Should I give my sperm to a 42 year old lesbian?

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compuwiz1

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No, not recommended. Also, why does a 42 year old lesbian want to bear a child? That is past the age where most doctors would recommend it. She could just adopt, I would think.
 

Hayabusa Rider

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Create a poll

Ask which is better/safer

1) To do this

or

2) Jump off a 100 foot high bridge with a 110 foot bungee cord.

I would vote for the latter
 

Jfur

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My lesbian friend in her 40's tried this but it turned out she had difficulty in conception and they ended up adopting. They are awesome parents. As for your choice, I would (were I male) only do that if I knew the person very well. Is she responsible? Kind? What type of parent would she be? And her partner? After all, it is you child -- whether you will be with him or not, you should consider his welfare.
 

lowtech1

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Have you consider & read upon single parent status?
Have you read upon what single gay/lesbian life style affect on a child?
Why hasn't her try adopting?

And, there must be some kind of reason that the adopting agency denied her request if they deemed her to be un-fit to be a mother.

You have to consider the child life first before the parent. Parenting is not like having a toy/pet or something to fill in the missing part of your life (this goes for strait people as well), because it is a life time commitment not 18 years.

IMHO, Your friend can have a child if you deem that she could be fit to mother & care for the child, because you will feel somewhat involve if the child life didn?t turn out the way that you hope he/she deserve.

I?m sad to see neglected children around my neighborhood, and it seemed as if there are a higher number of neglected children when the child in a home of a single parent instead of dual. It is an unfortunate thing, but I feel that it take more than just ?love? to bring a child into life.
 

smp

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She has looked around at adoption, but she doesn't want to. You'd think that there are lots of kids that need adopting, but it's not as like you think. Apparently, she doesn't want an abused child (social workers take kids away from abusive/neglective parents) .. she wants her own child.
I think I've made up my mind though, not gonna do it.
Thanks for the input ppls.
 

Spook

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Dont do it... here is why...

She might be a nice professional woman... But things in life happen, people lose jobs, and fortunes. When a person is down and out, sometimes they will do desperate things to get themselves back up... including sueing you for liablity... You can sign all the paperwork you want, but people can sue you for anything, at any time it seems anymore. Sure she might lose... but you know what they say, the real winners in the end.... The lawyers... even if you win, you stand to lose money...

besides... holding the door open for someone... that's helping... Helping someone with car problems... thats helping... Helping someone move... that's helping...

Providing your seed for someone else... That's way above and beyond the call of duty bud.

Just remember, the courts are ALLWAYS trying to assign liablity for the children...

I remember reading several years ago about a person that swore up and down it was not possible that this child was his. For several years of going through the courts, and finally having a DNA test done. They determined that the child was indeed not his... Guess what... he's still paying for child support, he's established himself as an income source for that child...

The court isn't interested in the mistakes of the adults it seems, just the welfare of the children
 

smp

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Providing your seed for someone else... That's way above and beyond the call of duty bud.

Hah! :D .. nicely put :)

Just remember, the courts are ALLWAYS trying to assign liablity for the children...

See I'm in Canada though, our liability laws are different here. You can't sue just anyone for liability. Like that "I spilled hot coffee on myself, give me McMillions" wouldn't have flown here I don't think. I'm not familiar with the laws though so I'm gonna stay in the clear for this one. She'll find some other way of getting preagnant (sp? fvck I forgot how to spell that!!)

 

Tal

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Super bad idea. Encourage her to adopt. And quit being so wierd. -TAL :p