BoberFett
Lifer
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Oh man, is my history with women a real work of art.
GF#1: Enviro-freak. Do you remember those fires that burned down the ski resorts in Vail, CO? It was claimed to be the work of the ALF, the Animal Liberation Front. Guess who's ex-girlfriend is the spokesperson for that group? I was totally blown away when I saw her name in the paper talking about how great an accomplishment those fires were.
Say what?
GF#2: Religious Fanatic: Things were just great for a while, everything seemed to be going the right direction. One day after quite a few months of serious dating, things were getting kind of hot'n'heavy when she just basically just stopped and asked me to leave. She thought that things were just getting too physical between us, and she was waiting for marriage.
Excuse me? First, she wasn't even a virgin. Second, weren't there two of us involved there? But somehow that was my fault. :disgust:
Wife: I don't know where to start, we're both at fault partly. We want very different things out of life, but we didn't date long enough to find out about each other as deeply as we should have. We disagree about the house, kids, jobs, money, religion. Oh here's a kick, she's now a born-again Christian and I can't stand religion. I love adventure and the outdoors, or going downtown and having some fun. She prefers quiet evenings at home. I could handle that if there were a compromise, but she's just stick in the mud, never wants to have any fun.
*sigh*
Someone put me out of my misery.
GF#1: Enviro-freak. Do you remember those fires that burned down the ski resorts in Vail, CO? It was claimed to be the work of the ALF, the Animal Liberation Front. Guess who's ex-girlfriend is the spokesperson for that group? I was totally blown away when I saw her name in the paper talking about how great an accomplishment those fires were.
Say what?
GF#2: Religious Fanatic: Things were just great for a while, everything seemed to be going the right direction. One day after quite a few months of serious dating, things were getting kind of hot'n'heavy when she just basically just stopped and asked me to leave. She thought that things were just getting too physical between us, and she was waiting for marriage.
Excuse me? First, she wasn't even a virgin. Second, weren't there two of us involved there? But somehow that was my fault. :disgust:
Wife: I don't know where to start, we're both at fault partly. We want very different things out of life, but we didn't date long enough to find out about each other as deeply as we should have. We disagree about the house, kids, jobs, money, religion. Oh here's a kick, she's now a born-again Christian and I can't stand religion. I love adventure and the outdoors, or going downtown and having some fun. She prefers quiet evenings at home. I could handle that if there were a compromise, but she's just stick in the mud, never wants to have any fun.
*sigh*
Someone put me out of my misery.
bober,
Go to church with her on sunday mornings. You can sit there and think "this is a load of bs" the whole time. Even tell the pastor you don't like religion. Your marriage will benefit 1000% just by spending those few hours together and showing her that you respect that it's important to her.
Go to church with her on sunday mornings. You can sit there and think "this is a load of bs" the whole time. Even tell the pastor you don't like religion. Your marriage will benefit 1000% just by spending those few hours together and showing her that you respect that it's important to her.
There's what happened with me. We were perfect together and completely happy for 2 1/2 months (In high school, that's a long time) and then it ends one day for no apparent readon, all I've been able to gather is that she was afraid of commitment.
wtf? Isla is a guy? I've always got the impression that she was a girl! that 'sla' gives it away
No word in any language can edit: effectively describe my experience with women. Here's all i've had to endure:
The End.
The End.
Obviously, so few long-term relationships actually work because Nature doesn't require them to; especially when they are no longer socially convenient. It is not geneticlly programmed imperative.
Females need long-term relationships only as long as it takes for offspring to become independently self-reliant.
Males need long-term relationships only as long as it takes to pass on their genetic code to offspring.
Doh.
Females need long-term relationships only as long as it takes for offspring to become independently self-reliant.
Males need long-term relationships only as long as it takes to pass on their genetic code to offspring.
Doh.
1. Co-dependent.
2. "My second GF was a pain in the ass to be around with. Whenever she was mad or frustrated or something she never told me. I could ask her several times but still nothing and then suddenly she would explode. When she started to get mad at me for visiting my friends I dumped her"
3. Long-distance relationship
4. "GF #1: Breakup: We were supposed to meet some friends for a ski trip. When I couldn't make it, she took her new "friend" and swapped spit with him on the way up the chairlifts. When I was able to get away and join the group in the mountains, she told me she found someone else and it was over"
A couple I just borrowed from other posts. Three of these were from the same woman! Ouch.
Maybe someday I will be happy.
2. "My second GF was a pain in the ass to be around with. Whenever she was mad or frustrated or something she never told me. I could ask her several times but still nothing and then suddenly she would explode. When she started to get mad at me for visiting my friends I dumped her"
3. Long-distance relationship
4. "GF #1: Breakup: We were supposed to meet some friends for a ski trip. When I couldn't make it, she took her new "friend" and swapped spit with him on the way up the chairlifts. When I was able to get away and join the group in the mountains, she told me she found someone else and it was over"
A couple I just borrowed from other posts. Three of these were from the same woman! Ouch.
Maybe someday I will be happy.
I have a question for the females. My mom is a mariage and family therapists and this has always confused me.
Why do you marry those crappy guys? Or why do you date those crappy guys in the first place? I know of many cases where it appears to me that the woman went out and got the most worthless bum she could find and married him.
I'm serious, it has never made sense to me.
Why do you marry those crappy guys? Or why do you date those crappy guys in the first place? I know of many cases where it appears to me that the woman went out and got the most worthless bum she could find and married him.
I'm serious, it has never made sense to me.
qawac: If people knew the reasons they made those choices in life, then people like your mom would be out of business.
qacwac Yikes, that is a loaded question. In my case, husband number one was better than my father, so at the time I thought I was doing ok, I was getting away from a bad homelife and getting a better deal than my mother did, for a time anyway. Also, some people are very good at hiding the darker side of their nature.
Let's see...
1.) Puppy love in high school. She thought I was smothering her (I was) so she broke it off. Looking back, it was so silly, and I freaked out. How cute.
2.) Basically sexual relationship. We "dated" for about 2 months and pretty much slept together all the time. It was fun, but she ended up having a problem with it and broke it off. Since there really wasn't any emotional attachment, it wasn't a big deal.
3.) Just not ready. We dated for a few months in college, and she finally decided that she didn't want to be in a committed relationship. Oh well, b|tch. Just kidding -- good woman, and I bet she is a good wife to some lucky guy right now.
4.) We weren't all that compatible, though it lasted nearly two years. Go figure, huh? It was a comfort relationship. We knew there wasn't a future in it (in law school, we were headed in different directions), but it was nice to be with someone. We were good friends, but she always shied away from the emotional attachment and never referred to me as her "boyfriend". It didn't really end at any point, just sort of fizzled out.
5.) She was into me MUCH more than I was into her. She was falling in love with me, and I had issues with her looks, unfortunately. She was rather heavy (not a little bit either), and I let that get to me. She was a good woman though, but I also just didn't feel anything like love for her. It was unfair for me to keep stringing her along so I broke it off.
6.) Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! Dated her for a year, proposed, engaged for a year, and married May 15, 1999. Still going strong, and I don't see any changes to that. It was interesting -- last night she went out for a little while, and I realized that I don't like being alone anymore. It was a happy realization though since I am glad to be around her all the time. A little scary, too.
Isla: Regarding those "fixer-upper" guys, you should read one of Dr. Laura's books -- "the 10 stupid things women" do one. It addresses that issue quite pointedly.
1.) Puppy love in high school. She thought I was smothering her (I was) so she broke it off. Looking back, it was so silly, and I freaked out. How cute.
2.) Basically sexual relationship. We "dated" for about 2 months and pretty much slept together all the time. It was fun, but she ended up having a problem with it and broke it off. Since there really wasn't any emotional attachment, it wasn't a big deal.
3.) Just not ready. We dated for a few months in college, and she finally decided that she didn't want to be in a committed relationship. Oh well, b|tch.
Just kidding -- good woman, and I bet she is a good wife to some lucky guy right now.4.) We weren't all that compatible, though it lasted nearly two years. Go figure, huh? It was a comfort relationship. We knew there wasn't a future in it (in law school, we were headed in different directions), but it was nice to be with someone. We were good friends, but she always shied away from the emotional attachment and never referred to me as her "boyfriend". It didn't really end at any point, just sort of fizzled out.
5.) She was into me MUCH more than I was into her. She was falling in love with me, and I had issues with her looks, unfortunately.
She was rather heavy (not a little bit either), and I let that get to me. She was a good woman though, but I also just didn't feel anything like love for her. It was unfair for me to keep stringing her along so I broke it off.6.) Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! Dated her for a year, proposed, engaged for a year, and married May 15, 1999. Still going strong, and I don't see any changes to that. It was interesting -- last night she went out for a little while, and I realized that I don't like being alone anymore. It was a happy realization though since I am glad to be around her all the time. A little scary, too.
Isla: Regarding those "fixer-upper" guys, you should read one of Dr. Laura's books -- "the 10 stupid things women" do one. It addresses that issue quite pointedly.
BoberFett
Lifer
- Oct 9, 1999
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OK, here's what my understanding of the deal. It has to two with two key areas of a relationship: love and respect.
Women find it easy to love and hard to stop loving, but they lose their respect for someone easily. Thus, when a woman loves a man, she may not respect him or his actions (abuse, drinking, drugs, laziness) but loves him anyway.
I haven't quite figured out what the deal is with men yet. But we seem to have trouble loving unconditionally.
Women find it easy to love and hard to stop loving, but they lose their respect for someone easily. Thus, when a woman loves a man, she may not respect him or his actions (abuse, drinking, drugs, laziness) but loves him anyway.
I haven't quite figured out what the deal is with men yet. But we seem to have trouble loving unconditionally.
OK,
One GF was a part time hooker. We broke up when she quit bringing the money home & started spending it on herself.
The GF wanted me to pay child support for the other guys kids, because he was having a 'hard time'. He was still able to buy cigarettes & beer during the hard times.
One GF dumped me because the collect calls from jail made her phone bills to high.
I left one GF when she told me she was pregnant & proved it. I had not got around to telling her about my vasectomy & being sterile.
Had to leave one GF cause, they cut off her welfare payments, after they found out I lived with her.
Another GF left me when she found out, my CIA, FBI & Secret Service IDs & Master Charge were all forged. The Master Charge was what really did it.
One GF was a part time hooker. We broke up when she quit bringing the money home & started spending it on herself.
The GF wanted me to pay child support for the other guys kids, because he was having a 'hard time'. He was still able to buy cigarettes & beer during the hard times.
One GF dumped me because the collect calls from jail made her phone bills to high.
I left one GF when she told me she was pregnant & proved it. I had not got around to telling her about my vasectomy & being sterile.
Had to leave one GF cause, they cut off her welfare payments, after they found out I lived with her.
Another GF left me when she found out, my CIA, FBI & Secret Service IDs & Master Charge were all forged. The Master Charge was what really did it.
Sorry Bober I have to disagree unless my wife and I are just odd. For us it's almost reversed of what you've said.
I loved her unconditionally until faced with the fact she no longer loved me and had no intention of trying to save our marriage.
She fell out of love for me easily but still maintains she respects me?
Like I said, maybe we're just weird.
I loved her unconditionally until faced with the fact she no longer loved me and had no intention of trying to save our marriage.
She fell out of love for me easily but still maintains she respects me?
Like I said, maybe we're just weird.
BoberFett
Lifer
- Oct 9, 1999
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Well, I never said it was rule.
That's how it is with me and my wife, she says she still loves me despite that fact that I've been an ass, and I'm trying to get to the point where I love her again. And I can see it in others around us. Perhaps it's not a male/female thing but more to do with passive/aggressive or some other personality trait. Anyway, that's just my limited understanding.
That's how it is with me and my wife, she says she still loves me despite that fact that I've been an ass, and I'm trying to get to the point where I love her again. And I can see it in others around us. Perhaps it's not a male/female thing but more to do with passive/aggressive or some other personality trait. Anyway, that's just my limited understanding.
Passive/Aggressive.
I think you hit right there, I'm passive and the ex is aggressive. Make sense?
I could still have loved her but eventually you get slapped in the face enough and it starts to sink in.
I think you hit right there, I'm passive and the ex is aggressive. Make sense?
I could still have loved her but eventually you get slapped in the face enough and it starts to sink in.
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