Roomate Girlfriend problem

[BCYL]

Originally posted by: Muadib
Your pal should not have been such a punk. Why did he leave when he saw them? He should of found out the what was going on right then and there, but instead of dealing with it, he runs away like a little biotch!:disgust: Then he avoids the whole issue for 2 days, wtf!?! Your pal has some major confidence issues that he needs to deal with asap.

I agree... your roommate should have confronted her as soon as he saw her ex walked out of her house... If anything, this gives time for the gf to think the whole story through, and now it'll be even harder to detect if she was lying...

But my advice would be just talk to the gf and ask her details about the situation... No point in guessing since you will never find out the truth this way... ask her details about the night, and see if you can detect any inconsistencies to determine if she's lying all along...

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: BCYL

Originally posted by: Muadib
Your pal should not have been such a punk. Why did he leave when he saw them? He should of found out the what was going on right then and there, but instead of dealing with it, he runs away like a little biotch!:disgust: Then he avoids the whole issue for 2 days, wtf!?! Your pal has some major confidence issues that he needs to deal with asap.

I agree... your roommate should have confronted her as soon as he saw her ex walked out of her house... If anything, this gives time for the gf to think the whole story through, and now it'll be even harder to detect if she was lying...

But my advice would be just talk to the gf and ask her details about the situation... No point in guessing since you will never find out the truth this way... ask her details about the night, and see if you can detect any inconsistencies to determine if she's lying all along...

The first time he told me he was so pissed off. He said that he had never felt like what he felt after he saw them. He was just so angry he wanted to seriously kill the guy. He was almost crying not because he was sad but because he was so pissed off that she would do that. Im sorta glad he didn't do anything or who knows what would have happened.

And yes he is trying to ask her the details like which I have pointed out but I dunno. I mean he wants to believe her, so he'll probably believe anything she says simply because he still likes her so much. Which is why I'm so wary, it just happens to be her story turns out all right and ok perfectly. I would have just let her go and if I was wrong well then I was wrong.

 

[bmacd]

let her trick him once, shame on her. If she tricks twice, shame on him.

-=bmacd=-

 

[AsukaStrikes]

yeah, if ur buddy didnt goto parties to get drunk and meet girls then drive around drunk, maybe she wouldnt have to goto her old boytoy

 

[kami]

Originally posted by: AsukaStrikes
yeah, if ur buddy didnt goto parties to get drunk and meet girls then drive around drunk, maybe she wouldnt have to goto her old boytoy

So are you saying a guy should be totally tied up and dedicate 100% of his time to his girlfriend?

 

[Geekbabe]

Actually the big question is why he's running his life by committee?

He needs to decide if he believes her or not,btw,it is entirely plausible that the ex did indeed just show up really drunk and that he got plopped on a sofa or in a guest room it would have prevented him from driving drunk and possibly have prevented an embarrassing scene in the middle of the night.

At any rate,this is between her and him... I'd stay out of it

 

[AsukaStrikes]

well, he can goto parties but he should go around driving drunk. so drunk he ended up at his girfreind's place and didnt even know it.

 

[jjones]

He should dump her. In these scenarios the worst is usually what happened.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: BCYL

Originally posted by: Muadib
Your pal should not have been such a punk. Why did he leave when he saw them? He should of found out the what was going on right then and there, but instead of dealing with it, he runs away like a little biotch!:disgust: Then he avoids the whole issue for 2 days, wtf!?! Your pal has some major confidence issues that he needs to deal with asap.

I agree... your roommate should have confronted her as soon as he saw her ex walked out of her house... If anything, this gives time for the gf to think the whole story through, and now it'll be even harder to detect if she was lying...

But my advice would be just talk to the gf and ask her details about the situation... No point in guessing since you will never find out the truth this way... ask her details about the night, and see if you can detect any inconsistencies to determine if she's lying all along...

I agree wholeheartedly. If that was me sitting in my car in front of my GF's house, and I saw what this guy did, I would've rolled down the window and said "Well, isn't this interesting? Would someone care to explain to me what is happening here?"

But, I have another question. I understand that he was wasted. But he drove over there for a reason. Booty call would be that reason. After arriving at the house, why did he not go knock on the door? Why did he sit there in his car? Also, why did he RUN when she walked out with the ex-BF? Afraid of an ass-kicking, maybe? He punked out, pure and simple.

His GF is playing Hide the Salami with her "ex" (obviously not an "ex", yet ) and he's being a wimpy-man and sticking around. I'd have kicked her to the curb right then and there.

You DO NOT let a guy spend the night at your house, especially an ex-BF..that's just wrong. "Nothing happened"...my foot! :|

 

[Blieb]

Does she swallow?

 

[stev0]

Does she swallow?

wtf does that have to do with any of this?

<--- ::mumble mumble:: damn neffers

 

[UberDave]

keep bangin her until he finds proof or anything else more suspicious

 

[DorkBoy]

The problem with this matter is that he doesnt trust her. Even if he decides to stick around and give it a shot, he will have that in the back of his mind. A relationship without trust is nothing.

I agree

 

[NakaNaka]

Originally posted by: HendrixFan
The problem with this matter is that he doesnt trust her. Even if he decides to stick around and give it a shot, he will have that in the back of his mind. A relationship without trust is nothing.

I was going to say basically the same thing. If he doesn't trust her, then they don't have anything.

 

[Hammer]

I'd stay out of it. You don't want to get caught in the middle.

If it was me though, I would probably get rid of her.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

Whether she did or didn't sleep with her ex is an issue, BUT the main issue is that your roommate doesn't trust her now. You can't have a relationship without trust so I would say move on.

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: BCYL
Why do you think the gf's story is BS? Unless u know something we dont know... I mean, she could be telling the truth, unless u have some way to prove her wrong...

I say you guys try your best to prove her story... Tell your roommate to break up with her only when he can be totally sure she's lying...

If you cannot reach a definite conclusion then stay together with her, since your roommate still has a lot of feelings for her and definitely dont wanna do something he would regret later...

I agree with you except for one thing. If she is responsible and mature enough to respect her partner, then she needs to tell him the minute something like this happens. It is very possible that her ex did call her and did have a problem that he wanted to talk about. The problem is that she already said to her current boyfriend that she was going to her grandmother's house.

The minute she knew that she was no longer going to grandma's she should have phoned her current boyfriend and explained the situation.

 

[BostonRedSoxx]

Here's my two cents:

I think this chick must be one hell of a lay, because her current boyfriend refuses to believe that she's cheating on him. He's thinking with his other head. Dude, no ex boyfriend/girlfriend spends the night, and nothing goes on. If he was just there to talk, fine. But, they could've 'talked' at a neutral place, like Denny's or another diner/resturant that's open all night. She's an idiot though, if she's doing her ex, by doing it at her house, where there is a greater chance of getting caught. If you want to be secretive about it, do it at a hotel, or at least his house. Believe me, you're Better Off Alone (Amber) than being with some lying skank who is playing you like a fiddle.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: HendrixFan
The problem with this matter is that he doesnt trust her. Even if he decides to stick around and give it a shot, he will have that in the back of his mind. A relationship without trust is nothing.

Exactly. And the first response, too. Kudos on getting in ahead of the "pics?" crowd.

Edit - Guys, imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. Imagine your girlfriend seeing you come out of your house after spending the night with an ex. Now imagine how quickly your ass would be dumped, bitchslapped, kicked in the balls, and spread nasty rumours about.

- M4H

 

[abaez]

Originally posted by: AsukaStrikes
yeah, if ur buddy didnt goto parties to get drunk and meet girls then drive around drunk, maybe she wouldnt have to goto her old boytoy

He hardly ever goes to parties, this was a party of just co workers which I was invited to as well but I hate parties so I passed.

But, I have another question. I understand that he was wasted. But he drove over there for a reason. Booty call would be that reason. After arriving at the house, why did he not go knock on the door? Why did he sit there in his car? Also, why did he RUN when she walked out with the ex-BF? Afraid of an ass-kicking, maybe? He punked out, pure and simple.

There was something in the drinks. He was throwing up all day sunday. What happened was he WOKE UP in his car at his girlfriends house at like 4am, not knowing how or why he went there. He went back to sleep and then woke up at 8 or whatever and saw them walking out. LIke I said he was so pissed he just left.