Question about GF making more than you...

[Nemesis77]

Originally posted by: Zombie

What specifically is the problem?

well how do you deal with the fact that she makes almost double in terms of salary.

And why is that a problem? Maybe I'm a moron or something, but I don't get it. If my GF made twice as much money as I do, I would be cheering, not wondering how I would "deal with it".

 

[GoingUp]

Originally posted by: Queasy
Oh, I'm just a gigalo....

You really shouldnt have a problem with it at all. It doesnt make you less of a man. Would you also not date someone who is a doctor? Relationships should be based upon a lot more than what salary someone makes.

 

[Davegod75]

what do you mean how do you deal with it. who cares?

 

[rh71]

Pharmacists make mad money. Something like $65k to start here in NY...

My fiance and I are both in IT... she's more of an MIS person and I do web applications. We both started full-time 3 years ago at different companies. At this rate, with the raise percentage she gets every year, she will easily surpass me in another year or so... and it was a $15k difference before. I don't mind her making more than me. I mind that my raise percentage at my company BLOWS. Yes, yes... I shouldn't be complaining when others don't have a job... but if we all got the same percentages, do you think I'd care at all ?

 

[IGBT]

Well there you go..get into the drug biz.

 

[PricklyPete]

If your secure in yourself, it shouldn't be an issue.

 

[guyver01]

dude... i would love to be a "kept" man

and you're complaining?

get over it!

 

[Zombie]

ok, understood. I will bring it up with her at some point, not just yet.

I used to think just like most of you, you know no big deal kinda stuff but never actually thought I would be in that situation. Anyway I guess I will be back in game once I am done with my MBA .

she started at 75k + 12k something signing bonus

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: Zombie
ok, understood. I will bring it up with her at some point, not just yet.

I used to think just like most of you, you know no big deal kinda stuff but never actually thought I would be in that situation. Anyway I guess I will be back in game once I am done with my MBA .

she started at 75k + 12k something signing bonus

What are you going to discuss with her?

"You're making more money than me, but let's remember I am the man"? Does she rub it in your face that she makes more money? If so, then there's a reason to talk. Otherwise, this seems to be an issue with you.

Your question was, how do I deal with it? Just deal with it. Don't blow your chances with a good person, just because she makes more money than you or she's had more education than you. To put it bluntly, you'd be a retard if you did.

It just sounds like you're being insecure. That's something that you have to deal with. Your relationship shouldn't be a competition.

 

[RACER]

Yes.... the moral of the story is... be a drug dealer...


I mean a pharmacist...


Money, Age, Intelligence is irrelevant. Communication, Consideration, Compromise and Commitment is key.





Resistance is futile.....



Let her pay...

 

[mpitts]

My wife make more than me.

I am totally fine with it. Why wouldn't I be?

 

[m2kewl]

it's not getting any better, so live with it. here's a NYTimes article, Wage Gap Between Men and Women Shrinks.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: iamme

Originally posted by: Zombie
ok, understood. I will bring it up with her at some point, not just yet.

I used to think just like most of you, you know no big deal kinda stuff but never actually thought I would be in that situation. Anyway I guess I will be back in game once I am done with my MBA .

she started at 75k + 12k something signing bonus

What are you going to discuss with her?

"You're making more money than me, but let's remember I am the man"? Does she rub it in your face that she makes more money? If so, then there's a reason to talk. Otherwise, this seems to be an issue with you.

Your question was, how do I deal with it? Just deal with it. Don't blow your chances with a good person, just because she makes more money than you or she's had more education than you. To put it bluntly, you'd be a retard if you did.

It just sounds like you're being insecure. That's something that you have to deal with. Your relationship shouldn't be a competition.

Exactly. What's the problem? There is no problem.

I believe the #1 cause of divorce is money problems.

Now we know why.... People like you.

 

[WinkOsmosis]

I don't think I would care.

 

[Hoober]

Originally posted by: Zombie

What specifically is the problem?

well how do you deal with the fact that she makes almost double in terms of salary. I have never been in such a situation so don't know how people deal with it.

I'd be happy that my wife, girlfriend, fiance, significant other made more money that I do. That would mean that I wouldn't have to worry about making money. I still don't see the problem.

 

[Mani]

I dig girls that make more money than I do.

 

[richardycc]

sounds like you have low self esteem and worry about everything! I hope this girl dumps your sorry a$$.

rich

 

[LethalWolfe]

Originally posted by: Zombie

What specifically is the problem?

well how do you deal with the fact that she makes almost double in terms of salary. I have never been in such a situation so don't know how people deal with it.

The only "problem" is the one you are imagining in yer head. Who cares what the other one makes as long as you guys get along and love each other?


Lethal

 

[Zombie]

I really don't think she will dump me cause she was at my apartment last night talking about decorating my place and shared closets and stuff.

The fact is I won't be thinking about it if the difference was 10-20k, we are talking about a difference of close to 50k. It's the number that is bothering me in short term, I know I will match it or surpass it in 3-4 years.

 

[Maverick]

if it bothers you so much why don't you just ask her to make the kitchen her new office?

Let go of your conservative views and enjoy the fact that you got yourself a real sugar mama. If I were you I'd have her pay for me to go back to school and kick back doing a PHD or a masters in some interesting and easy subject.

 

[Zombie]

actually she doesn't mind doing that. But that is not acceptable to me since I haven't really depended on anybody, not even my parents. I guess that is what is making it hard.

But on the flip side I can work from home and she is jealous about that .

 

[Maverick]

Originally posted by: Zombie
actually she doesn't mind doing that. But that is not acceptable to me since I haven't really depended on anybody, not even my parents. I guess that is what is making it hard.

But on the flip side I can work from home and she is jealous about that .

well if you went back to school to do a masters or PHD you can easily get a monthly stipend from the university as well as your tuition paid for so you won't really "depend" on her. The only things she'll really cover are like house and car payments. And savings. So you won't have to feel like you're totally at her mercy. If anything she'll just make student life a bit more comfortable.

 

[Lady In Red]

What's there to sweat over if she does make more?

Maybe it would have been best if she had not told you.

I would never tell what I make! There are some things

you just don't tell.

 

[RSMemphis]

Whatever!!!!! Girl making $$$$ is good, not bad. It would, however, encourage me to get more salary myself.

 

[ElFenix]

what, are you guilty because she let you supersize?