Roomate Girlfriend problem

[abaez]

Ok my roommate has a little problem.

On saturday night he went to a party and got a little drunk. Somehow he ended up at his girlfriends house in his car in the middle of the night(Something was in the drinks he doesn't even remember driving there.) He decided to stay there and sleep. He woke up in the morning and saw his girlfriends car there, which he thought was weird because she had told him she was going to be at her grandmothers house sleeping. Next thing he knows she's walking out with her ex-boyfriend (who's carrying a shirt and shoes), hes shocked and he drives away.

So of course what do you think to do is to just break up and move on. But she has now talked to him (two days after because he wouldn't talk to her yesterday) and SHE says that her ex called her up, and had a major problem with his family and needed someone to talk to so he came over and talked with her. Turns out his mom is an alchoholic and beat him up hehehahaha whatever. Shes sooooo sorry and she swears to god that nothing happened with him and her and etc etc etc

Personally I think her story is a load of bullshit but he still has alot of feelings for her, and he WANTS to believe that she is telling the truth. I think that everything is just too perfectly set in place to be truthful. SHe has always told him that she wants to be with him and has taken him to meet her parents and alot of family gatherings and stuff.

So the big question is, should he forgive her and keep his relationship, or should he just move on??

 

[HendrixFan]

The problem with this matter is that he doesnt trust her. Even if he decides to stick around and give it a shot, he will have that in the back of his mind. A relationship without trust is nothing.

 

[spanky]

yeah get back with her. then she'll be his love slave for like the next week.

 

[BCYL]

Why do you think the gf's story is BS? Unless u know something we dont know... I mean, she could be telling the truth, unless u have some way to prove her wrong...

I say you guys try your best to prove her story... Tell your roommate to break up with her only when he can be totally sure she's lying...

If you cannot reach a definite conclusion then stay together with her, since your roommate still has a lot of feelings for her and definitely dont wanna do something he would regret later...

 

[Orsorum]

Depends on the context... my gut instinct is to say she's probably lying. But, it depends on the context. The few times I've believed a gf in that situation, I've gotten shafted. I've also had friends that trusted gf's after something like that, and it did turn out fine.

 

[SubZeroX]

spanky, you didn't ask for pics! OMG!

 

[BamBam215]

part of having a good relationship is being able to trust your partner. Your room mate doesn't and he does have some reasons if she said she was going to be at her grandma's.

However.. how is his relationship with her going? Is he the over-protective and jealous type?

I ask because maybe she was afraid if she told him she was going to see her ex.. he'd be all upset. My ex and I are still very close (we were good friends before we got together) and she knows that if the man she's seeing isn't secure with her hanging around me... then he's not worth it. And vise-versa, the same goes for me if I'm dating anyone.

 

[stev0]

imo, give her another chance, your friend didn't hang around long enough to find out what actually happened... if it happens again then he's got something to think about.

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: SubZeroX
spanky, you didn't ask for pics! OMG!

pics?!?!

 

[ObiDon]

Next thing he knows she's walking out with her ex-boyfriend (who's carrying a shirt and shoes)

Were the shirt and shoes extra items or was he barefoot and not wearing a shirt?
If he was barefoot, he probably didn't get very far and was being escorted out.

<---- normally believes everything is the girl's fault :Q

 

[Hamburgerpimp]

Banging on the Bathroom Floor...........I think that's a song.

 

[StattlichPassat]

Roommate problems? What?

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: BCYL
Why do you think the gf's story is BS? Unless u know something we dont know... I mean, she could be telling the truth, unless u have some way to prove her wrong...

I say you guys try your best to prove her story... Tell your roommate to break up with her only when he can be totally sure she's lying...

If you cannot reach a definite conclusion then stay together with her, since your roommate still has a lot of feelings for her and definitely dont wanna do something he would regret later...

Well I think it's just too perfect. He works saturday night and gets off at 1am (I work with him) He just happened to be at her house when he WASN'T supposed to be there. He just happens to see her walk out when she's not even supposed to be at her house, and no they weren't cheating he just needed someone to talk to and he came over and spent the night.

However.. how is his relationship with her going? Is he the over-protective and jealous type?

I think he would be understanding if it weren't on a saturday night and she had not lied to him and he wouldn't have spent the night there with her.

 

[gopunk]

maybe he should ask the ex-bf?

anyways, if it turns out she is lying, he should get back with her for a week of vengeance sex.

 

[stev0]

maybe he should ask the ex-bf?

good call, but then again, if you were the ex and the current boyfriend came and asked you if you doinked his gf... would you tell the truth? I wouldn't.

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by: stev0

maybe he should ask the ex-bf?

good call, but then again, if you were the ex and the current boyfriend came and asked you if you doinked his gf... would you tell the truth? I wouldn't.

well u might be able to tell by how he squirms

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: ObiDon

Next thing he knows she's walking out with her ex-boyfriend (who's carrying a shirt and shoes)

Were the shirt and shoes extra items or was he barefoot and not wearing a shirt?
If he was barefoot, he probably didn't get very far and was being escorted out.

<---- normally believes everything is the girl's fault :Q

He was barefoot, he was carrying a shirt but he had a shirt on. SHe says he might have changed or something while she was sleeping she didn't know why he was carrying that stuff out.

 

[the1beautifulangel]

Originally posted by: Hamburgerpimp
Banging on the Bathroom Floor...........I think that's a song.

Shaggy..."It wasn't me"

lol.....

 

[stev0]

well u might be able to tell by how he squirms

yea i suppose.

either way, if he really trusts her than he really wouldn't be thinking twice about it.... did he accept the fact that she says nothing happened? or is he thinking that something acutally happened?

 

[spanky]

just do what gopunk said. vengence sex baby... woohoo!

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: stev0

well u might be able to tell by how he squirms

yea i suppose.

either way, if he really trusts her than he really wouldn't be thinking twice about it.... did he accept the fact that she says nothing happened? or is he thinking that something acutally happened?

He wants to believe her, but he doesn't know. At first he immediately thought something did, then when she explained it he is having his doubts now.

 

[stev0]

if he is having doubts than he dosen't trust her.

SHe has always told him that she wants to be with him and has taken him to meet her parents and alot of family gatherings and stuff.

now i don't know the whole story but if you ask me, it sounds like they are fairly serious, or atleast she is. family gatherings, most girls i know don't take any old joe to them. imho i would give her another chance. if it happens again then he needs to think hard about how much he really likes the girl.

here is another question that i don't think was asked... do her and her ex still keep in touch, hang out, ect? maybe, even though they are broken up, they still like talking to eachother... maybe this was one of those times.

 

[AnyMal]

Somehow he ended up at his girlfriends house in his car in the middle of the night(Something was in the drinks he doesn't even remember driving there.) He decided to stay there and sleep. He woke up in the morning and saw his girlfriends car there, which he thought was weird because she had told him she was going to be at her grandmothers house sleeping.

So, let me see if I can get it straight.. When he pulled up her car wasn't there? If that's the case, when she came back she did not see his car with him sleeping inside? That did not concern her? She just left him there? Hmmmmmmm...... Sound really fishy to me.

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: stev0
if he is having doubts than he dosen't trust her.

SHe has always told him that she wants to be with him and has taken him to meet her parents and alot of family gatherings and stuff.

now i don't know the whole story but if you ask me, it sounds like they are fairly serious, or atleast she is. family gatherings, most girls i know don't take any old joe to them. imho i would give her another chance. if it happens again then he needs to think hard about how much he really likes the girl.

here is another question that i don't think was asked... do her and her ex still keep in touch, hang out, ect? maybe, even though they are broken up, they still like talking to eachother... maybe this was one of those times.

He says they have never talked to each other he says she tells him when he calls and he's only called maybe once or twice.

So, let me see if I can get it straight.. When he pulled up her car wasn't there? If that's the case, when she came back she did not see his car with him sleeping inside? That did not concern her? She just left him there? Hmmmmmmm...... Sound really fishy to me.

Her car was already there when he woke up. She says she was at her grandmothers and then she went to her house to talk to her ex. My roommate doesn't know if that happened or not he just woke up with her already at her house.

 

[Muadib]

Your pal should not have been such a punk. Why did he leave when he saw them? He should of found out the what was going on right then and there, but instead of dealing with it, he runs away like a little biotch!:disgust: Then he avoids the whole issue for 2 days, wtf!?! Your pal has some major confidence issues that he needs to deal with asap.