*POLL* How many partners have you had?

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: luvly
Hoober, thanks for the translation. I guess the translator is just plain bad.

People do change indeed, but I have to agree with Marlin1975 here. People who have a history are certainly not going to change overnight.

And if I'm to believe that anyone changed overnight, it would be the woman (which is less likely still if she was an expert slut). Why? Because when she finds a man she loves a lot and then has babies with, she starts to change her perspective. She changes it because she's been the one to go through the labour, bonding and everything. It's a natural, subconscious transition. However, a slutty guy change overnight? Hell no!

I must know my significant other's history. If he doesn't say it, I'll find out anyway. When I'm set to settle, I am set to. If I want a male slut, I know where to find them. Don't come pretending to be what you aren't 'cuz that's what I dislike the most.

Since when are you an expert about male behaviour?

First of all Physical changes might cause a male sexual habits to change (Balding, beer gut) Secondly he might find the women he wants to spend the rest of his life with and wouldn't even consider hurting her by cheating on her. And like I posted before, sometimes it's not worth the BS youhave to put up with to get laid.

As a man gets older he realizes that it's better to think with the big head instead of the little one. Yeah there are those who can't seem tp grasp this but those are the suckers who have to pay alimony, child support and what not.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975



You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.

The idea that people CANNOT change over a period of time is so fvcking stupid it does not deserve anyone's attention. Studies have not even been done on this b/c it is so fvckinging obvious that people CAN AND DO CHANGE.

You said it was your MAJOR and you knew people can, now you are saying you can't prove it. Trying to save face I see. LIER




Can people Really change?

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975



You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.


Here is one paper form Dr. Baum



Can people really change??

worst reference EVAR

 

[Richdog]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975



You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

LOL what utter bollocks, the one redeeming feature of human beings is they CAN change and adapt, its their key ability, and defines humans as a species. I did a masters in Psychology which ok is nothing too special and nothing to boast about, but I do know my stuff

Ive slept with around 15 women and I for all I know I may sleep with 15 more (I am only 22 years old), but I fully intend to find a wife I love and have no doubt Ill be able to stay 100% faithful as the girl I marry will be the woman of my dreams and will undoubtedly bear my children. Just because someone sleeps with quite a few women doesnt mean they have no understanding of love or fidelity or respect for women, to say otherwise would be an unfair stereotype. On the other hand, some people are undoubtedly callous sluts who spread disease like rats. Its impossible to judge people, everyones different. And chill out people, funny how most discussed topics end up as abusive arguments, learn to debate reasonably! LOL

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975



You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.

The idea that people CANNOT change over a period of time is so fvcking stupid it does not deserve anyone's attention. Studies have not even been done on this b/c it is so fvckinging obvious that people CAN AND DO CHANGE.

You said it was your MAJOR and you knew people can, now you are saying you can't prove it. Trying to save face I see. LIER




Can people Really change?

He's a LIER, huh? People change, and if you can't grasp that, you need to get out in the real world (i.e. AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER) and STOP POSTING until you have some real-life evidence.

I've changed so much over the past few years myself, I barely recognize the person I was before. My wife keeps telling me that her parents have noticed a lot of changes in me since they first met me.

 

'The idea that people CANNOT change over a period of time is so fvcking stupid it does not deserve anyone's attention. Studies have not even been done on this b/c it is so fvckinging obvious that people CAN AND DO CHANGE."

People can and do change. But theory is different from practice. Sorry, but I like to be pragmatic. Realistically, it's rare that men with a history do change. Only a few do.

My theory is this: If a guy doesn't get it by age 26 or 27 (I mean transitioned changes), he'll never get it. I can take a guy 27 with a past history but not anything less than 4 years. But if he just did stuff like that 3 years ago, it's no-no. If he hasn't changed by that age, he won't ever change. I'm not about to stand by someone and keep hoping for him to change when he gets old and dies.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.

Here is one paper form Dr. Baum

Can people really change??

worst reference EVAR

Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: luvly
'The idea that people CANNOT change over a period of time is so fvcking stupid it does not deserve anyone's attention. Studies have not even been done on this b/c it is so fvckinging obvious that people CAN AND DO CHANGE."

People can and do change. But theory is different from practice. Sorry, but I like to be pragmatic. Realistically, it's rare that men with a history do change. Only a few do.

My theory is this: If a guy doesn't get it by age 26 or 27 (I mean transitioned changes), he'll never get it. I can take a guy 27 with a past history but not anything less than 4 years. But if he just did stuff like that 3 years ago, it's no-no. If he hasn't changed by that age, he won't ever change. I'm not about to stand by someone and keep hoping for him to change when he gets old and dies.

Actually their sex drive deminishes somewhat so they are capable of thinking clearly. Of course drinking lots of beer negates that clarity.

I've found that women as they reach the age of 30 tend to stray as much if not more than men. Of course they are starting to hit their sexual prime and might not be thinking clearly(especially if beer is involved)

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.

Here is one paper form Dr. Baum

Can people really change??

worst reference EVAR

Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

Dude read the first paragraph of that reference. It says "do people change in the work environment...." the paper is based on specific aspect of human life. It has no basis here. Dr. Baumb readily admits people change. Your an idiot.

ON the flip side of your statement people might be sleeping around now knowing that later in life they'll only have one partner and they want to taste everything before they buy.


EDIT: Typos changed "business" to "work envrionment" to match reference

 

[waylman]

Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

BUT, you still have to admit it's completely possible a former slut can turn into a non-cheating wife.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: luvly
'The idea that people CANNOT change over a period of time is so fvcking stupid it does not deserve anyone's attention. Studies have not even been done on this b/c it is so fvckinging obvious that people CAN AND DO CHANGE."

People can and do change. But theory is different from practice. Sorry, but I like to be pragmatic. Realistically, it's rare that men with a history do change. Only a few do.

My theory is this: If a guy doesn't get it by age 26 or 27 (I mean transitioned changes), he'll never get it. I can take a guy 27 with a past history but not anything less than 4 years. But if he just did stuff like that 3 years ago, it's no-no. If he hasn't changed by that age, he won't ever change. I'm not about to stand by someone and keep hoping for him to change when he gets old and dies.

your theory sux. You cant teach old dogs new tricks does not apply to humans cuz well.........we are not fvcking dogs.

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: waylman

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975

You think someone is just going to go, well I have slept around, now I am just going to settle down and NEVER do it again.

I hope when you get married you have a good lawyer. You will need it.

Where is your head? Up your ass? People CHANGE. I guess I'll just go divorce my wife now because she slept with a couple other people before we met.

People fundamentality do not change. How you are and the kind of person you are is something you will be your whole life. Even if you curb certain things, they will always be there. Its called human psychology, take a couple classes in it, and grow up.

I was a psych major and people change ALOT during their lifetime. This is a FACT. You are a total moron. Stop posting.

Then yu should have no problem backing up your MAJOR with some hard facts.

Here is one paper form Dr. Baum

Can people really change??

worst reference EVAR

Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

Dude read the first paragraph of that reference. It says do people change in business the paper is based on specific aspect of human life. It has no basis here. Dr. Baumb readily admits people change. Your an idiot.

ON the flip side of your statement people might be sleeping around now knowing that later in life they'll only have one partner and they want to taste everything before they buy.

Or, they might wig out later in life and feel the need to have several partners because they were an uptight doofus like Marlin early in life, saved themselves for "that one special person" are now are regrettting it and wondering what it would be like to finally sleep with someone else.

 

[Encryptic]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975


Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

Where do you come up with this stuff? Have you even HAD enough experience in today's world to confidently back this up?

On the one hand, I applaud you for (on the surface, at least) sticking to your "moral" guns and not wanting to be with someone who has a "history", and on the other hand, I want to bludgeon some sense into your head before you post again.

The fact is, advertising today is MUCH different from advertising in the 50s. Attitudes change, technology changes, and people change right along with the times. If you can't accept that, then I feel very sorry for you.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: Encryptic

Originally posted by: Marlin1975


Then prove ti wrong, you can't can you.

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

People that sleep around now will be more likely to get bord in a long term relationship and/or more likely cheat. So hense I would not date someone that has slept around, that just says what kind of person they are.

Where do you come up with this stuff? Have you even HAD enough experience in today's world to confidently back this up?

On the one hand, I applaud you for (on the surface, at least) sticking to your "moral" guns and not wanting to be with someone who has a "history", and on the other hand, I want to bludgeon some sense into your head before you post again.

The fact is, advertising today is MUCH different from advertising in the 50s. Attitudes change, technology changes, and people change right along with the times. If you can't accept that, then I feel very sorry for you.

In this day and age being promiscious can cost you your life. 20 years ago it wasn't the case.

 

[Trygve]

Originally posted by: Marlin1975


You think any marriage is gonna last if someone has slept around?

Yeah, I do. What about someone who's been around, but decided that isn't what she wants in life? Being with someone who's tried a lot of things and decided that what she wants is to be with you isn't such a bad thing--and I don't see it as riskier than being with someone who's inexperienced and who may decide that she really needs to go out and experiment a few years down the line. It all depends on the particular person, regardless of his or her past.

Also what kind of standards does a person have if they sleep with any person that says OK.

Depends on that person's reasons for doing it. Whether or not people change their fundamental natures, how they deal with their emotional needs can certainly change with time.

 

[PrinceofWands]

I didn't even kiss a girl till I was 16, or hold a hand. Between 16 and 21 I exercised my right to be a slut and my numbers climbed off this poll. I did chill once I was married, and even after the divorce there have only been a handful...well, maybe two handfuls.

 

"your theory sux. You cant teach old dogs new tricks does not apply to humans cuz well.........we are not fvcking dogs."

LOL! So maybe you men are dogs. Whoof, whoof! There's a reason I have no pets in the house yet have a dog house. Whoof, whoof! Really though, I frankly don't care 'cuz good men are rare. And when I do want a good man, I know where to find him and wouldn't have to deal with this questions. There's just no way I'll settle for less. Maybe you'll see this cute chick on the lez magazine 'cuz there was no way she would settle for less.

There's one thing I can say even if he stopped cheating: He wouldn't be so responsible in other areas. (If he was honest about cheating, no problem.) Remember, sometimes lies is even what breaks up a relationship, not even the act of cheating itself. It hurts so bad when someone lies to you about an act he or she committed.

 

[Acanthus]

wow this thread went straight to hell.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Acanthus
wow this thread went straight to hell.

yeah its a shame people feel they should and can judge someone based on there sexual lifestyle. Its very sad actually.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: luvly
"your theory sux. You cant teach old dogs new tricks does not apply to humans cuz well.........we are not fvcking dogs."

LOL! So maybe you men are dogs. Whoof, whoof! There's a reason I have no pets in the house yet have a dog house. Whoof, whoof! Really though, I frankly don't care 'cuz good men are rare. And when I do want a good man, I know where to find him and wouldn't have to deal with this questions. There's just no way I'll settle for less. Maybe you'll see this cute chick on the lez magazine 'cuz there was no way she would settle for less.

There's one thing I can say even if he stopped cheating: He wouldn't be so responsible in other areas. (If he was honest about cheating, no problem.) Remember, sometimes lies is even what breaks up a relationship, not even the act of cheating itself. It hurts so bad when someone lies to you about an act he or she committed.

A Cheating Mofo and someone who was sexually active is not one in the same. Of course I wouldn't expect you to know the difference as you seemed to have lost your head (as far as your pictures go)

 

"A Cheating Mofo and someone who was sexually active is not one in the same. Of course I wouldn't expect you to know the difference as you seemed to have lost your head (as far as your pictures go)"

Hahaha! You're so cute, Red Dawn, as usual. I didn't say they were the same. I was saying something separate.

And sexually active isn't the subject. The subject is having multiple partners, albeit at different times. So it wouldn't be a stretch to say that in all likelihood one like that would have cheated once at least.

 

[Jzero]

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

Uhhh...if people cannot change, than marketing cannot possibly succeed. If drink Coke and have always drunk Coke, no amount of commercials with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera will make me CHANGE to Pepsi. These companies would stop wasting billions on advertising.

 

[PatboyX]

Originally posted by: Jzero

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

Uhhh...if people cannot change, than marketing cannot possibly succeed. If drink Coke and have always drunk Coke, no amount of commercials with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera will make me CHANGE to Pepsi. These companies would stop wasting billions on advertising.

maybe they're just hoping to get it into someone's head who has never had either product to go for theirs...

although, i think i agree with you on this.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Jzero

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

Uhhh...if people cannot change, than marketing cannot possibly succeed. If drink Coke and have always drunk Coke, no amount of commercials with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera will make me CHANGE to Pepsi. These companies would stop wasting billions on advertising.

he already shut up cuz 10 ppl undeniably showed him how stupid his arguments were

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Jzero

If people REALLY changed that much then marketing would have a hard time selling items as people would change all the time. But one of the most basic things you learn about marketing is PEOPLE FOR THE MOST PART DO NOT CHANGE. Why do you think most ads look the same year after year, because people do not change and neither does marketing. When you find something that works you stick with it.
Heck ads from the 50's look like ads from 2003.

Uhhh...if people cannot change, than marketing cannot possibly succeed. If drink Coke and have always drunk Coke, no amount of commercials with Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera will make me CHANGE to Pepsi. These companies would stop wasting billions on advertising.

he already shut up cuz 10 ppl undeniably showed him how stupid his arguments were

I have a knack for beating dead horses and kicking people when they're down