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Originally posted by: tjaisv
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Flush of color in the chest on top or just above the breasts.
Increased fluid from below
Pulsing/squeezing sensations down below
If she stays in bed with you and looks really content/happy..

Those are some of the most common signs with most women.
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Ok this is more what i was initially looking for.

As i had already kind of assumed, the physiological signs seem to me rather subtle and/or not clearly distinguishable from similar pre-climactic responses. For example, increased moisture and flushing are responses found at different stages, and things like pulsing/squeezing sensations might be difficult to sense by the male.

Now i see a lot of people saying they can tell, and i'm assuming they're referring mainly to their intuition or their actual sense perception of the psychological signs and/or obvious communication cues. The trouble i myself have here is that it's often times been the case where the woman either doesn't give me any telltale signs or i just don't pick them up due to my inexperience or whatever, therefore leading me to wonder about this all. And also, how would u be able to tell whether a sign like say for example, shaking, was an auto-physiological reaction (or perhaps instinctual) or just a behavioral response, because if it was the latter of these then that could raise various validity dilemmas, like for example whether the shaking was in fact meant as an indication on the female's part that she has climaxed or was it just an attempt at feigning climax, or perhaps whether the shaking was just a sign of sexual arousal and not meant on her part to have any implication of climax? Another sign i've seen mentioned here is quickened pace of arousal/stimulation followed by abrupt cessation by the female. This can certainly indicate climax, but in the absence of other telltale signs this could also just be a signal on the female's part for a change in pace and/or a quick respite and when the female doesn't totally stop altogether how would u know that this wasn't in fact the case? Do u follow me here?

So, i'll just ask u all now HOW can u tell? And why would u say it is her reaching climax when as logic suggests it could be something other than climax? I'm not trying to suggest you're wrong, far from it, i just want to see your rationality for arriving at the conclusion you do. So when u say u "can tell", please explain.

I'll pre-suppose right now that your explanation will involve multiple proximate telltale signs that construe (to the best of your judgement) that the woman has climaxed.
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you're thinking too much. just practice.
 
Originally posted by: funboy42

If your having to use KY in order to put it in and have to keep applying it due to the smoke getting too thick in the room, you may be a Sh!tty lover.


This would be a sign for sure. 🙂
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No i've gotten some good cues here as to what women do, like shaking, clenching, etc... But yeah i definitely need to practice more at lovemaking

I'd also like to get female perspective on this too. Women, how do u climax?
 
from my experience with different girls it varies. For the most part, they sort of loose control of their bodies...it is hard to explain, but when it happens you know. If you two had been going at it for a while, she may get tired and just fake it to get it over with.
 
1) You are thinking too much about this. It's good you care about her responses, but don't be paranoid about it. You will get better.

2) Every woman, and every orgasm, is different. Just because she screamed one time but not another time doesn't necessarily mean *that* much.

Point is, just keep trying and you will get better.
 
Originally posted by: tjaisv
So when u say u "can tell", please explain.

I'll pre-suppose right now that your explanation will involve multiple proximate telltale signs that construe (to the best of your judgement) that the woman has climaxed.
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My wife is a screamer and a squirter. She yells "I'm cumming!!" and then I get soaked.
 
Originally posted by: tjaisv
No i've gotten some good cues here as to what women do, like shaking, clenching, etc... But yeah i definitely need to practice more at lovemaking
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Dont think in terms of her outward reaction, they do that when they are faking (read that in a book, never had thai prob personally)

Look for the involuntary phyical signs....like a big ole freakin puddle in the middle of the bed before you finish 🙂
 
Involuntary physical signs, i guess if a woman really wanted to fake it she could. This wasn't really my concern, but now that i think about it... I don't think a woman should fake, it's being dishonest. Yeah her intentions may be good, but at least IMO i'd rather know how and what she truly felt! So yeah that's where communication helps.

My first virgin encounter the girl shaked, and i still wonder whether she was faking or not. We had been going at it a while.



 
Originally posted by: tjaisv
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Flush of color in the chest on top or just above the breasts.
Increased fluid from below
Pulsing/squeezing sensations down below
If she stays in bed with you and looks really content/happy..

Those are some of the most common signs with most women.
Click to expand...

Ok this is more what i was initially looking for.

As i had already kind of assumed, the physiological signs seem to me rather subtle and/or not clearly distinguishable from similar pre-climactic responses. For example, increased moisture and flushing are responses found at different stages, and things like pulsing/squeezing sensations might be difficult to sense by the male.

Now i see a lot of people saying they can tell, and i'm assuming they're referring mainly to their intuition or their actual sense perception of the psychological signs and/or obvious communication cues. The trouble i myself have here is that it's often times been the case where the woman either doesn't give me any telltale signs or i just don't pick them up due to my inexperience or whatever, therefore leading me to wonder about this all. And also, how would u be able to tell whether a sign like say for example, shaking, was an auto-physiological reaction (or perhaps instinctual) or just a behavioral response, because if it was the latter of these then that could raise various validity dilemmas, like for example whether the shaking was in fact meant as an indication on the female's part that she has climaxed or was it just an attempt at feigning climax, or perhaps whether the shaking was just a sign of sexual arousal and not meant on her part to have any implication of climax? Another sign i've seen mentioned here is quickened pace of arousal/stimulation followed by abrupt cessation by the female. This can certainly indicate climax, but in the absence of other telltale signs this could also just be a signal on the female's part for a change in pace and/or a quick respite and when the female doesn't totally stop altogether how would u know that this wasn't in fact the case? Do u follow me here?

So, i'll just ask u all now HOW can u tell? And why would u say it is her reaching climax when as logic suggests it could be something other than climax? I'm not trying to suggest you're wrong, far from it, i just want to see your rationality for arriving at the conclusion you do. So when u say u "can tell", please explain.

I'll pre-suppose right now that your explanation will involve multiple proximate telltale signs that construe (to the best of your judgement) that the woman has climaxed.
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Dude, if you talk like that in real life you will NEVER get a girl in bed, let alone make her climax. Unless she's a whale. You don't sound like a doctor, you sound like a Star Trek dork.
 
lol i don't talk like that, and i only write like that when i'm trying to be analytical

but yeah, i am a Trekkie so i'll take that as a compliment 🙂
 
Originally posted by: iRONic
Originally posted by: tjaisv
So when u say u "can tell", please explain.

I'll pre-suppose right now that your explanation will involve multiple proximate telltale signs that construe (to the best of your judgement) that the woman has climaxed.
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My wife is a screamer and a squirter. She yells "I'm cumming!!" and then I get soaked.
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:Q
 
I heard you can tell from looking at their chest. If it's noticably flush red then she probably did climax unless you were in some kind of weird position that involves hitting the chest.
 
am i the only one that thinks that the OP might be considering taking a clip board and a laptop to fill in an excel spreadsheet in order to have charts and stats to analyze later to figure out if she had an orgasm or not?

btw OP if you do please post them 😛

 
Originally posted by: bacon333
I heard you can tell from looking at their chest. If it's noticably flush red then she probably did climax unless you were in some kind of weird position that involves hitting the chest.
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You "heard"? As in you have no first hand experience to go by?
 
I can usually feel it. The vagina seems to clench down, seems pretty noticable unless you're going all out 100 MPH.
 
Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
am i the only one that thinks that the OP might be considering taking a clip board and a laptop to fill in an excel spreadsheet in order to have charts and stats to analyze later to figure out if she had an orgasm or not?

btw OP if you do please post them 😛
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Hey i'm suprised nobody's done this. Or have they? That would be a good study to conduct.
 
I see no point in bashing the OP. He's showing interest in improving for his girlfriend. That's a lot more than most guys do.
 
I need to pay more attention next time to the vaginal clenching, i think i've experienced this once but i'm not sure.
 
Originally posted by: tjaisv
I need to pay more attention next time to the vaginal clenching, i think i've experienced this once but i'm not sure.
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With some women, it's very obvious. I thought my part was going to rupture from the pressure one time. I actually yelled out and she stopped... I felt bad for ruining it for her but wow did that hurt. I then looked around on google and it turns out that some men HAVE had their part rupture from the pressure. :Q
 
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: tjaisv
I need to pay more attention next time to the vaginal clenching, i think i've experienced this once but i'm not sure.
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With some women, it's very obvious. I thought my part was going to rupture from the pressure one time. I actually yelled out and she stopped... I felt bad for ruining it for her but wow did that hurt. I then looked around on google and it turns out that some men HAVE had their part rupture from the pressure. :Q
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Wow! lol
 
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