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Zysoclaplem

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I was asking a friend about his mom and dad yesterday, and I asked him to tell me one good thing about his father. His reply was that there was only one good thing about him. That he will be dead one day. He was being very serious.
Anyone else have this type of hateful view on their dad?

 
Chaotic42

Chaotic42

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My birth father has twelve kids with as many women. I've never met him, but I don't think highly of him. My adoptive father (My maternal grandfather) and I don't always get along, but we respect and care about each other.

My family isn't big into the cuddly snuggle time like most people's families seem to be.
 
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giantpinkbunnyhead

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Wow. That's terrible. My dad is my best friend in the whole world. It seems so foreign to me that anybody could hate their dad (or mom) like that. But I suppose in certain circumstances it would be expected.
 
Linflas

Linflas

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My father passed away in 1994 and a day doesn't pass that I don't think about him at some point.
 
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TravisT

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My dad and I have a close relationship. He has some significant health problems but never complains and only discusses them if I ask him about it. I have a lot of respect for my father. :)
 
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mundane

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I don't know my father very well, in the sense that we usually don't socialize as friends. I do have the utmost respect for him, and he's very proud of me; I regret the times I took his presence in my life for granted.
 
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mugs

Lifer
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My father is fine, I have no problems with him, I'm just not as close to him as to my mom.
 
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krunchykrome

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I was asking a friend about his mom and dad yesterday, and I asked him to tell me one good thing about his father. His reply was that there was only one good thing about him. That he will be dead one day. He was being very serious.
Anyone else have this type of hateful view on their dad?
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I dont have a good relationship with my father. In fact, every bad characteristic about myself Id say I got from him. In short, he ruined our family with his controlling, stubborn, and unreasonable personality. He doesnt know a thing about me, and although he always supported the family financially, he never really grasped the concept of family; to this day, Im embarressed to say that other that meeting them a few times briefly, I know none of my outside family (cousins, grandparents, uncles, neices, nephews, etc).

The only good thing I got from my father was his strong will.
 
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flyboy84

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I love my dad, but he's fvcking strange as hell. Just like me :evil: I wish I could have voted for all three of those choices, but I chose 'strange' :p
 
JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
I haven't talked to my Father in years...:(
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Why?
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He never calls me...I never call him...We live 2500 miles apart. Lots of stupid little reasons.

I did call him last Christmas and left a message but he never called me back. He's visiting his parents this weekend and my sister is going to drive down and visit them too. Maybe this weekend I'll get to talk with him.

Edit-It's funny, I never really thought of how fvcked up our relationship was until I had a son of my own...:(

I'm close to my Mom and her husband though. She married well with that one.
 
Geekbabe

Geekbabe

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never knew the man,last time I saw him I was 18 months old and in court where he was busy denying that I was his.

Had a stepfather who made it real clear that he hated my brother and I and resented having to spend anything to keep us alive"you two are just your mother's worthless bastard"s"

it makes for a cheap Father's day though,mother's day too since my mom often expressed that I was just as no good and worthless as my father and that I'd ruined her life ,haven't spoken to my mother in close to 15 yrs:)

I don't hate them anymore, after having my own family I understood that they probably did the best they could at the time.Forgiveness however doesn't mean any desire to continue a relationship.My own kids were better off not knowing any of them.
 
pontifex

pontifex

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my relatiosnhip with my dad could be better but its not bad.

we don't really have a lot in common though.
 
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SirChadwick

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My father has been in prison (for reasons I'd rather not discuss) since I was 12 years old. He was a very good Dad up until that point.... I've missed out on so much and he still thinks I'm his little boy. It's almost sad when he talks to me like I'm still 12 now that I'm 26. I wish I could have had a real father figure growing up... so much to learn and grow from.
 
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Rage187

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My parents got divorced when I was 16, I've seen him a few times since then. So maybe 5 times in 14 years. He moved way outta of state to the midwest so seeing him is limited.

We talk every year or so and have a good civil conversation. Speak of the devil, he is in town for the next couple weeks and I will probably see him for the first time in 3-4 years today.
 
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psydancerqt

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i get along great with my dad. he's ready and willing to do anything for me! he just wants me to be happy in life.
 
Geekbabe

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
This thread is depressing me...:(
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Son,life isn't like it is portrayed on holiday tv commercials for the vast majority of people.

The thing to celebrate is how many folks manage to rise above less than optium family backgrouds and go on to make decent lives for themselves.

I have a husband and a son who love me very much, grown daughters and grandkids,even a friend or two and co-workers who value me..oh and our cat:)
 
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