I'm not going to be around anytime soon if I want to take the job (they are looking for at least a year commitment from me). Although my girlfriend and I are not engaged...we might as well be. We're both very confident that we are with the one we want to marry...we're just not in a rush.
So if you were in a similar situation as I am, would you take the job and tell your girlfriend she's going to have to wait...or would you pass on the job and continue looking for opportunities?
I just thought the responses would be interesting. I realize that I can't fully summarize my relationship with my girlfriend...but just assume that it is very good and has little or no problems.
Edit:
Cliff Notes...
1. I got offered a promotion at work that was to come with a 20-25% increase. Only work related downside is a lot of extra stress.
2. My girlfriend and I have been living 600 miles away for the last year...and that is getting old. We are very serious and expect to eventually get married. She can't relocate because of prior commitment to another job.
3. What would you do in my situation: Take the job and spend at least another year away from girlfriend, or not take job and try to relocate ASAP.
Update: I got the job. Only a 20% increase, but I got an extra week vacation. Girlfriend seems fine as of now.
Here is the deal:
I have been working for two years as a Senior Software Engineer at my company (I manage all PC development for the company). It is a large manufacturing company that over the last 4 years, has been working on their own customized ERP system (instead of purchasing one). I was not part of that decision, so please don't got off topic on that. Anyway, I have been doing a lot of different design projects and have been leading a number of development projects (usually the same ones). I have always been DBA for our smaller support systems that run on SQL Server, but recently they have made me DBA over our iSeries systems (this came with no pay raise...but they pay me very well already). Anyway, recently a job has become available for the Lead System Architect and they are wanting me to take it (CIO still has to approve...but I've got a really, really good chance). Basically I would be completely in charge of the ERP system design. In order for this to happen, I would have to get someone else to manage my PC Development team and I would manage that person. I would still have my DBA responsibilities, but I would be able to get this new manager of the PCDev team to do a lot of the dirty work...I would mostly be responsible for everything to get done. Anyway, if I take this new job, I will be getting a 20-25% increase , not to mention the experience. Oh yeah, I'm only 25, so I don't expect to get this kind of opportunity elsewhere any time soon...especially with the economy. There are only two downsides to this job in my opinion...it will be a lot more stress and my girlfriend.
The deal with my girlfriend is that we have been living about 600 miles away from each other for the last year. We have been looking for ways to move closer to each other for the last year...but we were not in a rush and were looking for a good opportunity. Recently she got a really good job offer, but she was going to have to make a 3 year commitment on it (long story). Anyway, before she took the job, she consulted with me because she new that it meant I would have to move to her for us to live closer together. I said I was fine with that, and I have been actively pursuing that (just no luck with the current economy...I'm not going to move for any job...it has to be a decent one). Anyway, now I've been given this job offer, and I will have to tell her that I'm not going to be around anytime soon if I want to take the job (they are looking for at least a year commitment from me). Although my girlfriend and I are not engaged...we might as well be. We're both very confident that we are with the one we want to marry...we're just not in a rush.
So if you were in a similar situation as I am, would you take the job and tell your girlfriend she's going to have to wait...or would you pass on the job and continue looking for opportunities?
I just thought the responses would be interesting. I realize that I can't fully summarize my relationship with my girlfriend...but just assume that it is very good and has little or no problems.
Edit:
Cliff Notes...
1. I got offered a promotion at work that was to come with a 20-25% increase. Only work related downside is a lot of extra stress.
2. My girlfriend and I have been living 600 miles away for the last year...and that is getting old. We are very serious and expect to eventually get married. She can't relocate because of prior commitment to another job.
3. What would you do in my situation: Take the job and spend at least another year away from girlfriend, or not take job and try to relocate ASAP.
Update: I got the job. Only a 20% increase, but I got an extra week vacation. Girlfriend seems fine as of now.
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