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3NF

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A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.
 

Trevelyan

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Originally posted by: daveymark
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: daveymark
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

Your friend is dumber than a box of rocks. Her "boyfriend" is still tapping the ex. Hats off to the dude for owning her though.

that's exactly what I was thinking. Ironically, she has her Master's and is now studying for her PhD. That's what makes it so conusing. how can someone so ambitious and smart be so gullible?

I've asked that question before many times. I think the answer is that the girl probably was raised in a community of trustworthy people, and most of the people she knows would not purposefully hurt her. She'll learn her lesson, albeit the hard way. Remember, it's a perfect world where an honest person has nothing to fear.
 

91TTZ

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Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

It all depends on the intelligence of the individual. If they're an impulsive animal, they may act on every primitive impulse they have.

If they're intelligent, however, they'll be more likely to contemplate the implications of their actions and will refrain from acting upon their impulses. Have you ever wondered why some people can't maintain a long term relationship?
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

More words of wisdom. It's all about having something different. That old sweatshirt sure is comfy, but it doesn't beat that new shirt.
 

91TTZ

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

More words of wisdom. It's all about having something different. That old sweatshirt sure is comfy, but it doesn't beat that new shirt.

It all depends on what circles you hang around in. Into that club scene or hip hop crowd? Yeah, it's a cesspool of promiscuity.

I know that the crowd I hang around, going from partner to partner is looked down upon, and we wouldn't be hanging around a scumbag like that. Sure, they'll still do it, but they won't be part of our group anymore.
 

3NF

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

It all depends on the intelligence of the individual. If they're an impulsive animal, they may act on every primitive impulse they have.

If they're intelligent, however, they'll be more likely to contemplate the implications of their actions and will refrain from acting upon their impulses. Have you ever wondered why some people can't maintain a long term relationship?

Some people don't want long term relationships, or committed relationships, i.e., they want an open relationship. There is nothing wrong with that. And people aren't animals because they have impulses and desires to be with other people. I agree that people in committed relationships do need to consider the possible implications of acting upon those "impulses". And they should - they agreed to it.
 

NakaNaka

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You never know guys. He might actually not be banging the ex, cause he tells her that he's sleeping there. If he was banging the ex, he would probably say he's staying at Joe's place.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
It all depends on what circles you hang around in. Into that club scene or hip hop crowd? Yeah, it's a cesspool of promiscuity.

I know that the crowd I hang around, going from partner to partner is looked down upon, and we wouldn't be hanging around a scumbag like that. Sure, they'll still do it, but they won't be part of our group anymore.

It's looked down upon by my friends as well. But at age 35 now I've seen all the "we're so in love" couples/marriages to a "oops, I did it again. Now how do we split up the child care?"
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

More words of wisdom. It's all about having something different. That old sweatshirt sure is comfy, but it doesn't beat that new shirt.

It all depends on what circles you hang around in. Into that club scene or hip hop crowd? Yeah, it's a cesspool of promiscuity.

I know that the crowd I hang around, going from partner to partner is looked down upon, and we wouldn't be hanging around a scumbag like that. Sure, they'll still do it, but they won't be part of our group anymore.

wow when you get older you will know about all the chicks that said no, actually were saying yes yes yes! to others.

Promiscuity is not about sleeping with a new guy or girl every several weeks to few months, it's about going out almost every night and hooking up (it's easy to do).

If you are normal and started liking sex at 15/16 then 3-6 partners a year add up providing you don't think everytime you end up naked with a woman you need to marry her whether she wants you too or not.

Why do you think long term relationships are a requirement and which have you been in?
 

Whisper

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
Originally posted by: 3NF
A chick enjoys a strange cock and much as a guy enjoys a strange pussy, from time to time. The strangeness factor is powerful.

It all depends on the intelligence of the individual. If they're an impulsive animal, they may act on every primitive impulse they have.

If they're intelligent, however, they'll be more likely to contemplate the implications of their actions and will refrain from acting upon their impulses. Have you ever wondered why some people can't maintain a long term relationship?

I know plenty of intelligent people who've had countless failed relationships, and plenty of less-intelligent people who're very successful relationship-wise. Intelligence has little to do with controlling various impulses; it's more about whether or not the person actually finds it important to control said impulses (i.e. his/her values).

Some people value relationships, others could care less--seeing them as pointless--and are more into the short-term, highly-physical thing. It's all about whatever floats your boat, and neither option is more "right' or "intelligent."
 

Gautama2

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Your thread is wrongly labeled. It should read YAGTWOP, or Yet Another Guy/Girl Thread Without Pics.
 

meltdown75

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Originally posted by: daveymark
Originally posted by: meltdown75
this yagt sucks. it doesn't even involve the OP. MYOB for teh win.

she broguht it up to me when I was talking to her about trust issues. She's also my ex g/f. I was going to post pics, but I'd better "MMOB"

:cookie: for the DBTC though
So you're concerned about her b/f hanging out with his ex... and you're hanging out with her, and she's your ex.

Anyone else see some irony here?

You'll have to define DBTC for me as well, if you would be so kind :)
 

silverpig

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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: Chiropteran
Originally posted by: astroidea

You can still be very good platonic friends with your ex. I have platonic relationships with a few of my ex's.

Do they sleep at your house?

Because I can't think of ANY reason to sleep at a "platonic friends" house.

ANY? Not one?

Maybe they shared dinner and the visitor had a few too many drinks? I crash at friends places every now and then, and they do the same here.

Oh, or maybe the car broke down? Bad weather? It got late and they're too tired to safely drive home? There's a million reasons.


And yes you can be platonic friends with an ex. I am. I visited the ex a few days ago after going out to a game with my family. I was in the neighbourhood and had a small xmas gift for her. I stopped by, had some tea, watched some tv and left after midnight. I was offered a place to sleep for the night, and I could have and my current g/f would probably have been okay with it, but I chose to go home for a number of reasons, the main one being respect. Had I have been drinking or had my car broken down or something, I wouldn't have had a problem sleeping over there.

Yeah that previous statement was retarded for anyone that would be actually having fun in life.

The stopped by for tea thing though with a gift seems a bit much to me though.

She likes tea. The gift I got her was some nice tea. We sampled it...
 

yhelothar

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: daveymark
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

Your friend is dumber than a box of rocks. Her "boyfriend" is still tapping the ex. Hats off to the dude for owning her though.

That's a bit of a slippery slope. You don't know that for a fact
You're making assumptions based on your own beliefs, without objectively looking at the situation.
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: mugs
Huge level of trust? More like a huge level of naivete. What is the supposed purpose of his spending the night at his ex's house? :confused:

Yeah, that is just weird. Is he hanging out with the Ex eclusively or our they hanging out with mutual friends? Even still, very weird.
 

spidey07

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Originally posted by: astroidea
That's a bit of a slippery slope. You don't know that for a fact
You're making assumptions based on your own beliefs, without objectively looking at the situation.

Sorry dude. Guess you've never hooked up or strung along an ex. Here's the keys to success:

1) tell her you still love her but you are confused
2) bang her and tell her she is the only one. The girlfiend can't break the bond we have with our love.
3) rinse and repeat
 

daveymark

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Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: daveymark
Originally posted by: meltdown75
this yagt sucks. it doesn't even involve the OP. MYOB for teh win.

she broguht it up to me when I was talking to her about trust issues. She's also my ex g/f. I was going to post pics, but I'd better "MMOB"

:cookie: for the DBTC though
So you're concerned about her b/f hanging out with his ex... and you're hanging out with her, and she's your ex.

Anyone else see some irony here?

I'm not concerned at all. More like amused. :) I'm also not hanging out with her, we communicate once a month, if that.

 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: astroidea
That's a bit of a slippery slope. You don't know that for a fact
You're making assumptions based on your own beliefs, without objectively looking at the situation.

Sorry dude. Guess you've never hooked up or strung along an ex. Here's the keys to success:

1) tell her you still love her but you are confused
2) bang her and tell her she is the only one. The girlfiend can't break the bond we have with our love.
3) rinse and repeat

You're a pr!ck if you ever have to lie about loving someone to bang them.

Most guys never learn this though and keep making things more complicated then they have to be.

You can't just come out and say "I just want to bang you" off the cuff (most of the time anyway...it does work for some some of the time). However; if you are keeping her entertained and in an upbeat/laughing mood; you'd be surprised how far that goes without having to state your love and devotion to her. More often that not; she more comfortable with it as well.

More chicks break hearts than guys IMHO because they don't understand that chicks aren't about sugar and spice and everything nice when it comes to a relationship they don't care for.