Reasons to Break Up

[AngelOfDeath]

My first GF was as I've told before the love of my life, but that's by now 4-5 years ago. She was one in a million.

My second GF was a pain in the ass to be around with. Whenever she was mad or frustrated or something she never told me. I could ask her several times but still nothing and then suddenly she would explode. When she started to get mad at me for visiting my friends I dumped her.

My third GF was a beauty and was okey, but she had the same moods as my second GF. We wasn't together for more than a few weeks but we talked a lot over the internet. Well, when she got home I for some reason didn't heard anything from her in a long time which she haven't done before. I got angry and her respons was something like she needed to be alone...Hmmm, would have been nice if she told that in the first place. So that ended here.

My fourth 'GF' was a girl I talked with for 2 month or so. She was actually very nice. Well to be honest we had shared information on how we looked and so. I sended her pics. I did though never get any from her. She wanted to see me for real so to speak, so we did. When I saw her I couldn't believe my own eyes. I got so %¤#¤ angry. She was actually a really big girl and she never told me. I talked to her for 5 minutes where I told her my opinion and then gave her the big bootie to be honest. Not the greatest thing I've done, but I was angry and felt lied to.

My fifth GF is the one I have now. Yesterday we had our 1½ year so we went to a restaurent, and afterwards we went to my place and shared a very good and expensive red-wine I bought to me and her. She is everything I could possibly hope for. Sweet, understanding, beautiful and I could go on . We are talking about moving together. That's my story.

AoD

[EDIT]My third and fourth GF called me several times afterwards so somehow I do believe I did the right things and reacted the right way. Well, I have to I've always believed in being honest 100%. Both of them I had to tell that I already have a GF and that I don't see why I should talk with them anymore [/EDIT]

 

[kassy]

My first husband, well....
The things that I could handle
- he couldnt pee in a pot if he tried (his aim was piss poor to say the least )
- he thought it was funny to fart and leave me standing in a cloud of toe curling air.
- he would write up a list of food that wished to eat for the following week.
- he couldnt decide if he wanted to play 'hump me, bump me' with men or women.

well you get the idea, the list goes on...

But when someone uses force to get what they want, even when they know its something that totally goes against every thing you believe in, well then its time to hit the road jack...

I went away for a couple of weeks, put a print out of his face up on a target, shot the living snotters out of him and then went back and divorced him...

It was either divorce him or kill him.... :disgust:

 

[Shuxclams]

Isla,
I have been meaning to talk to you, I don't think it's going to work out between us, I think we should break up.........



SHUX

 

[BuckMaster]

Were can I buy one of these. I will pay TOP dollar!!



<< But you might be surprised at how spunky some of us &quot;housewives&quot; can be.. >>

 

[Shuxclams]

<< But you might be surprised at how spunky some of us
&quot;housewives&quot; can be... >>

[/b]OH YEAH BABY!



SHUX

 

[unxpurg8d]

LOL Isla, those @#$@$@ jigsaw puzzles drove me NUTS!!! Seriously, I think it's not the big things that break a relationship up so much as it is the constant pinging away of little things...kinda like water torture.

&quot;Grace them with my presence&quot; - I like that. Sounds WAY better than &quot;made their life a living hell on earth&quot;.


Btw, you're a pretty tough cookie yourself, dear. Keeping a marriage together through the bad stuff and being strong enough to rise above it while rebuilding love and respect is something most of us can't or don't work at..... I'm impressed as heck.

 

[Fathom4]

For me, her adultery, which I could forgive and her unwillingness to give up the affair to work on our marriage, which I could not forgive.

Sounded pretty fscking simple to me so what's her problem?


[edit] I don't think I've got the strength for all this tonight after the day I had, I think its time to veg. out.

Everyone be well.

 

[Stark]

GF #1: Breakup: We were supposed to meet some friends for a ski trip. When I couldn't make it, she took her new &quot;friend&quot; and swapped spit with him on the way up the chairlifts. When I was able to get away and join the group in the mountains, she told me she found someone else and it was over. Boy was that a long drive home!

GF #2: Breakup: She decided she was a lesbian.

GF #3: Three times is the charm. Mrs. Stark is the best woman in the world. I guess I had to figure out what not to look for in a woman before the right one appeared.

 

[StageLeft]

unxpurg8d How long are you going out with these guys first?

Kassy he thought it was funny to fart and leave me standing in a cloud of toe curling air. That IS funny! At least I think so...my girlfriend doesn't normally, I hope the same thing doesn't happen...

stark regarding girlfriend #2 - did you get to watch...at least once?

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I had a &quot;girlfriend&quot; for a month when I was 16, it was a joke...Met a girl when I was almost 18, its now 4.5 years later and we're getting married next year. May sound sad that I'm marrying my first real girlfriend but I consider myself to be critical and I know for a fact that our relationship is better than most - and after years we still are having a great time. Plus for her I'm something like boyfriend #15; weird eh? I like to learn from other people so I never felt the need to go out with other people to &quot;see what I was missing&quot; because I know...and its not much!

 

[Total Refected Power]

Question for people with bad marriages:

Did you have a clue beforehand that things wouldn't work out, or was everything &quot;perfect&quot;?

Some (not all) of this stuff seems avoidable as a result of a thorough courtship.

 

[unxpurg8d]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....you're supposed to DATE them first...

 

[Total Refected Power]

unxPurg:

At least a burger or two.

 

[kassy]

Skoorb - it is funny, and I am sure you will be fine with your lady

A few well timed air rockets weren't the problem

 

[Isla]

TRP

The warning signs have always been there for me. In fact, right before I married Mr Isla, a VERY SERIOUS event occured that should have been my cue to say, &quot;The wedding is off!&quot;

But, for lack of maturity or personal strength, I went through with it anyway.

A few years ago, when I was on the brink of divorce for the second time, I realized that if I didn;t work things out with Mr. Isla, I would probably end up playing out the same scene again with someone else... It freaked me out that I could have red flashing lights right in my face and not see them!

I can honestly say that if for whatever reasons, I am alone again, I will not make the same mistakes. I had to really understand my own motivations for choosing 'difficult' men before I could learn how to truly relate.

Now, instead of marrying emotionally handicapped/disturbed people, I will work with them professionally.

edit: kassy, you are too much! Glad you found happiness the second time around. Stark, can I call you &quot;Ross&quot; Be glad she found out in time! :Q

SHUX... tell me it isn't so!

 

[compuwiz1]

If anyone wants to expedite the process, then there is always the trusty &quot;Relationship Terminator&quot;

 

[Total Refected Power]

STARK:

The best woman in the world for you. I have THE BEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


ISLA: Interesting that you saw it coming but went through with it. I bet most people would have done the same thing as you. Tough growing up, huh?

 

[MrsSHUXCLAMS]

<< My brother put it eloquently when he quoted &quot;No matter how hot a chick is some guy out there is tired of f**king her.&quot; Very insightful - if also base. >>



Well Buddy,

The same goes for us women, but it's not because we are sick of the sex. It's because he sucked in the first place! Have you
heard the line &quot;It's not you but Im just not in the mood&quot;

Think about it lame-o!

Total Refected Power
I like you! Lame-o could learn from you!!!!

 

[Total Refected Power]

MrsShuxClams:

Well thank you nicely.

 

[Yeeny]

Were can I buy one of these. I will pay TOP dollar!!

OK, you can PayPal 49.95 to me, and I will make sure you get one. But there is no warranty for damage she may do to you, if you catch her on a bad day.

unxpurg8d: I know, you think somebody would have explained you don't just pick some guy up at the mall and marry him. Sheesh, how are we supposed to know all the rules?

 

[Stark]

Scooorb,

I met her soon to be girlfriend... it wouldn't have been a pretty sight.

TRP,

Nope, sorry to break it to you, but mine is the greatest that is, was, and will ever be. I'm sure yours in nice too, though.

 

[Noriaki]

<< But you might be surprised at how spunky some of us &quot;housewives&quot; can be... >>

Hahah glad to hear it
The reason I said that part about the cooking is this:
I'm 20, I live with a 26 year old couple who are engaged (they are buying a house and rent a room to help pay the mortage..anyhow..). The guy is gone on a business trip for 2 weeks...it's just me and Dawn...Paul's mom actually told Dawn she should be cooking my meals for me.
I was extremely offended by this...I can only imagine how Dawn must have felt...she must have wanted to rip Paul's mom's head off...
I couldn't believe it when Dawn told me she said that....
That's what has me up in arms about women cooking for me.

Not that I wouldn't eat meal she cooked for me you understand but to expect it...bleh...oh well I guess that's how some people are raised.


But all that's ok, I've already found the woman for me. I still have to convince her of that She's almost as big a computer geek as me and she's very strong willed. Cute too (ok I'm a little biased ) I don't have to worry about mushy noodle willed women anymore. But I'm glad to hear some of you have spines.

 

[lowtech1]

Well...I'll disclose my list, but not thing as drastic as Fathom4, Isla, unxpurg8d, and kassy.

Like Noriaki I have always like, and only have dated tomboys.

1st GF - Was the wonderful lady I have ever love &amp; loved. She was everything to me, my best friend, my lover...but, things didn't turn out because we were told to stay with our kind by her father &amp; uncle, after we had dated for a year. It broke our hearts, that the colour of our skin can dictate who we can or can't love. Her mother quote, &quot;blood is thicker than water&quot;

2nd GF - A physically beautiful woman from the Caribbean, with a moody &amp; fiery temper that doesn?t really know what she wanted. We weren't meant to be with each other, because I wasn't a party man, and weren't man enough to have a relationship with a willful Caribbean woman.

3rd GF - An enchanted redhead with the fiery passion, that became a new-age born again Christian during our relationship. She wanted me to devote my life to her, religion, and her daughter...We went our separate way, because I can't accept a the way of life that she imposed upon me, and I didn't wanted to give up my personality, my input, my career, my family &amp; most of all freedom of thoughts.

It could be that I'm too demanding...I want a woman that is intelligent, love science, art/culture, as well as the environment. And, whose isn't fear of a good debate &amp; reasoning.

 

[MrsSHUXCLAMS]

Grosser then Gross!!!!!! I can Top you all!!!!!!!!!
Found him shooting up in a bathroom stall with toilet water!!!!! OMG thank god all we did was kiss!!!!!!!!! NO TONGUE!!!!
Im just a nice girl!!! Hum I guess that why he had long selves on all the time? 110 out and long selves.

YUCK AHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
RUNNNNNNN AWAY
YOU CAN HAVE THE CD, DIDN'T WANT IT ANY WAY! NO NEED TO BRING IT TO ME!!!! KEEP IT!!! PLEAES KEEP IT! :Q:disgust:

 

[lowtech1]

Feel like I just gone through a group support meeting

 

[babyBluiZ]

That's a loaded question!!!

BF #1: at 15, my first boyfriend, was very abusive.. of course I was young and niave, and let it get too far before I finally told him to get lost. (I'm glad I had that one young though.. I've never had a physically abusive relationship again.)

BF #2: He didn't like the fact that I wanted to go away to college.. so I had to chose. The education was worth it

The One That Got Away: He was too nice!!! Treated me like a queen, he was always there, answered his phone when I called, told me everywhere he was going, would come over in a second if I called. TOTALLY faithful. OMG.. why did I let him get away? I wasn't ready for him.. I needed to figure out what I DIDN'T want in a man before I knew what I did want. <slapping myself upside the head> ... he's now married with 2 kids.. great job, nice house.. I hate his wife.. just kidding, I don't even know her LOL.. Damn.. I really F$%^^&amp;d up on pushing him away.

BF#3: Fiance.. we lived together, after he proposed... I didn't see ANY signs that he was unfaithful, until 2 months after we moved in.. turns out I was the &quot;other woman&quot;!!!! packed my bags and left in 2 hours after I found out. (that's one thing in a relationship I don't give a second chance for.. I'm probablly the most faithful person you will meet, and as the saying goes... &quot;do unto others&quot

BF#4: well, this one was probabbly my problem.. I let him move in.. he had no job, was a &quot;writer&quot; (ROFLMAO)... I tried to kick him out once, because he had no job, drank all day, got high all night, then he found a job.. then I found out he had a GF on the side, after a year of living here, I quickly gave him the boot (not that he left as fast as I would have, had it been his house!!!)

I've been single for a year and a half now, I'm trying to figure out my part in all these relationships.. there has to be something wrong with me, that my worst fears always come true!!! I know for one, I never nagged #3 and #4 as to where they were going and who they were with, I thought at the time, I didn't want to be a nag GF, but now I think I should have tightened the leash, and nagged a little more

anyway.. in my opinion, none of these BF gave me anything to &quot;work out&quot; I can put up with a lot of sh!t, but the only things I won't put up with is, stopping me from doing what I have to do to better myself, abuse, and affairs!!! hmmmm looks like those are the only types of realationships I've been in.. accept the &quot;one that got away&quot;.. damn I F%$c%d up on that one!!! damn damn damn