POLL for 20 somethings: Would it bother you if the girl you're dating told you that she's been pregnant before, but

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: RBachman

Originally posted by: Agaruvala
Abortion = no

Miscarriage = No

BOTH means shes been preg and thats a no no in the 20's. Most of you said if she had kid thens no, but if both others then yes. WTF if she had the two other she was about to have a kid. Same thing in my mind.

She has high mileage and has been driven hard, buyer beware

:laugh: Yeah, that or failed one time to use a prophylactic (or had one fail on her). And you honestly don't see the difference between a corrected mistake and having to raise some other guy's kids?

But good luck finding a wealthy virginal supermodel who, once she experiences your 2" of love, will want only to have sex with you day and night. I love ATOT :laugh:

seems a lot of atot expects that to fall into their lap like life owes it to them.

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: AmdEmAll
Yes but I don't know why

I'm kind of the same way, however if she's 21, it's not cool with me that she's already been pregnant.

 

[anxi80]

been there done that (dated a girl who had a miscarriage and a girl who has had an abortion). the past is the past, and i dont let that eat away at me. so obviously no it wouldnt bother me in the least.

Originally posted by: gigapet
why happened before me is nothing I care much about.

^ bingo!

 

[musicman87]

i don't prefer another man's used furniture

 

[LinuxIdiot]

Originally posted by: anxi80
been there done that (dated a girl who had a miscarriage and a girl who has had an abortion). the past is the past, and i dont let that eat away at me. so obviously no it wouldnt bother me in the least.

Originally posted by: gigapet
why happened before me is nothing I care much about.

^ bingo!

I agree, while dating someone that had a miscarriage or an abortion would lead to trepidation as some people take it differently and you might have emotional baggage to deal with YMMV of course. I dated a girl who had an abortion before I dated her due to not being able to support the child and the father just disappeared after finding out *piece of crap guy* and she regrets it still to this day, but I am not going to cause her more grief due to a decision she regrets by dumping her due to it.

We were together around 8 months and it came up maybe 2 or 3 times, which ended up in a conversation into religion and our beliefs, with my belief being hey its your body, your future, you hold the swing vote of what to do, no matter what I want to do.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: musicman87
i don't prefer another man's used furniture

Get used to disappointment...

 

[Cooler]

no aslong as she has no kids.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: AbAbber2k
No. And I can honestly answer because it HAS happened to me. She told me like 4 or 5 months into the relationship. I thought she timed it fairly well... a month or two earlier and I might have taken it a little differently... it's hard to say. Just wait until you date someone and you find out they've been raped or beaten.

every girl I've ever dated has told me that. I think women make up stories about being raped and beaten. I'd be shocked if more than 45% of all reported rapes were real.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: AmdEmAll
Yes but I don't know why

I'm kind of the same way, however if she's 21, it's not cool with me that she's already been pregnant.

yah....I mean, it'd bother me, only because I'd worry that I had been insensative about stuff I had said before....and what if the guy it was with comes back around.

 

[Iron Woode]

Originally posted by: Mears
had a miscarriage?

My exGF had a miscarriage at 21 years old (I was 25). It was a very traumatic experience for the both of us as we had broken up 2 weeks before she found out she was pregnant.

I still bothers me to this day.

 

[Mears]

Originally posted by: sygyzy
Did she intend on keeping the baby if there was no miscarriage?

No...well, I guess I don't know. She said she didn't want to have it and went so far to visit an abortion clinic. She said the miscarriage was a blessing.