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Poll: Have you ever been a "friend w/ benefits?"

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WhoDeeny

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We've all heard of them, so of us have even been one or don't believe in them? Why don't you tell us your side?
 
Of course, but it never really works out because one of us always ends up falling for the other and the other person never wanted a relationship in the first place. It happens all the time, so i've stopped that type of relationship. Although my fiance had a lot to do with me stopping, since she frowns upon me having f@ck friends.
 
yes.... been in a couple of those relationships....




<< Although my fiance had a lot to do with me stopping, since she frowns upon me having f@ck friends. >>




lol
 
No such thing. If you're "friends with benefits" with more than one person, you're just sleeping around (or cheating). If you're "friends with benefits" with one person, you're in a relationship. Note: This is not to be confused with dating around before any "benefits" start, but if you're getting "benefits" without some kind of committment I really think you ought to step back and take a long look at your life and think about maybe, just maybe living above the neck for a while.

ZV
 


<< Have you ever been a "friend w/ benefits?" >>


You punk! It was just yesterday...you forgot already?!
😉
 
I've always wondered what it would be like to have casual sex with someone.... Guess I'll never know. Oh well.
 
Yep, but it didn't last. She started get all clingy and telling people I was her boyfriend. I promptly set that straight and had to quit talking to her altogether; she got freaky about the whole situation.
 
not for sex, just for hooking up... of course, with any friend w/benefits, one of us decided they want more than just friends... and then that led to a mess. (it wasnt me)
 


<< No such thing. If you're "friends with benefits" with more than one person, you're just sleeping around (or cheating). If you're "friends with benefits" with one person, you're in a relationship. Note: This is not to be confused with dating around before any "benefits" start, but if you're getting "benefits" without some kind of committment I really think you ought to step back and take a long look at your life and think about maybe, just maybe living above the neck for a while.

ZV >>



I don't agree with this at all. The whole basis behind it all is that you ARE NOT DATING, which makes it impossible to be cheating. If you're opertaing under any other pretenses then its not "friends with benefits." As fo rthe rest of it, that whole sitatuoin is mutual my friend, a win/win sitaution. If for some reason that's not within your realm of conscious, then that would be why I'm doing it and you're not!

(heh-heh, he said "doing it")
 


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<< Have you ever been a "friend w/ benefits?" >>


You punk! It was just yesterday...you forgot already?!
😉 >>



Doh! My bad! 😛

I think its entirely possible for this ellusive animal to exist ("friends with benefits" that truly works) as I've been there myself. But, as I'm sensing this is the general consensus, they don't normally work. The trouble with that is, someone probably already wanted more upfront but then when finding out that that's all the other wanted, settled for just that (confuseded yet?). So you see in that situation, it was doomed from the giddy up...
 
yes I have, altough it was like we were going out, well, maybe it wasn't. I don't really know, thats the problem with having friends with benefits, you don't really know what is going on. About a month later she freaked out and decided that we should stay friends 🙁
 
yes this is how i lost my virginity a cuple months later i asked her out she said yes 6monthes later i broke up with her. now shes kinda weird and we are kinda friends with benefits although its been a cuple weeks since i got any and she hasn't gave it up so i'm ignoring her for a little bit.
 
No dis on you younger guys, but this tends to work better with people a bit older (but not always) like late 20's to early 30's. Most girls (and guys, too!) in their late teens and early 20's are barely capable of managing a decent relationship at that age, let alone one more complex like this...
 
I'm wondering how something like that gets started.

do you just go up to your best friend and start taking her clothes off?
or do you just go up to your friend and say "lets do it..."
 
<<As for the rest of it, that whole sitatuoin is mutual my friend, a win/win sitaution.>>

Personally, I look at it as a lose/lose situation even if it's mutual. I honestly don't care if other people do this, but I wouldn't be caught dead doing something like that. I may be a throwback for thinking this way but I prefer to be in a relationship with someone before, "benefits". I don't have a problem with the whole premarital thing, but I prefer to only be with one person at a time. I'd rather connect mentally with a woman than physically. Physical connections fade, mental connections don't.

ZV
 


<< <<As for the rest of it, that whole sitatuoin is mutual my friend, a win/win sitaution.>>

Personally, I look at it as a lose/lose situation even if it's mutual. I honestly don't care if other people do this, but I wouldn't be caught dead doing something like that. I may be a throwback for thinking this way but I prefer to be in a relationship with someone before, "benefits". I don't have a problem with the whole premarital thing, but I prefer to only be with one person at a time. I'd rather connect mentally with a woman than physically. Physical connections fade, mental connections don't.

ZV >>



He's a keeper ladies!

Well put, ZV!
 
Yes, I was. She wasn't local to my area (3 hour drive), and I'm not with her now because I'm with my current g/f. However, I might see her again in the future 🙂

At the time, it actually worked out well. We're both the same age (now 33), and were both mature about it. We even talked about other relationships we were in the middle of..

-j
 


<< Yes, I was. She wasn't local to my area (3 hour drive), and I'm not with her now because I'm with my current g/f. However, I might see her again in the future 🙂

At the time, it actually worked out well. We're both the same age (now 33), and were both mature about it. We even talked about other relationships we were in the middle of..

-j >>



See, it can happen!
 
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