::RANT:: Liars

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LordMaul

Lifer
Nov 16, 2000
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Hey! I gots an idear! Change your icons to the "angry face" and get us all pumped!

w00t!
 

melly

Diamond Member
Feb 5, 2002
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<< If you've got a true case to be upset, please go ahead and post your version of what happened. When that's done I'll post mine without looking at your version. We can let AT be the jury. It's a slow news day anyways.

Don't play dumb and pretend that you thought I wouldn't notice this post, either. I am not impressed.
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Don't tell me I'm playing dumb if you thought you could play me for a fool and lost. You admitted to your lies and now you want AT to be a jury of something you already determined? And since when isn't being lied to a true case to be upset. Again, I told you to spill the details if you wanted them spilled.
 

yllus

Elite Member & Lifer
Aug 20, 2000
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Okay, I want them spilled. This calls for neutral third-party opinion.

Ladies and gentlemen of AT, I woke up this morning in a pretty good mood. Logged into MSN Messenger and went upstairs for a bit while the computer stopped buzzing from the post-startup loading Win2k goes through. Having come back downstairs and settling down at the computer I start a conversation with my girlfriend online. She brings up the topic of a "babe picture" in a forum that we both read, and says part of her dream included that girl in it - "Guess what? Remember that girl? I had a dream and saw her in it...".

I'm then quizzed on what the picture looks like. Do you remember how she was standing, the layout? What did you think of her body? During all of this I'm answering "I guess so" and stuff like that because although I did think she was hot, I didn't spend ten minutes writing a critique on her or anything. I try to change topic but it continues anyway.

Then I'm told she was looking through my ISP's webspace area and found the same picture hosted (eg. I uploaded it there). Kind of caught, I say that I uploaded it for hosting for other people to view at another forum I go to (true). She says she's not sure how she feels about this. At this point...a make a little lie. I say I hosted it for someone else. I'm asked a few more questions on this now, and have to lie a bit further. Why did you get asked to host it if both of you had the picture? etc.

Finally - she tells me she saw my post at the other forum with the picture. At this point I'm pretty ticked off. Most if not all of the goddamn conversation this morning seems, in my opinion, to have been constructed to catch me in a lie. I'm suitably annoyed in my replies now. Was there a point to all of this? I'm asked why I lied, what my excuse is. I say it's because she makes a big issue of tiny little things like this (which I think is happening yet again).

I don't think lying to your SO is something that should be done, but screw me into a position like that and what am I supposed to do? I tried to fudge out of the line of conversation because I forsaw her getting upset. She led me on into a position where I decided to lie. Am I REALLY the bad guy in all this?

There's your story, AT...

Edit: To clarify, she apparently made the first lie - by saying she found it on my webspace while looking for another file, but actually first saw my post on that other forum.
 

Texmaster

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Jun 5, 2001
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<< 3. chauvenistic attitudes >>





Quit complaining and get your bitch ass back in the kitchen.
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LOL Heya Maul :D
 

Murphyrulez

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<< Okay, I want them spilled. This calls for neutral third-party opinion.

Ladies and gentlemen of AT, I woke up this morning in a pretty good mood. Logged into MSN Messenger and went upstairs for a bit while the computer stopped buzzing from the post-startup loading Win2k goes through. Having come back downstairs and settling down at the computer I start a conversation with my girlfriend online. She brings up the topic of a "babe picture" in a forum that we both read, and says part of her dream included that girl in it - "Guess what? Remember that girl? I had a dream and saw her in it...".

I'm then quizzed on what the picture looks like. Do you remember how she was standing, the layout? What did you think of her body? During all of this I'm answering "I guess so" and stuff like that because although I did think she was hot, I didn't spend ten minutes writing a critique on her or anything. I try to change topic but it continues anyway.

Then I'm told she was looking through my ISP's webspace area and found the same picture hosted (eg. I uploaded it there). Kind of caught, I say that I uploaded it for hosting for other people to view at another forum I go to (true). She says she's not sure how she feels about this. At this point...a make a little lie. I say I hosted it for someone else. I'm asked a few more questions on this now, and have to lie a bit further. Why did you get asked to host it if both of you had the picture? etc.

Finally - she tells me she saw my post at the other forum with the picture. At this point I'm pretty ticked off. Most if not all of the goddamn conversation this morning seems, in my opinion, to have been constructed to catch me in a lie. I'm suitably annoyed in my replies now. Was there a point to all of this? I'm asked why I lied, what my excuse is. I say it's because she makes a big issue of tiny little things like this (which I think is happening yet again).

I don't think lying to your SO is something that should be done, but screw me into a position like that and what am I supposed to do? I tried to fudge out of the line of conversation because I forsaw her getting upset. She led me on into a position where I decided to lie. Am I REALLY the bad guy in all this?

There's your story, AT...
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DUDE. You are so busted. You better just get out the Alpo, cuz yer in the doghouse. If there was nothing wrong with what you did, you should have just admitted to it in the beginning. Of course, SHE should have just come out and asked you about it, instead of playing Inspector Gadget. But in the end, you were wrong. You should apologize, take her out to dinner and a movie, then give her a full body massage.
 

LordMaul

Lifer
Nov 16, 2000
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<< Quit complaining and get your bitch ass back in the kitchen. >>




LOL Heya Maul :D[/i] >>




:D

I've only got one question for you, Tex...:|......................Light or Dark? We're running out...:D;)


0sully and caramel: Niehter of you are right. Caramel: Why make such a big deal of a a picture of a girl? Are you THAT protective that he can't look at pics on the 'Net without you going ballistic over him? You think she's going to come and take him away, or he'll leave because he likes her more or something..? Suuuuure.

0sully: Yeah, you shouldn't have lied, I suppose. I would have said, "Yeah, I uploaded it. Why? Just having some fun on AT" or something to that effect. She should have comeout and SAID what she had to say, rather than sit there and ask and prod and see if you'll slip up so she can nail you and 'win' the nonexistant 'fight'.

Aw, hell with it. Where's the potato chips? :D
 

yllus

Elite Member & Lifer
Aug 20, 2000
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Murphy, so I should have said "Oh! You dreamt about her? Now that you mentioned it, check this link on my site out! Isn't that a kooky coincidence!"?
 

Texmaster

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<<

<< Quit complaining and get your bitch ass back in the kitchen. >>




LOL Heya Maul :D


:D

I've only got one question for you, Tex...:|......................Light or Dark? We're running out...:D;)
>>



LOL Light thanks. :D
 

N8Magic

Lifer
Dec 12, 2000
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No offense sully, but that's it? You guys are fighting over THIS?

I think there might be more to it than meets the eye here. You "lying" about a friggin babe pic is pretty inconsequential. I know the ladies like to use the line "Well, if he lied to me about this, whats stopping him from lying about BIGGER stuff?" which is complete garbage.

There should be no fight here. Move on.
 

Murphyrulez

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Mar 24, 2001
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<< Murphy, so I should have said "Oh! You dreamt about her? Now that you mentioned it, check this link on my site out! Isn't that a kooky coincidence!"? >>



No, just when she got to the point of telling you she saw it on your web host, you should have told her yeah, I posted it to another forum. Instead you told her that it was for someone else, then she busted you.

Ack
 

Lord Evermore

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Oct 10, 1999
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He's not fighting. She's trying to make people feel sorry for her without telling them why they should. Sully's trying to keep himself from looking bad.

Mel's insecure. That's the entirety of the problem. The same thing went on with my girlfriend. Couldn't stand the thought that I might look at another girl, always feeling inferior and just waiting for me to leave her for someone better, and the whole time trying to dictate to me what I could and couldn't do. Eventually I just left, not for anybody else, just to get away.

Oh, and I do think it's bad that he lied, but he was just trying to avoid having her go nuts over nothing. Not a justification, but a reason.
 

melly

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Feb 5, 2002
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<< No offense sully, but that's it? You guys are fighting over THIS?

I think there might be more to it than meets the eye here. You "lying" about a friggin babe pic is pretty inconsequential. I know the ladies like to use the line "Well, if he lied to me about this, whats stopping him from lying about BIGGER stuff?" which is complete garbage.

There should be no fight here. Move on.
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no, n8, it's not complete garbage. i am making a deal because i was lied to for a stupid reason. i don't deserve to be lied to. it takes a lot for me to trust someone, and this is how i get rewarded.
 

melly

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Feb 5, 2002
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<< He's not fighting. She's trying to make people feel sorry for her without telling them why they should. Sully's trying to keep himself from looking bad.

Mel's insecure. That's the entirety of the problem. The same thing went on with my girlfriend. Couldn't stand the thought that I might look at another girl, always feeling inferior and just waiting for me to leave her for someone better, and the whole time trying to dictate to me what I could and couldn't do. Eventually I just left, not for anybody else, just to get away.
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LE, the entirety of the problem is that i get insecure when i'm lied to. he can do whatever he bloody well pleases, but i will not tolerate lying.
 

The fact that she got mad because you had a picture of a girl on your webspace is obsurd.
 

melly

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Feb 5, 2002
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<< The fact that she got mad because you had a picture of a girl on your webspace is obsurd. >>



Sammy, did you not read this? i'm mad because i was lied to.
 

Lord Evermore

Diamond Member
Oct 10, 1999
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He lied to you because the truth was he did something YOU don't like even though it's completely acceptable. YOU have problems with him looking at pics of other girls, but there's no reason for it. You can't stop him from doing it, so he's going to lie about it to avoid making you feel bad about it. (Obviously the relationship shouldn't exist, if one person can't stand something that the other person can't or won't stop doing.)
 

Russ

Lifer
Oct 9, 1999
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I just wanted to take this opportunity to express my gratitude for the willingness of the two participants to share their dirty laundry in such a public manner. We are all, by comparison, the better for it.

Oh, and grow up.

Russ, NCNE
 

Lord Evermore

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Oct 10, 1999
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You posted this and are mad because he lied to you. That doesn't excuse the fact that you sat there trying to catch him having to admit that he'd posted that picture, because you are insecure about it. He wouldn't have lied if you hadn't been absurdly insecure about it.
 

melly

Diamond Member
Feb 5, 2002
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<< He lied to you because the truth was he did something YOU don't like even though it's completely acceptable. YOU have problems with him looking at pics of other girls, but there's no reason for it. You can't stop him from doing it, so he's going to lie about it to avoid making you feel bad about it. (Obviously the relationship shouldn't exist, if one person can't stand something that the other person can't or won't stop doing.) >>



just like someone to hear one side of the story, isn't it. you know you're only saying this because you don't like me. so hmm i wonder what's going on in neochat now, is he telling you 'his' side and trying to make himself look good, all the while forgetting he was wrong to lie?

 

N8Magic

Lifer
Dec 12, 2000
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<< no, n8, it's not complete garbage. i am making a deal because i was lied to for a stupid reason. i don't deserve to be lied to. it takes a lot for me to trust someone, and this is how i get rewarded. >>



OK, it WAS a stupid reason to lie to you I agree. All i'm saying is that this is not some earth-shattering mind blowing lie that will ruin a relationship. :)
 

kamiam

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Dec 12, 1999
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<< sounds like you are both at fault. she trapped you and you lied. >>

BINGO! sounds like she's suffering from the sully-o-sully/neochat syndrome and he's suffering from the jealous female routine
 

Lord Evermore

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Oct 10, 1999
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Mel: you're the one that posted trying to get free sympathy, assuming that just by saying you were lied to was enough. You're the one that won't tell your side of the story. Sully's certainly doesn't seem to be embellished or meant to put you entirely in a bad light. He admits he lied, and I don't excuse him for that, he should have just told you the truth, and if you didn't like it, he should have said f*** off, too bad.

The fact that I don't like you much is due largely to you being this way, reacting this way.