• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

Poll: the right thing vs. friendship UPDATED!

Page 2 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.
Talk to your friends and let them decides.
BTW, no more poker night. If they want to continue, let them. You don't want to involve any activities where they might end up in bed.
 
fvck your friend. stop talking to any of them and be gone with everything. i was on the side of the fence, where i knew someone who confessed to be cheating with my friends SO. i totally ignored it and my friend eventually found out... i actually even warned the two to stop cheating and stabbing my friend behind his back. needless to say, my friend was pissed off when he found out that i knew about it. he actually yelled at me and stopped talking to me for a long period of time because i did not tell him. of course, this is different being that the person that you might tell will be someone you really do not know too much about. it is your call. i would actually just tell the SO of your friend, fvck him, fvck MRS. R, all of their lives, and stop talking to them in general because you hang around some bad immoral people. ;p might as well redeem yourself and do the right thing then. fvck everybody else over in the process 🙂
 
they call it "the right thing" for a reason, because it is the right thing. not doing the right thing is wrong, so if you don't do the right thing, you are doing wrong
 
Originally posted by: FoBoT
they call it "the right thing" for a reason, because it is the right thing. not doing the right thing is wrong, so if you don't do the right thing, you are doing wrong
What's right, sticking his nose into somebody elses business and in turn causing a lot of grief for himself?
 
If you were good friends with the GF then you would be obligated to tell her. Since it seems like you barely know her, you should probably just cut off ties with all involved parties and move on with your life.

The dude sounds pretty scummy. Unless she's an idiot, the gf probaby knows what she is dealing with.
 
Why would you tell anybody anything ? the only person doing anything wrong here is the married woman and it doesn't sound like you're a friend of her husband's so just myob.

 
Originally posted by: bigredguy
bastages

more info to follow.

My good friend is cheating in his long term gf with a married girl i know.

Would you tell her.

I have her cell number and we talk occasionally.

Personally, i feel that if he does ANYTHING tonight i should tell her. I honestly believe that it is the right thing if he won't and worth losing our friendship.

RUUUUUUUUN... don't talk to either of them at all until it's overwith. Chances are the beans will be spilt shortly.

-Max
 
Originally posted by: yobarman
I would not downright tell on him, but i'd certainly leave some subtle hints that something is amiss.
That'd be stupid because it would end up involving him which is a no win situation.
 
Your friend is merely dating the girl,he's a single man and can do as he pleases, dating does not imply any sort of commiment or promise of exclusivity and for all you know he and the girl have agreed to this.

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !

I'd be more worried that the married woman's husband would find out and go after your friend... and possibly hurt anybody he was hanging out with,I'd just stay clear of the whole mess.
 
On a side note, the $750 off of $1500 dell laptops for dell home expired and had 10,000 uses within 48 minutes of the coupon being active.
OMFG
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your friend is merely dating the girl,he's a single man and can do as he pleases, dating does not imply any sort of commiment or promise of exclusivity and for all you know he and the girl have agreed to this.

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !

I'd be more worried that the married woman's husband would find out and go after your friend... and possibly hurt anybody he was hanging out with,I'd just stay clear of the whole mess.

How did you miss "Long-term girlfriend"?
 
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your friend is merely dating the girl,he's a single man and can do as he pleases, dating does not imply any sort of commiment or promise of exclusivity and for all you know he and the girl have agreed to this.

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !

I'd be more worried that the married woman's husband would find out and go after your friend... and possibly hurt anybody he was hanging out with,I'd just stay clear of the whole mess.

How did you miss "Long-term girlfriend"?


length of a dating relationship means squat,the guy involved isn't married, no marriage
= he's a free agent.
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your friend is merely dating the girl,he's a single man and can do as he pleases, dating does not imply any sort of commiment or promise of exclusivity and for all you know he and the girl have agreed to this.

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !

I'd be more worried that the married woman's husband would find out and go after your friend... and possibly hurt anybody he was hanging out with,I'd just stay clear of the whole mess.

How did you miss "Long-term girlfriend"?


length of a dating relationship means squat,the guy involved isn't married, no marriage
= he's a free agent.
:roll:

 
Bro's before ho's.

Throughout the years my friends and I have been through many girls. The girls come and go, but your guy friends last forever.

If you take the current gf's side on this, you're going to lose the trust of your friend. Eventually the gf will most likely leave him anyway, and you'll have lost a friend for nothing.

Bad move.
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Your friend is merely dating the girl,he's a single man and can do as he pleases, dating does not imply any sort of commiment or promise of exclusivity and for all you know he and the girl have agreed to this.

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !

I'd be more worried that the married woman's husband would find out and go after your friend... and possibly hurt anybody he was hanging out with,I'd just stay clear of the whole mess.

How did you miss "Long-term girlfriend"?


length of a dating relationship means squat,the guy involved isn't married, no marriage
= he's a free agent.

Thats BS.... How do you expect anyone to ever have a healthy relationship if both parties are free to screw whomever they want whenever they want? Your theory simply doesnt work in real life. When you're in a relationship that implies some semblance of loyalty. Otherwise you are continuously damaging the relationship, and you can never develop trust. Yours is a recipe for continuous disaster.

-Max
 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe

The simple act of dating means you've got somebody to bone if a better option doesn't happen along.. it doesn't carry any sort of ownership rights !.

This isn't true. Most relationships are exclusive. I wouldn't even date a girl if she told me that she was going to date other guys while we were together. In return, I don't date other girls while I'm with her.

Getting married is not this magic thing where you suddenly become faithful. That doesn't carry any ownership rights either. Most marriages end in divorce. I think you even said that you've been divorced 3 times. Cheaters are going to be cheaters, whether it's on a bf, gf, husband or wife. Just look at this case- you have one guy cheating on his gf, and one woman cheating on her husband.

 
Originally posted by: Geekbabe

length of a dating relationship means squat,the guy involved isn't married, no marriage
= he's a free agent.

Again, this is false.

I think people with a religious upbringing are taught that marriage is this magical thing that makes unhappy couples become happy, and makes cheater become faithful.

This is simply not the case, and statistics prove it.

Someone with that "Free agent" state of mind is going to behave that way whether they're in a long term relationship or if they're married. It's the person's mentality and actions which count. If they can't be trusted to remain faithfull in a long term relationship, they can't be trusted in a marriage. This is the reason that most marriages fail.

I don't mean to sound rude, and I don't mean this as a personal attack, but I believe that one should be qualified to speak. You're trying to give relationship advice yet you've been divorced three times. I've been with my current girlfriend for 7 years and have remained faithful. Talk is cheap. It's the quality of the person that counts in the long haul. The kind of person that feels that one should be able to break their word and be a "free agent" just because they don't have that ring isn't marriage material.
 
Back
Top