Reasons why anyone should get married

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik
If that's the attitude you're going to have, then I guess I do and I guess I am.

You have basically decided that your reasoning is the ONLY valid reasoning, I would never presume to tell another couple that they should marry.. or that they should not.

Your reasoning about marriage is valid when you're applying it to your life, not to the lives of other people who might think and believe differently.

My reasoning? There are only 4 valid reasons for marriage posted in this thread. Each time I've recapped trying to get back on subject from your posts, I've left out the 1 reason I've brought to this thread leaving the 3 reasons brought up by different people.

Yeah, that's totally me rejecting everyone's reasoning but my own :roll:

Just stop posting. Really.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik
If that's the attitude you're going to have, then I guess I do and I guess I am.

You have basically decided that your reasoning is the ONLY valid reasoning, I would never presume to tell another couple that they should marry.. or that they should not.

Your reasoning about marriage is valid when you're applying it to your life, not to the lives of other people who might think and believe differently.

My reasoning? There are only 4 valid reasons for marriage posted in this thread. Each time I've recapped trying to get back on subject from your posts, I've left out the 1 reason I've brought to this thread leaving the 3 reasons brought up by different people.

Yeah, that's totally me rejecting everyone's reasoning but my own :roll:

Just stop posting. Really.

Lol, YOU feel there are only 4 valid reasons for marriage, not everybody feels that way.

In the end, the only people it matters to are the two people involved, if they feel happy and content
living together great, if they would feel happier and more content being legally married, that's great too.

I can't say your reasons for avoiding marriage aren't valid for YOU, I don't get to decide that for you
or for anybody else for that matter. Beautiful thing about living in a free society, we get to decide about our
intimate relationships.. unless we have the misfortune of being gay and wanting to get married

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik
If that's the attitude you're going to have, then I guess I do and I guess I am.

You have basically decided that your reasoning is the ONLY valid reasoning, I would never presume to tell another couple that they should marry.. or that they should not.

Your reasoning about marriage is valid when you're applying it to your life, not to the lives of other people who might think and believe differently.

My reasoning? There are only 4 valid reasons for marriage posted in this thread. Each time I've recapped trying to get back on subject from your posts, I've left out the 1 reason I've brought to this thread leaving the 3 reasons brought up by different people.

Yeah, that's totally me rejecting everyone's reasoning but my own :roll:

Just stop posting. Really.

Lol, YOU feel there are only 4 valid reasons for marriage, not everybody feels that way.

In the end, the only people it matters to are the two people involved, if they feel happy and content
living together great, if they would feel happier and more content being legally married, that's great too.

I can't say your reasons for avoiding marriage aren't valid for YOU, I don't get to decide that for you
or for anybody else for that matter. Beautiful thing about living in a free society, we get to decide about our
intimate relationships.. unless we have the misfortune of being gay and wanting to get married

I wouldn't marry for any of the 4 reasons I accept for being valid reasons to get married.

I "win." Again.

 

[nageov3t]

if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly woman your wife.

 

[Bird222]

Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

 

[Nik]

Originally posted by: Bird222
Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

1) kids
2) taxes
3) social security
4) the 1% chance that your family are all cunts who will whine and bitch and fight over your stuff to prevent your SO from getting anything after you die

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Unmarried and living in sin with a bastard child who is 14 1/2.

I see no reason to get married - but will be forced to as I want my SSI benefits to go to her as I've paid much much more into the system than she has.

I've never been kept from the hospital during her surgeries, she gets my health benefits under the domestic partner rules, and she wears a ring but I do not as I dislike jewelry.

* it costs $150 for a marraige certificate and costs $15,000 in legal fees to get divorced.

 

[KeithTalent]

Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Unmarried and living in sin with a bastard child who is 14 1/2.

I see no reason to get married - but will be forced to as I want my SSI benefits to go to her as I've paid much much more into the system than she has.

I've never been kept from the hospital during her surgeries, she gets my health benefits under the domestic partner rules, and she wears a ring but I do not as I dislike jewelry.

* it costs $150 for a marraige certificate and costs $15,000 in legal fees to get divorced.

Cost us about $375 all in.

KT

 

[oiprocs]

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Unmarried and living in sin with a bastard child who is 14 1/2.

I see no reason to get married - but will be forced to as I want my SSI benefits to go to her as I've paid much much more into the system than she has.

I've never been kept from the hospital during her surgeries, she gets my health benefits under the domestic partner rules, and she wears a ring but I do not as I dislike jewelry.

* it costs $150 for a marraige certificate and costs $15,000 in legal fees to get divorced.

Cost us about $375 all in.

KT

Yeah, that lawyer from Scrubs has great rates.

 

[KeithTalent]

Originally posted by: scorpious

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Unmarried and living in sin with a bastard child who is 14 1/2.

I see no reason to get married - but will be forced to as I want my SSI benefits to go to her as I've paid much much more into the system than she has.

I've never been kept from the hospital during her surgeries, she gets my health benefits under the domestic partner rules, and she wears a ring but I do not as I dislike jewelry.

* it costs $150 for a marraige certificate and costs $15,000 in legal fees to get divorced.

Cost us about $375 all in.

KT

Yeah, that lawyer from Scrubs has great rates.

Well, granted we did not use a lawyer as there was no need.

KT

 

[manowar821]

Being in-love enough to want to share the rest of your life with the other person.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Bird222
Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

1) kids
2) taxes
3) social security
4) the 1% chance that your family are all cunts who will whine and bitch and fight over your stuff to prevent your SO from getting anything after you die

Getting married is creating an entity..a Family that's closer than any friendship. It's like being part of a country instead of just an alliance.

 

[vi edit]

It's just any number of other things in one's life that have both logical and emotional reasons.

There's logical and emotional reasons somebody joins the armed forces.
There's logical and emotional reasons somebody chooses to be a doctor or a nurse.
There's logical and emotional reasons why you buy a house instead of rent.
There's logical and emotional reasons why somebody chooses to go to church.
There's logical and emotional reasons why somebody chooses to get married.

And the same exact thing can be said for *NOT* doing any of those things.

If it works for you it works for you. If it doesn't. It doesn't. Trying to argue one way or the other till you are blue in the face solves nothing....but it makes for a great waste of time.

I don't have to defend my reasons for getting married. They don't impact you, and what you chose to do doesn't affect me.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

Originally posted by: Fmr12B
Unmarried and living in sin with a bastard child who is 14 1/2.

I see no reason to get married - but will be forced to as I want my SSI benefits to go to her as I've paid much much more into the system than she has.

I've never been kept from the hospital during her surgeries, she gets my health benefits under the domestic partner rules, and she wears a ring but I do not as I dislike jewelry.

* it costs $150 for a marraige certificate and costs $15,000 in legal fees to get divorced.

Cost us about $375 all in.

KT

either you had a good split or nothing worth pursuing.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Bird222
Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

1) kids
2) taxes
3) social security
4) the 1% chance that your family are all cunts who will whine and bitch and fight over your stuff to prevent your SO from getting anything after you die

Getting married is creating an entity..a Family that's closer than any friendship. It's like being part of a country instead of just an alliance.

I agree with this. Once you get married, the marriage becomes bigger and more important than any one of you on your own. it is committing yourself to something higher than yourself. unfortunately the level of commitment is not always realized by all that are entering into the pact.

 

[jinduy]

maybe the reason for marriage is like drugs... it gives people a certain pleasure (something like a strong sense of accomplishment and a feeling of unity)

edit:

just reading up a bit... RedDawn's comment seems to be what i had in mind:

Getting married is creating an entity..a Family that's closer than any friendship. It's like being part of a country instead of just an alliance.

 

[SagaLore]

There isn't a good reason to get married anymore.

I believe it is more important to have an ongoing healthy relationship. Some people turn towards marriage as a way to force commitment on each other, or appease a higher deity.

At this point marriage is so heavily tied into legal rights and some financial incentives that its nothing more than a government bureaucratic loophole.

Relationships people, focus on relationships!

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: vi edit
It's just any number of other things in one's life that have both logical and emotional reasons.

There's logical and emotional reasons somebody joins the armed forces.
There's logical and emotional reasons somebody chooses to be a doctor or a nurse.
There's logical and emotional reasons why you buy a house instead of rent.
There's logical and emotional reasons why somebody chooses to go to church.
There's logical and emotional reasons why somebody chooses to get married.

And the same exact thing can be said for *NOT* doing any of those things.

If it works for you it works for you. If it doesn't. It doesn't. Trying to argue one way or the other till you are blue in the face solves nothing....but it makes for a great waste of time.

I don't have to defend my reasons for getting married. They don't impact you, and what you chose to do doesn't affect me.

I agree 100%

My choice doesn't affect you, nor does yours affect me. It makes you happy, and that's the important thing. I just see the few married couples that do work (like my grandparents who were married for 55+ years), and see how happy they are in it. I wonder what it is that makes them that way, if it's marriage or if it's just the people. Obviously the people aspect is a major part of it, but I wonder "would they be this happy if they weren't married? Would they be different as a couple?" Is there an appeal to be that happy with another person? Definitely. Is marriage one part of the equation that results in being that happy? That I can't answer, and don't see any reason why marriage would be part of that equation.

What ultimately boils down to is this (for me at least): (1)I don't understand what marriages provides a couple that they can't get otherwise, but I want to know what that is. (2)I see all these people that were happy in marriage, get divorced, and (usually) the guy ending up much worse off then he would be without the marriage. That leads to (3) Since I don't see any benefits of marriage, see many possible hugely negative things coming from it, do I want to take that chance?

Oh, and (4)at work I need time to kill

 

[meltdown75]

all the people in here that don't understand marriage are failing to realize that it's an ages-old institution.

you guys make it sound like it's just something we cooked up last week because we thought it was a good idea.

marriage: it's what people that want to be together forever do?

it's just a logical step in a lot of relationships. no one is trying to reinvent the wheel here.

 

[Parasitic]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
all the people in here that don't understand marriage are failing to realize that it's an ages-old institution.

you guys make it sound like it's just something we cooked up last week because we thought it was a good idea.

marriage: it's what people that want to be together forever do?

it's just a logical step in a lot of relationships. no one is trying to reinvent the wheel here.

QFT. Too many people do rush into marriages when they really shouldn't though, and because of that it no longer makes sense.

 

[Chryso]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Because prior to Red, I was a bitter selfish wise and beautiful woman who thought of nothing but her own needs and pleasure. My husband's love changed something very basic inside me. Marriage has been very good for me in all aspects of my life.
My husband makes me want to strive to be a better person. I imagine that many people marry for deeply held internal reasons.

Does that satisfy you ? I hope so because I can't get anymore direct or honest than that.

Btw, if you have adult children or parents who are still living, those folks can and very often do
challenge wills that leave assets to live in parmours, those challenges can tie up an estate for
years and leave a significant other penniless. That's not a risk I was willing to take.

So you get married to defend giving your stuff to your SO when you die?

No, the main reason I married was because my husband challenges me and brings out the best in me. We married because we wanted to, it pleased us to do so.

...surely, a level of relationship you cannot attain without getting married or something?

She said they wanted to get married. Stop being such a douche.
You've been doing it a lot lately.

 

[sdifox]

Why do people need to justify _____? You want to do it, go ahead. Who cares about the opinion of other people? As long as it is what you want (and it's legal), go for it.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Bird222
Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

1) kids
2) taxes
3) social security
4) the 1% chance that your family are all cunts who will whine and bitch and fight over your stuff to prevent your SO from getting anything after you die

Getting married is creating an entity..a Family that's closer than any friendship. It's like being part of a country instead of just an alliance.

I agree with this. Once you get married, the marriage becomes bigger and more important than any one of you on your own. it is committing yourself to something higher than yourself. unfortunately the level of commitment is not always realized by all that are entering into the pact.

Exactly, so basically the only reason to get married is to

1) Have kids
2) PROTECT YOUR ESTATE

Taxes make no sense. Most dual earners are penalized.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Originally posted by: JS80

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: Bird222
Can I get a recap of the 4 valid reasons for marriage?

1) kids
2) taxes
3) social security
4) the 1% chance that your family are all cunts who will whine and bitch and fight over your stuff to prevent your SO from getting anything after you die

Getting married is creating an entity..a Family that's closer than any friendship. It's like being part of a country instead of just an alliance.

I agree with this. Once you get married, the marriage becomes bigger and more important than any one of you on your own. it is committing yourself to something higher than yourself. unfortunately the level of commitment is not always realized by all that are entering into the pact.

Exactly, so basically the only reason to get married is to

1) Have kids
2) PROTECT YOUR ESTATE

Taxes make no sense. Most dual earners are penalized.

Why is it you are only allowed to have kids if you are married? Not sure what having children has to do with being married?

I'm in a LTR and we have a 14 1/2 year old child together......

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

edit nevermind, most likely in poor taste and don't want to offend somebody else in this thread....