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Question about white moms and names

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angminas said:
OP: Hey, that person does things differently than I do. I wonder why?

OP's mind: Probably something to do with their race.

OP: You're right! I'm going to ask some people about it, and the first thing I'm going to mention is her race.
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It's a bit reductive but I don't think shaming people looking for insight is productive. An open and lively debate is key.

Listen, my parents lived in shacks in India and I lead a sheltered youth myself, so lots of what I view as "white culture" (as opposed to "immigrant culture" - mexicans and koreans share in many of our cultural quirks) is truly puzzling, would you rather have people just die curious instead of asking un-pc questions?

As the dude who picks up and drops off his 2 daughters, white mom culture is TRULY puzzling to me, but I don't think I'm racist about it. I love white women for being far more responsive and kind to brown me than white boys were. I listen to "white" music and am wearing khakis right now, and will probably watch "Seinfeld" while eating a white-american dinner tonight.. I think white people are rad, don't get me wrong. I'm sure indian quirks are funny to you, feel free to ask me about them - I won't assume that you're racist for being curious about something.
 
Its probably nicer for the kids to be greeted by name. I would think even for adults being greeted individually instead of generally feels better. Well, most people that are kinda needy, but most kids are needy because they are kids.

I greet kids by hanging them from their ankles, throwing them in the air, or tickling each one for a few mins. But I do it to all of them because I dont want one to feel left out. Even the ones I dont necessarily like. lol
 
I think they just like to call out names. For example, the wife and I were having an intimate moment the other night and she was calling out the names of several guys. I guess she was practicing being nice.
 
The ones who do come from a culture that (over?)values individualism. The ones who don't come from a culture that (under?)values individualism. Or they're lazy.
 
Women seem to remember social things better. Names, birthdays, anniversaries, relationships, who is your second cousin, who is getting married next summer, etc.

They are more involved in that stuff, it seems.

Men seem to pay less attention to that stuff, and depend on the wife to remember the social calendar and things like that.
 
I try to never address people by their names because I often get them confused, if not straight-up wrong. E.g. Sue could be my first female work partner, and every female after her is automatically Sue. It's easier to just shout "Hey, you!" while staring them down so they know you're talking to them.
 
cronos said:
Hmm not sure about that. I'm a dude and I always address my son's friends since pre-K by their names.

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I am Asian though
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Really?

My mom:

"K....Jef.......KIDS! Get over here!"

God help us if relatives were visiting. Names went to hell at that point.

"You, boy child! Help clean up."

😀
 
interchange said:
The ones who do come from a culture that (over?)values individualism. The ones who don't come from a culture that (under?)values individualism. Or they're lazy.
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Yeah - It seems the further you are to immigrants the more likely you are to be a name juggler.. Like the asian moms who are very americanized (I find NYC americanized asians try very hard to be culturally "american," it's charming when they over annunciate, I don't try as hard though I hail from the same continent) drop names as freely as the martha stewarts vs. the beloved patriot immigrants and 1st gen indians/other brown immigrant groups who do the wave "hey" just like I do (regardless of gender). I think asian women have an easier time integrating because white men always want to talk to them (even the moms, there's a ring on it, Phillip!), but that's a unpc rant for later 😉

I don't want to speak for all Indians, but yes - the individual was far less important than the family the way I was raised. Hell, my dad lost 4 siblings growing up and my mom 3, they didn't get close to children back in the mud hut days because you could lose them easily. Kids around me that weren't related were just kids, not individuals (until I started making my own friends). We also didn't refer to cousins/sibblings by their names but the equivalent of 'brother," "older male cousin," etc. And we NEVER spoke the name of adults, I still don't know some of my uncle's names.
 
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IronWing said:
Y'alls interact with children? Gross, those things have germs.
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Dude, seriously - I don't get men who play with other peoples kids and love on them. I'm good man, my kids are cute to me but other kids are below stray animals to be blunt. Snot and drama, don't need it.
 
slackerinabox said:
Dude, seriously - I don't get men who play with other peoples kids and love on them. I'm good man, my kids are cute to me but other kids are below stray animals to be blunt. Snot and drama, don't need it.
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I'm with you on this. I don't think I've ever looked upon other people's kids with any emotion more positive than mild irritation.
 
It has nothing to do with anything but gender. Overall, women can remember more due to the way they're wired and especially if it involves kids and a social situation.
 
highland145 said:
3rd
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Until they're at least four y/o kids are basically house pets that constantly shit the bed and break stuff, past that age they get to be smart enough to get into real trouble. It's a wonder any of us made it to adult age without being strangled by someone not biologically programmed to love us.
 
Ruptga said:
Until they're at least four y/o kids are basically house pets that constantly shit the bed and break stuff, past that age they get to be smart enough to get into real trouble. It's a wonder any of us made it to adult age without being strangled by someone not biologically programmed to love us.
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Mom kept us chained to a tree in the back yard.
 
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