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Eli

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OK, so my fiancee and I currently roommate with my brother. That scenario isn't ideal, but bearable.

Enter his pseudo-girlfriend type person. First, my fiancee and I can't stand her. I'm sure that plays a large role in how we feel, but at this point I'm pretty much done and don't give a shit.

She is constantly here. She uses the internet, the cable TV, she showers here, she comes here for lunch sometimes, etc. I wouldn't mind as much if my brother was here too, but she comes here on her own when he's not home! :| This angers us to no end, and makes me actually scoff and not want to come home when I see her car here. It fucking sucks, and I'm fucking done paying for shit that she uses. She's here right now hogging the living room/TV. My brother is home, but he's in his room.

I don't want to "cause drama", but what the fuck am I supposed to do? It makes me angry and uncomfortable. She needs to contribute something to the household if she's here so much.

I'm about 2 clicks away from blocking her computer from MY wireless network. :evil:

I guess I just don't know how to approach this without seeming like I'm just trying to stir shit up.

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Vette73

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If he is not there then she should not be either.


Tell your brother, move out, and/or charge her rent.
 
MotionMan

MotionMan

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Talk it over calmly with your brother.

Having her there when he is not is really not cool, IMO.

MotionMan
 
Locut0s

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Lifer
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Are the 2 of you sharing the rent equally or does one person obviously dominate?
 
Crusty

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"Look bro, I don't mind your GF being around, but she needs to contribute rent/utilities."

He'll either move out and get his own place, fight you about it, or you'll get money. If he fights just tell him he can move out then :p
 
Mo0o

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How are you guys splitting the rent? Are you and your wife paying half or 2/3? You should talk about redistributing the rent and household chores to include the GF, that should send a message that she can't just get a free ride all the time.
 
I Saw OJ

I Saw OJ

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Go in there, take the remote and start watching what you want to watch.
 
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JS80

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"hey what's the deal with you and gf? are you guys going to get a place together? *LEAVE IT OPEN ENDED HERE OR SAY* if she's gonna live here she should pay rent."
 
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Eli

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We're splitting the rent 3 ways, so technically we pay 2/3rds.... Hmm.. Never thought of it like that. Now it really seems like we're getting the short end of the stick.. lol.

Utilities are also split 3 ways, so again we pay 2/3rds.
 
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Originally posted by: JS80
"hey what's the deal with you and gf? are you guys going to get a place together? *LEAVE IT OPEN ENDED HERE OR SAY* if she's gonna live here she should pay rent."
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this
 
SagaLore

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You're moving soon, right?

Shut off your cable. You don't really need it.

And YES, block her from your wireless. :evil:


...and if she asks, tell her you're shutting off utilities to save up for and get ready for the move.
 
PieIsAwesome

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Wait, how does she get inside when your brother isn't there? She doesn't have a key does she? :confused:
Otherwise jsut don't let her in.:D
 
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Originally posted by: Eli
We're splitting the rent 3 ways, so technically we pay 2/3rds.... Hmm.. Never thought of it like that. Now it really seems like we're getting the short end of the stick.. lol.

Utilities are also split 3 ways, so again we pay 2/3rds.
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If that's the case, I think a very reasonable thing to say would be to ask to split everything down the middle between the two couples, ESPECIALLY since she has a key and stays around when no one else is there.
 
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Eli

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Originally posted by: PieIsAwesome
Wait, how does she get inside when your brother isn't there? She doesn't have a key does she? :confused:
Otherwise jsut don't let her in.:D
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I don't know if she has a key or not honestly. She says she doesn't, but the spare key is missing.. Hmmm.

My brother has a door to the patio in his room, and he never locks it, so even if I locked the front and back doors, it wouldn't matter anyway...

I'm not going to go in his room and lock his door every day.. The solution is obviously to talk about it, I just don't want to seem like an ass.. but it's ridiculous.

Edit: I guess I could put a padlock on the gate to the back yard.. LOL.

:evil:
 
xanis

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Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: PieIsAwesome
Wait, how does she get inside when your brother isn't there? She doesn't have a key does she? :confused:
Otherwise jsut don't let her in.:D
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I don't know if she has a key or not honestly. She says she doesn't, but the spare key is missing.. Hmmm.

My brother has a door to the patio in his room, and he never locks it, so even if I locked the front and back doors, it wouldn't matter anyway...

I'm not going to go in his room and lock his door every day.. The solution is obviously to talk about it, I just don't want to seem like an ass.. but it's ridiculous.
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Honestly, if you and your wife are paying your fair share of the rent and utilities, you have every right to bring it up and speak your mind.
 
Locut0s

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Originally posted by: Eli
We're splitting the rent 3 ways, so technically we pay 2/3rds.... Hmm.. Never thought of it like that. Now it really seems like we're getting the short end of the stick.. lol.

Utilities are also split 3 ways, so again we pay 2/3rds.
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Well I would talk to him nicely about it at first. Mention the fact that she is starting to take over the place. Suggest that you split the rent 4 ways if she wants to stay so much. If push comes to shove though stand your ground and mention the fact that the 2 of you are shouldering the majority of the cost and therefore should be able to dictate 2/3rds of what goes on there.
 
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Eli

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Originally posted by: SagaLore
You're moving soon, right?

Shut off your cable. You don't really need it.

And YES, block her from your wireless. :evil:


...and if she asks, tell her you're shutting off utilities to save up for and get ready for the move.
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We'd REALLY like to get out of here before our lease is up in November, it would save us a lot of money. But AFAIK, she just renewed her lease so I don't think she would actually move in and take over the remainder of my lease.

It is something that I've been meaning to talk with him about. We just don't communicate very much... heh.

 
SonnyDaze

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Originally posted by: Marlin1975
If he is not there then she should not be either.


Tell your brother, move out, and/or charge her rent.
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This.

Oh and :camera:'s ?
 
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yowolabi

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Don't be such a freaking wimp. You now have a 4th roommate but are splitting the rent 3 ways. There's nothing wrong with demanding basic fairness. Otherwise your fiancee needs to stop paying rent, and it needs to be split two ways. Why does your girl have to pay but his doesn't?

I have had a lot of roommates, and about the only rule we had most of the time was that you couldn't have someone else living over. Her being over without him is a line that should never be crossed.
 
drdops

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its your brother... do you really have to post on a forum for advice before talking to your own brother!?
 
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