Poll: How many divorcees do we have here?

[ratkil]

<<Then you should not have gotten married>> You were not being a jerk, Eeks, you are 100% right. I won't bore you with the details, but suffice to say, love had nothing to do with the marriage and a great many character weaknesses and misconceptions did.

Several things lead to my decision to seek divorce. My son was 3 and had never seen his parents kiss or even really hug. We both struggled with external attractions. We never fought, but it really didn't take much to see there was no emotional attachment there. All of this lead me to see that the future would only hold more problems, and he would be dragged through all of them. Whereas, a divorce now would be before he was really aware what was going on. I am sure he remembers things from before, but the vast amount of his memories will be of this lifestyle. I truly have no idea which is better as far as staying together, or seperating. I know the guilt of what I have taken away from him is almost too much to bear at times. The ironic thing is that my life will probalby be much more disrupted now than it ever would have been had I just stayed. I have already had to leave a good job and an area I loved to relocate so I could be close enough to him to be an active part of his life.

In the end what is done is done, it can't be taken back, so I have to deal with it and give him the best of love and life that I can.

 

[Isla]

nevermind

 

[SirFshAlot]

can we start a divorce support forum somewhere so I can share without being lurked upon?

 

[BoberFett]

Fathom4

<< Just my .02 from a warped view. >>

From my discussions with you, you're one of the least warped people I know.

Isla

<< Boberfett, damn this thread! >>

Sorry. :frown:

Fish

I've thought the same thing.

 

[Fathom4]

See what you started Bober?

To all, I think to give up on love is to give up on life. I'll take my chances again someday when, and if, the right person comes along and we have had ample time to get to know each other. I've thought long and hard, in bitter times I swear I will never fall in love again, that I'll make the most of my life alone with my kids.

Alone.

Scary word when you realize that when your kids grow up that is what you'll be. Will I ever fall in love again? Who knows. Maybe never, but I can accept that as long as I know that I was at least open to the possibilty.

What am I going to do? Concentrate on making a life for myself and my daughters and get through my divorce. I'll spend more &quot;me&quot; time. This will take an adjustment as I am a &quot;giver&quot; and don't usually do things or take time for myself. But I will work on it. Eventually I may (or not, who knows) start to date again. There no certainties in life except for death. But I will at least remain optimistic and keep the possibilities open.

Well gotta go make dinner for the girls, everyone have a good evening.

Fathom4

 

[Crysla]

Well Fishy

I think that's a good idea....since we all
kinda know each other anyway...justalittle.

I may be outta pocket more the next few weeks
adjusting to moving and working but anyone
feel free to email me.

I'll try to keep up...no promises.

Princess

Crysla's Email Addy

 

[BoberFett]

Fathom4

Didn't mean to stir up any trouble, not this time anyway.

It's just that I've noticed lately what seems like a higher than usual number of people talking about the subject, either they have already or soon will be divorced. And you know what they say, misery loves company.

 

[Fathom4]

Bober

Just jokin' bud.

Well you know me well enough to know that I bite on these threads too, your right about misery loving company. Actually, nothing like a good rant to express your views on love and life. Especially when I don't know what I'm talking about!

Fish maybe right..we need a good divorce forum to rant in.

 

[Fathom4]

Bober

Just jokin' bud.

Well you know me well enough to know that I bite on these threads too, your right about misery loving company. Actually, nothing like a good rant to express your views on love and life. Especially when I don't know what I'm talking about!

Fish maybe right..we need a good divorce forum to rant in.

 

[Fathom4]

HOLY CRAP!!!

What's up with all the multiple posts? I only hit the reply button once.

 

[konichiwa]

My parents were divorced (well, are I guess). Does that count?

 

[oldandquitemad]

I am happily divorced.

 

[FiddleDD]

I knew I shouldn't have gone on Jerry Springer.

 

[BlkDragon6]

My parents have been seperated since I was 14. Not officially divorced, but you'd think after 6 years they would just file the darn paper work.

 

[Chris A]

Well to quote a good friend of mine.




<< In my mind, it is more important for the children that they grow up with two loving parents not living together than that they grow up in a house where parents out of love provide constant example of self-image confusing disfunction. >>




Life is too short to not chase your dreams.......

 

[Johnlee]

My parents got divorced when I was but a tyke. It sucked only seeing my dad every other weekend. (joint custody my @ss) But my mom was an amazing parent and I remind her of that often. I hope I'm never on the other end.




<< Life is too short to not chase your dreams....... >>



We'll be chasing them right into Vegas babeee!!

 

[Doomguy]

Nature never intended for men and women to get married. The thought of that is laughable. People have to really accept that.

 

[WombatWoman]

After nineteen years of marriage, I was divorced on my 51st birthday, February 10, 1999. But now my ex-husband and I are again living together. He is my housekeeper, my cook, my home health aide, and my friend. We do everything that happily married couples do, except share physical intimacy. I suppose this is evidence that odd people tend to have odd relationships.

 

[FiddleDD]

Womby Mommy...where ya been? Good to see you..I was worried when I didn't hear from you in a long time. You doing ok?

Hugs,

 

[WombatWoman]

Hi, Fiddle kiddle!
Your absence has been noticed, also. These guys just don't appreciate us till we're gone.

 

[sawdust]

divorced and proud of it, we stayed together for all the wrong reasons. if you stay together for the kids and their is no love, believe me they can see right through it!!

 

[dennilfloss]

Been divorced 5 years. My ex-wife and I ended up teaching at 2 separate universities 1000 miles apart, seeing each other twice a year for a few weeks each time. My illness scuttled all hope of me contributing to our project of a big house, etc... She fell in love with another faculty member in her department and I decided to let her go so that she could be happy. We have remained very close friends.

You Need A Mess Of Help To Stand Alone (Beach Boys)

 

[Fathom4]

WW and Fiddle good to see you two again.

Hope you're feeling well WW

I'm just having a great old time tonight. First trip to the grocery store since we separated last weekend. OUCH That really hurts when you need....well, everything. The kids will hate it when they come next weekend 'cause I stocked up on fresh fruits and veggies and not a bunch of crap.

Ah life just never gets dull.

 

[Isla]

I like you more and more, WW

My husband and I are odd, too... and our relationship is, well, odd.

Life is oh so very strange.

 

[Jewelee]

I'm not divorced yet. But I'm going to be.....