Relationships: What went wrong for you?

[bleeb]

college and distance.
not ready and distance.
goals different.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Geez, too many to remember what went wrong.

General reasons were
1. way too clingy, dependent. Dammit woman you need to love yourself...I can't complete you.
2. just grow apart
3. she didn't put out enough
4. too annoying
5. mean
6. depressed
7. hypochondriac
8. ugly person (on the inside)
9. found somebody better
10. wishy-washy
11. flaky
12. over critical (I mean come on...so I used the wrong fork at the restaurant...no need to get all bent out of shape)



Something along the lines of letting her go on a cruise with her girlfriends would be the biggest reason.

So how long did it last with No3? She didn't put out enough? And by that how often do you mean? Once a week? Once a month?

 

[illusion88]

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti
There was never one

:beer:

 

[Hammyton]

insecure + clingy + looking for a much more serious relationship than I was...

 

[Kadarin]

Long term:

1. Went out for 3 years, split up to go to college. First serious breakup, with mistakes and bad feelings on both sides. Yuck.
2. Went out for 5 years, split up after (1) she started pushing the marriage thing way too hard, and (2) she became a controlling biatch.
3. Went out for 7 rocky years. Mutually and amicably broke up, realizing we're better off as friends than as a couple. We are still excellent friends, even if she says I'm "emotionally unavailable". On her side, she was insecure and would always feel that I thought every girl was better than her. She blames me, I blame her, and truth lies somewhere in the middle.

 

[Reliant]

1st - Was a psycho hose beast...seriously.
2nd - Cheated and lied to me.

 

[bradruth]

There's been a few that I could lump together...

Immature
Too impressionable
Prone to the "wild" life
Didn't see a future with them

One of them became suicidal and extremely depressed, did a lot of drugs, dated a drug dealer, and is now basically a failure. Another one is going to the same college that I am, and we're still friends, but she basically turned into a drunken slut for a while.

I must make quite the impression on the ladies.

 

[TallBill]

After 6 months of great sex I found out she was a man :Q

 

[TommyVercetti]

Originally posted by: Reliant
1st - Was a psycho hose beast...seriously.
2nd - Cheated and lied to me.

Hose beast? What is that?

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: TommyVercetti

Originally posted by: Reliant
1st - Was a psycho hose beast...seriously.
2nd - Cheated and lied to me.

Hose beast? What is that?

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[jjones]

They didn't last.

 

[TallBill]

you've never heard of a psycho hosebeast? what planet did you grow up on?

 

[TallBill]

Psycho hose beast

Ok, not really, but the page says so.

 

[thirtythree]

I been where I liked, I slept with who I liked. she ate me up for breakfast, and screwed me in a vice.

 

[DamageInc]

Originally posted by: TallBill
After 6 months of great sex I found out she was a man :Q

Happens to the best of us.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: DamageInc

Originally posted by: TallBill
After 6 months of great sex I found out she was a man :Q

Happens to the best of us.

And to the worst of us.

 

[dethman]

it ended in her being a bitch.

 

[Tetsuo]

Originally posted by: LeetViet
She was too insecure.

 

[Subzero]

She was / is a major nutjob .....

 

[AreaCode707]

He wasn't communicative enough for me, nor interested in being so. I think our definitions of interesting/relevant conversation differed. He didn't make enough effort in the relationship. I was too clingy for him. (Had to find a guy with similar clinginess levels - did, and have been happy ever since.) He broke up with me, which was good since I wouldn't have broken up with him, both because of genuine feeling and because of commitment. Come to think, I owe him one for that.

 

[dpopiz]

Originally posted by: spidey07
Geez, too many to remember what went wrong.

General reasons were
1. way too clingy, dependent. Dammit woman you need to love yourself...I can't complete you.
2. just grow apart
3. she didn't put out enough
4. too annoying
5. mean
6. depressed
7. hypochondriac
8. ugly person (on the inside)
9. found somebody better
10. wishy-washy
11. flaky
12. over critical (I mean come on...so I used the wrong fork at the restaurant...no need to get all bent out of shape)



Something along the lines of letting her go on a cruise with her girlfriends would be the biggest reason.

aw sh!t. most of those are the reasons my last gf left me......
hmmmm what does that say about me?.... I'm a male lesbian perhaps?
any psychologists by night out there want to give me a professional evaluation?

 

[erub]

1. we were just screwin around before we went to college
2. super christian, didnt put out
3. super christian, but a very cool girl, religion got in the way
4. had enough of her whining

 

[Howard]

She probably lost interest in me, though she gave me the runaround.

Something like "wasn't ready, need to stop lying to myself, etc.".

 

[alkemyst]

most I don't consider 'relationships' so when it ended it ended and usually I didn't notice. Sex to me is not equal to a relationship, a relationship starts when both of you agree to see where the happiness will go.

of the relationships:

Most got too greedy (for which I am paying for now), I was a very young and successful guy....my exes assumed the money was theirs and theirs alone. I shared my success and still do.

Some got possessive....we weren't married and sometimes the whole monogamy thing wasn't even discussed at all yet they would try to control me.

Some tried to pull the 'you got sex now I own you' deal....these *girls* I would torture. Some I'd bounce to their best friends. There was no 'commitment' made, many gave it up on the first date....not that first date sex = slut necessarily, but still I saw this scenario coming (pun intended?) usually.

My most successful relationship other than my present marriage got ended by her mental illness after she was in a major car accident that broke her neck. That was a perfect relationship ended by the stupidity of another. We were both young, in love and pretty much ended up naked and together whenever our lives allowed. When I had to divorce her my friends thought I was the one insane, however, Barbie <> happiness. She was the one responsible for most of my debt today (other than school loans) 7 years later. Charging $50-200 per day will do that .

All this said, being that you are on our 1st gf, I'd say it must end, even if it meant you came back to her later on. You simply cannot go through life with one and only one experience. Either you or her will ponder this and wonder out.....then usually the other person will accept it and then do some wondering themselves....rinse and repeat.

&Aring;

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: Koing
Just wondering.

So in your past relationships what went wrong and how did it end?

Me I can't say as I'm still with my 1st gf.

Koing

I should have broken up with her 24 months earlier.